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Posted by antigua3 on September 10, 2007, at 18:25:43
I can't eat, nothing looks good, and it's certainly not healthy given that I have anemia.
Any ideas?
thanks,
antigua
Posted by karen_kay on September 10, 2007, at 19:55:39
In reply to I'm having trouble eating, posted by antigua3 on September 10, 2007, at 18:25:43
i wish i could help you!
i hope someone else here does (i really hope that statement doesn't come out the wrong way!!!!! really really really!!!!). i've been struggling with the same thign for a while now and haven't seemed to find anything that works yet.
do you know why at least? is it stress, meds, combo of both, somethign else?
maybe we could help eachother and be 'eating partners'? the 5 lbs i put on recently, i seemed to have dropped again, just over the weekend. and i've even dropped my coffee intake.
i dunno, not tryign to turn this into 'me me me...' i'm sorry. jsut saying 'i hear you, i sympathize, and maybe we can figure out soemthign together?'
Posted by antigua3 on September 11, 2007, at 6:57:48
In reply to ((((((((((antigua3))))), posted by karen_kay on September 10, 2007, at 19:55:39
You are so sweet. Thank you. I'll be your eating parnter.
My kids have even noticed. "Now, Mom, you know breakfast is the most important meal of the day."
(So keep in mind that little duckie may come back to bite you one day!)Seriously, I've dropped about 20 lbs in the past year, and while that is good, I definitely could afford to lose it, now it's in a cycle where I just don't want to eat, actually can't eat.
Stress? yes, health issues, which make it even more important for me to eat. Therapy? You betcha; I think that's the root of it. I just read "The Body Never Lies" by Alice Miller (someone had recommended it) and it hit me hard. I've always known that my not eating has been a self-punishment, a form of control over past csa issues I had no control over. But I'm defeating the purpose.
I wonder if it's manipulative, too. Like I'm screaming "Pay attention to me, can't you see what's happening?" I remember once as a teenager that I dropped to 75 lbs (I'm not a very big person) and nobody noticed or offered a helping hand--bad home life.
I hate this.
What should we have for breakfast?
thanks for writing,
antigua
Posted by karen_kay on September 11, 2007, at 20:33:34
In reply to Re: ((((((((((antigua3))))) ***csa trugger*** » karen_kay, posted by antigua3 on September 11, 2007, at 6:57:48
what's that mean? it could be the topamax, or my blasted black hole called my brain, but i don't know what that means or have forgotten it.
i know i already feel duck's suffering. if he doesn't eat a whole lot, i wonder, 'is it my fault?' i worry he's getting scurvy and give him my 'old lady drinks' (ensure). he tries to feed me from his high chair (which is normal i'm sure, but i stil take it to heart, you know?). and i'll not even talk about him pulling out the scale from the restroom adn standing on it :( and he's not even 2 years old. buuuuuttttt, i'm weird.
i know my medication makes for a decreased appetite, but when i was on it before, i didn't drop this much weight. i usually stuck to a couple meals a day and stayed easily 10 -15 lbs heavier than i am now. i keep tryign to blame stress, but i don't know if that's the cause or not. i think the more i obsess over it, the worse it gets for me.
maybe like you said, i'm wanting people to notice 'hey, i'm here! someone notice there's something not right'??? then again, i don't know. i honestly don't. i just can't eat. even when my anxiety is down, i can't eat. i tend to overanalyze everything. maybe i'm trying to disappear or something? i wish i knew what it was!
my eating habits are like this, i simply don't/can't eat until around 10 pm. if i eat before that, for some odd reason, i can't eat again that day. i don't have a hunger for sweets and i really used to enjoy chocolate. and my diet consists mainly of coffee and cigarettes. nothing else sounds good, and the only reason i eat usually is to choke down a vitamin without getting sick.
sweetie, i understand what you're going throuhg, i really do. maybe jsut sharing will help? is it hard for you to eat in front of others? or, do you weigh yourself often, to see about putting on weight (i know i obsess about putting it on, and then am disappointed to find i've lost it again. a friend pointed out the weight i put on may have been water weight from 'cycle')?
maybe an open discussion will be beneficial for both of us?
Posted by antigua3 on September 14, 2007, at 18:29:31
In reply to csa? » antigua3, posted by karen_kay on September 11, 2007, at 20:33:34
childhood sexual abuse, dear.
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