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Posted by Jost on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:42
In reply to Re: Mid East situation- » Gabbi~G, posted by corafree on July 22, 2006, at 18:10:37
> I feel attacked.
>
> cfI'm sorry you feel attacked, Corafree.
I'm not attacking you. My only intention was to clear up what seemed like a misunderstanding.
That's why I said that I thought there was an innocent set of associations. It's not your fault that you made the association. That kind of thing happens-- because language is such a tricky and complex thing.
I wanted to make sure that it was clear what the meaning of the phrase "sitting shiv'a" was.
I also wanted to say that that there is too much suffering on all sides in the situation, but I don't want us to forget that Israelis are suffering also.
Jost
Posted by Gabbi~G on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:42
In reply to Re: Mid East situation- » Gabbi~G, posted by corafree on July 22, 2006, at 18:10:37
Oh no! I'm so sorry if I made you feel that way, I was actually thinkng a few minutes ago that I should respond to your post I wantéd too! I could really relate to the "HIM!" and I was wondering if I should start a new thread about that alone so I was just mulling it over.
there was no animosity in my post whatsoever!
Posted by corafree on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:42
In reply to Re: Mid East situation- » corafree, posted by Jost on July 22, 2006, at 18:35:07
<I wanted to make sure that it was clear what the meaning of the phrase "sitting shiv'a" was.>
You made sure. Your reaction felt like a response to offense. I am ignorant and was trying to understand something. I had no intent to offend at all.
As far as my beliefs about 'a knife' ... I believe in rebirth, so maybe it will come down to knives. I can't even recall what you said about the word, shiv, right now.
I know now you're very involved here, on a level I don't know, and probably can't know unless it was explained in great detail to me. I don't belong to an organized religion. I'm not a historian or theologion.
Remember there are some like me. Just a girl who grew up, married, raised children, made some mistakes.
Maybe I shouldn't have interacted here.
Honestly, do you think 'I should become involved.'? ... or, do you think 'Those that are not currently on this/that side, should stay neutral.'? I'm not asking you to educate me, but would appreciate it if you would share a gentle opinion.
I'm asking you if you think I should get off the fence in the midst of a crisis on both sides of me of which I no too little about, or stay where I am.
This has made me wonder what I should be doing.
<I also wanted to say that that there is too much suffering on all sides in the situation, but I don't want us to forget that Israelis are suffering also.>
I already would have agreed with you.
plsoverlookgrammerverbiage, cf
Posted by Phillipa on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:42
In reply to Re: Mid East situation- » Jost, posted by corafree on July 22, 2006, at 20:43:39
Wow the topic has changed from the initial thread. But thanks gg for explaining sitting shiva. Love Phillipa
Posted by Gabbi~G on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:42
In reply to Re: Mid East situation- » Gabbi~G, posted by Jost on July 22, 2006, at 18:18:07
> Thanks, Gabbi-G. I agree completely with what you said. I wish I did have a deeper, or more encompassing, understanding what was happening and why.
>You're very welcome.
I wish I had a deeper understanding too.
It's kind of hard knowing how little you know.
I'm always surprised that people can discuss a situation passionately from what they've heard on the evening news.
I've often been criticized for not being "interested" in politics, it's not that at all, it's just that when someone asks me what I think, except about my personal ethics, I generally answer "How could I possibly know why people do what they do?"
It doesn't mean I'm not passionate about learning all I can, but how could I think I could I comprehend a religion, or belief system that is thousands of years old, from over here?
> I looked up the etymology of "shiv" also and found some very interesting information about the Romany (or Romani) language of European gypsies, which I didn't know about. Fascinating.
>
>That's something I could study forever, it is fascinating. I think I was 18 when I learned that so many of our "bad" words were perfectly acceptable words in other cultures, but when the culture or belief system was overpowered by another, everything about it was made out to be immoral or heretical. That changed the way I look at everything.
and sometimes it gives me a headache :[
It was nice talking to you Jost
Posted by Gabbi~G on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:42
In reply to Re: whoops, that's God not Goddess » Gabbi~G, posted by corafree on July 22, 2006, at 2:26:44
> Tks Gabbi~G for explaination there.
>
> You totally understood what I'd meant in saying 'being destroyed'.
>Yeah exactly, it was cool that you questioned that it may not mean *bad*
I wouldn't have questioned that until after I started actually studying religion on my own.> Wish I'd taken theology (I wanted to.) before I married him and married hIm and met Him and married hiM and met h_im.
>Yeah, I didn't even graduate high school.
I took one fascinating course in college though, and just did my own reading from there.
> "Angel huddle, group hug, move in" (Talking to myself and gesturing)(?)
>
> HeatDeranged, cfOh yeah
Me too..Anyway, not much to do with politics, but I wanted to respond.
Posted by corafree on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:42
In reply to Re: Mid East situation-Jay, Phillipa, Coraf, and, posted by Jost on July 22, 2006, at 16:42:26
I felt attacked, by you, Jost.
cf
Posted by corafree on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:42
In reply to Re: Mid East situation- » Jost, posted by Gabbi~G on July 22, 2006, at 17:12:26
I felt attacked, but not by you, Gabbi~G.
I'm sorry.
I wasn't thinking to uncheck the 'add name of previous poster' box (I have made this mistake at least twice now!), or to go back and follow up to Jost's post.
cf
Posted by Jost on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:42
In reply to Re: Mid East situation- » Gabbi~G, posted by corafree on July 23, 2006, at 21:29:19
Corafree, I said yesterday that I was sorry if you felt attacked.
I'm also sorry that my apology didn't help your bad feelings.
I'm not sure what I can do, but if there are specific things, please let me know.
I hope that it did not seem that I attacked anyone. Certainly that wasn't my intention.
Jost
Posted by corafree on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:42
In reply to Re: Mid East situation- » corafree, posted by Jost on July 23, 2006, at 22:57:27
I've thought about this since last night(?) and wondered about our interaction. I don't think I was focusing well yesterday and feel I may have acted selfishly.
You're obviously very concerned about this awful war because you are more knowledgeable of this situation and 'can feel' the strife.
I am not accomplished at 'reading between the lines'. I spill my guts all over the place, and forget that many people with just as much to spill, handle it differently.
So I'm sorry also, but I didn't get a post from you after my 'too lengthy' explanation of my ignorance.
Did something go wrong w/ the move from Social to Politics?
I have no relatives, friends, or acquaitances from the Middle East, or that are of these religions. I watched CNN this morning trying to educate myself. I'm surprised at the enormity of power coming from a movement I'd not heard of until a few days ago.
My life has been a stress-mess for at least 10yrs and I've been consumed 'in my world'.
tks, cf
Posted by llrrrpp on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:43
In reply to Re: Mid East situation- » Jost, posted by corafree on July 24, 2006, at 3:03:26
Now the strife comes home.
On the local news are Arabs and Jews from a nearby community who gathered to protest/support the happenings in the middle east. And I can hear hatred on both sides. These are Americans, living in America, calling for the death of other Americans. Why does the reasoning for their violent retributions sound so juvenile? Am I missing something? What happened to live and let live? Forgiveness?
I don't know what the Jewish & Muslim equivalents of
"An eye for an eye"
and
"Turn the other cheek" are
But surely these great religions have something to say regarding revenge vs. acceptance?
I'm always confused about where religion stops and where politics starts. This conflict perhaps is more confusing to me than others.
Too much suffering. Too much terror. Does it make sense to *anyone?*
Posted by Jost on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:43
In reply to Re: Mid East situation- » Jost, posted by corafree on July 24, 2006, at 3:03:26
Hi, Cf,
Thanks for your last post.
I didn't answer your longer (but not "too long") message yesterday, because I wasn't sure what to say. In rereading it, I realize you asked directly for a response. My not responding wasn't from a wish to further offend you.
I'm glad you watched CNN, even though the situation is bad, because it's worth the effort, at times, to be aware of things in the world. Of course, there are times when one doesn't have the emotional energy, or time, or it's too depressing, and would be worse to know, and not worth it.
I'm sorry to hear that your life has been stressful to such an extent. You seem thoughtful and interesting, and I hope things are and will be getting better over time.
Your opinion, whatever it is, is respected by me, nor should you take any sides you aren't comfortable taking.
Possibly my original message seemed overly intense.
There was an underlying sense in what had been written by one or two people, but not by you, of a possible reaction of less sympathy for some in the Middle East than for others. I hope that it was mostly out of having their attention turned in a certain direction, than any conscious intention.
I was sensitive to certain things and wanted to make some comment.
I'm glad you interacted, even if there were misunderstandings, since that's always part of connecting, and can lead to better understanding in the future.
Jost
Posted by Declan on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:43
In reply to Re: Mid East situation- » corafree, posted by Jost on July 24, 2006, at 10:48:58
Hey Jost
Here's my early morning effort to grasp the nettle.
Through various wars and the performance of their leaderships, a people has lost its land, and the bitterness of this influences the politics of the entire region.
How about that?
Declan
Posted by corafree on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:43
In reply to Re: Mid East situation- » corafree, posted by Jost on July 22, 2006, at 18:35:07
<I'm sorry you feel attacked, Corafree.>
My mistake.
Yes you did apologize. Thank you so much.
Now, I also do recall receiving this post. Sorry Dinah, I believe.
bestwishes, cf
Posted by AuntieMel on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:43
In reply to Re: Mid East situation-Jay, Phillipa, Coraf, and, posted by Jost on July 22, 2006, at 16:42:26
I always like to boil "self defense" down to "who fired first.""
Though some would like to take it back a couple of thousand years...
I prefer the "who fired first" rule to be more recent.
Thus - in my mind
Afghanistan - we were attacked first - I supported this one.
Iraq - we weren't attacked - we should have left them aloneAnd the current problem? Israel was invaded and has a right to respond.
My opinion, for what it's worth.
Posted by AuntieMel on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:43
In reply to Re: Mid East situation- » Jost, posted by Gabbi~G on July 23, 2006, at 14:37:09
And a lot of what we consider polite words were once considered cursing.
Like 'jeepers'
Posted by Declan on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:43
In reply to Re: Mid East situation-Jay, Phillipa, Coraf, and » Jost, posted by AuntieMel on July 25, 2006, at 15:51:39
is a good question. Usually you take it as far back as someone has muscle to make you.
What do you think of the idea that Israel has fallen into Hizbullah's(sp?) trap?
I imagine you saying 'Some trap!'
Is this about Iran's nuclear program? I see Pakistan has a new plutonium reactor, or something.
Declan
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:43
In reply to Re: What I feel sums up the Mid East situation » Jay, posted by Phillipa on July 20, 2006, at 12:08:58
> So who is to blame over there?
Just a reminder, it tends to be more civil if you put things in terms of what others might do better rather than what they did "wrong". And to talk about how you feel rather than what someone else did, in other words, to use I-statements.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Thanks,
Bob
Posted by AuntieMel on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:43
In reply to 'How far do you take it back' » AuntieMel, posted by Declan on July 25, 2006, at 17:03:44
But was it a trap?
Or were they remembering that the last few times they did a kidnapping there *was* a trade for prisoners.
There's no way to take it back to the 'beginning' - humans have be waundering the globe and fighting over territory since pre-history.
Take it back a couple of hundred years? Then most americans would have to leave for somewhere.
How 'bout if we just say - hey the music has stopped. Whatever chair you're in is yours.
Posted by Declan on July 26, 2006, at 23:23:43
In reply to Re: 'How far do you take it back' » Declan, posted by AuntieMel on July 26, 2006, at 17:22:38
G'day
I was thinking about this, and often we take it back to our earlest memories. So Hizbullah is really recent for me, came in in the 80s, didn't it?
There was an article reprinted from Ha'rrets(sp??) which claimed it was a trap. Hizbullah is looking long term...this will be going on long after we are both dead, I think. The point for them is to radicalise the islamic world, and have they not been successful in that? But the article was talking geopolitics, with Russia and Iran brokering a ceasefire in return for no contest over Iran's nuclear reactor. Of course it might very well not pan out that way. But the G8 didn't concentrate on Iran, and I wonder if Iran will be able to do it now. Pincer movements all over the place. We shall see what happens. Lebanon is only a small part of it (I think).
Declan
Posted by AuntieMel on July 27, 2006, at 10:03:16
In reply to Re: 'How far do you take it back', posted by Declan on July 26, 2006, at 17:50:23
Lebanon may seem small, but didn't WWI start over the assasination of an archduke?
Sometimes, if people are itching for a fight anyway, it doesn't take much.
This is giving ammunition to the 'wipe Israel off the earth crowd. AlJazeera isn't trying to look unbiased these days.
Iran's president is one of that crowd, and they supplied some of the missles being used in this conflict. Imagine if they had nukes?
It can't be all about generating power. We offered them nuclear power technology - free - if they swore off enrichment and they said no.
Posted by Declan on July 27, 2006, at 14:13:22
In reply to Re: 'How far do you take it back' » Declan, posted by AuntieMel on July 27, 2006, at 10:03:16
No, of course Iran wants a bomb. The region is a tinder box. And it's between Afghanistan and Iraq.
More people (soldiers?) have been dying in Iraq than Lebanon. Hizbullah has become the hero of the day among the Islamic world for taking on Israel (win or loose is irrelevant. Everyone knows you don't f*ck with Israel. That's why they did it).
This may have something to do with the Shia/Sunni divide. The conservative Arab regimes are feeling uncomfortable. I wonder if the long term aim of Hizbullah is directed at those regimes, not so much Israel?
A diplomatic solution? What does that mean? It's nice when we can hear how some of the leaders actually think (Yo Blair).
I fear we are in for a lifetime of Middle East peace process.
Posted by tealady on July 29, 2006, at 3:33:29
In reply to Re: 'How far do you take it back' » AuntieMel, posted by Declan on July 27, 2006, at 14:13:22
> I fear we are in for a lifetime of Middle East peace process.
>
>Hi Declan,
Just reading a bit of the end of this thread.
I sure hope its a lot longer than a lifetime !!!
gee, that could imply the end of the world .. though I know you didn't mean it ;-),
'Twould be only "lasting a lifetime" for all though...
gee I read things the wrong way.How many thousands of years has it been unsettled there? before Moses, the Assyrians.. lots of battles known about..
All started before Muslim when you think about it.I just hope it stays relatively peaceful with only a few flares here and there..and doesn't spread worldwide too much.. especially this way.
Posted by Declan on July 29, 2006, at 12:51:19
In reply to Re: 'How far do you take it back' » Declan, posted by tealady on July 29, 2006, at 3:33:29
G'day Jan
Positioned between the fuel hungry economies of the West, Russia, China and India, with an enraged population some of whom would be only to happy to set things alight, with complicated politics and group loyalties, each after an external backer......This looks like a pre WWI situation to me.
I hope our rulers do not get any more flashes of optimism.
Declan
Posted by Jay on July 29, 2006, at 23:49:34
In reply to Re: Mid East situation-Jay, Phillipa, Coraf, and, posted by Jost on July 22, 2006, at 16:42:26
Hey..listen...I am right now in the middle of some very deep personal problems...and have been through some you could likely never understand, and don't appreciate anyone acting as my spell-checker. Second, I absolutely did not infer blame to any of the sides that where/are fighting in the region. All's I said, basically, is it is just damn horrible...all of it...death, in every corner. If you can't appreciate that, well I am very sorry.
Jay
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