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Posted by Emily Elizabeth on August 31, 2006, at 22:46:24
Okay, there is soooo much talk on these boards about civility, (and I usually just ignore it)but this is something that keeps coming up for me. I find it really hurtful when people say things like, "I don't want to take XXX med because I don't want to get FAT." Really, it is like saying that people who are heavier/overweight/etc. are bad and unacceptbale. People come in all shapes and sizes and it hurts to see distain for this one type.
I'm not refering to when people express their feelings about themselves. That is somehow different. It should be okay for people to write about their pain/frustration/anxiety about their own weight. (Like this whole board for instance). I'm talking about saying something that has the feel of, "I am thin now so I am better than all of you who are not. I don't want to take this drug and become like you."
Anyone see where I am coming from?
Best,
EE
Posted by Racer on September 1, 2006, at 12:13:40
In reply to Anyone else find this uncivil?, posted by Emily Elizabeth on August 31, 2006, at 22:46:24
Yeah, I do see where you're coming from, and have to agree with you -- although I'm certainly guilty of the "I won't take [x], because of weight gain," too. I know what you mean, though, about feeling as though a number of people who say that do seem to convey a sense that they don't want to be as awful as I am, since I'm fat.
(Of course, I became at least twenty pounds heavier on Wednesday, after two rough sessions in a row -- individual and marriage on the same day -- so how large/small I am is not a question I can answer. At least I recognized -- if only intellectually -- that my actual weight hadn't changed in that time. Only my experience of it changed...)
(The scary part for me, though, is that I know -- again, intellectually -- that I'm underweight again. Not below 85% at this time, but underweight. And yet, I feel so bloomin' huge! I hate hate hate hate it.)
(I guess I'm just nuts, huh?)
I don't know if I'm exactly the audience you were addressing this to, but those are some of my thoughts after reading your post. I'm sorry I made it about me, though.
Posted by Emily Elizabeth on September 1, 2006, at 12:53:50
In reply to Re: Anyone else find this uncivil?, posted by Racer on September 1, 2006, at 12:13:40
Thanks for replying Racer. It feels good to know I'm not alone. I always enjoy your posts.
Weight issues are high on my mind right now b/c I had to buy pants a size larger than usual. I think my med (Effexor, I think) is making me eat more and put on weight. I'm trying to be okay-ish with it. I mean, feeling better but heavier is better than feeling suicidal, right? It is just darn hard.
Also, I know that if my mother ever found out that I'm wearing the size that I am she would freak. She already is constantly telling me things like I would find a husband if I'd lose weight. Nice, huh? I can't imagine why I have body image issues...
Sigh.
Best,
EE
Posted by Racer on September 1, 2006, at 18:28:20
In reply to Re: Anyone else find this uncivil?, posted by Emily Elizabeth on September 1, 2006, at 12:53:50
> I think my med (Effexor, I think) is making me eat more and put on weight. I'm trying to be okay-ish with it. I mean, feeling better but heavier is better than feeling suicidal, right?
I know you're not trying to blame yourself for the weight gain, but there really and truly may be a good deal going on with the Effexor. Some studies have shown it causes changes to blood sugar regulation. I know it increased my blood sugar a LOT -- over 200 at least once, which is way beyond anything in the normal range. The ONLY time I've ever experienced that is on Effexor, and it wasn't just weight related/metabolic syndrome X stuff.
My advice is always to talk to your doctor about what's going on, and if it's weight related, take in a food diary.
And I'm glad you can see that the drugs are benefitting you, and work on coming to terms with that. I can't at all right now, and get very, very upset when I try. I'm not sure my T knows what to do -- she's making the right noises, and I'm just not responding well to them. {shrug} Sorry -- this ain't about me...
Anyway, I'm glad your meds are working, and that you're feeling better. I'll cross my fingers for you it stays that way!
Posted by Meri-Tuuli on October 24, 2006, at 13:07:00
In reply to Um... » Emily Elizabeth, posted by Racer on September 1, 2006, at 18:28:20
Just to add another perspective on the topic....
There are some people on these boards who say they refuse to take a med because it makes them skinnier - they already look too skinny they feel.
I'm guessing that most of these are young men!
But yes, I agree it with you, it is somehow offensive to say 'I won't take [x] beause I don't want to get fat'. But then, the skinny people say 'I don't want to take [x] because I don't want to get more skinny'. That, too, is sort of offensive to skinny people.
So perhaps it just depends on your point of view. Skinny is seen as desireable in some people, in others, not. And I guess this means that if you hear 'I don't want to take [x] because I will get skinny/fat', then its your view of which is worse, rather than the actual statement that is offensive.
Kind regards
Meri
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