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Posted by Sonya on October 14, 2005, at 7:52:09
Maxime and Racer...thank you for telling me about how to boost metabolism by occasionally eating more calories. Well, it worked! I finally broke the plateau and now I'm 3 lbs from my goal. I now have to be extra diligent but at least I realize that I can *cheat* maybe one day a week.
You guys are the best!
Sonya
Posted by Maxime on October 15, 2005, at 0:17:41
In reply to Broke the plateau, posted by Sonya on October 14, 2005, at 7:52:09
I'm glad you are happy. Although I have to admit I feel guilty for telling you something that will make you lose weight and possibly worsen your ED.
Maxime
> Maxime and Racer...thank you for telling me about how to boost metabolism by occasionally eating more calories. Well, it worked! I finally broke the plateau and now I'm 3 lbs from my goal. I now have to be extra diligent but at least I realize that I can *cheat* maybe one day a week.
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> You guys are the best!
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> Sonya
Posted by Sonya on October 15, 2005, at 14:00:00
In reply to Re: Broke the plateau » Sonya, posted by Maxime on October 15, 2005, at 0:17:41
Oh, Maxime. I certainly didn't intend to make you feel guilty. Please forgive me...
Even though I'm restricting, I'm eating healthy when I do eat (eggs, salmon, tuna, oatmeal, fruit, vegetables/salads). I lost another lb since yesterday morning.
Posted by Racer on October 15, 2005, at 21:36:56
In reply to Re: Broke the plateau » Maxime, posted by Sonya on October 15, 2005, at 14:00:00
LoL! Remember when I wrote that you didn't gain two pounds in a weekend? You also didn't lose a pound in a day. Just can't happen -- it takes longer than that for anything to be 'real.'
And I agree with Maxie about the guilt thing. Please tell me that you've got a therapist you're discussing this with? It doesn't matter what you eat, or how 'healthy' what you're eating is, because you can't be eating healthy at anything less than 1200 calories per day. Period. Anything less than that is considered partial starvation. (Maxie knows this, too, although she's bucking for a spanking from me about it.)
I hope you do get help for your ED.
Heck, if nothing else, I've gained nearly to my target weight, and feel fatter than a hippopotamus. If I have to be miserable, y'all oughta keep me company in it, right?
Posted by Sonya on October 16, 2005, at 14:04:28
In reply to Re: Broke the plateau » Sonya, posted by Racer on October 15, 2005, at 21:36:56
Last night I had my sister and her family over and my Mom and Dad. My Mom said I look like my 'old self' (that's a huge compliment; my Mom's very much into appearances). My husband is much more attracted to me since I've lost the weight. He brags to friends and family about how great I look. My friends and female co-workers tell me I look great. EVERYONE says I look terrific. With that kind of reinforcement, what am I supposed to do? This is awful...I feel like I'm not in control at all. I always feel shakey; my legs feel like rubber. I've dropped from a size 12 jean to a size 8. I see my T this Wed and will broach the subject but I don't hold out much hope. I really hate that my life is all about weight and food.
Posted by Racer on October 16, 2005, at 16:07:45
In reply to Ok, here's the thing... » Racer, posted by Sonya on October 16, 2005, at 14:04:28
The part about 'I really hate that my life is all about weight and food.'
That weakness is something you really should be listening to, by the way. That's said as someone who's experienced the same sort of thing, and it can be dangerous.
As for other people? When I was 50 pounds underweight, had lost about half the hair on my head, grown hair on my face, was lost to the world in AN -- people kept telling me how great I looked. You really can't let that influence you, because it's your body and your life that you're endangering. I know you're a bit older than I am, so you should certainly head out for a DEXA scan. Mine showed that I was on the cusp of osteoporosis, and that I had already gotten shorter! Think about that. Think about how difficult it is to live your life with rubbery legs. Think about how you feel, rather than how other people think you look.
I wish I had an answer for you. I have to admit, I'm cringing about my own body, how I feel about everything now that my weight's up. I was thinking about it last night -- I felt so much better about myself thin, than I do now, even though I know that this is healthier for me. I wish it weren't so, but there it is. Eating disorders are hard things to treat, for all sorts of reasons, including the amount of support we get for being sick, all those people saying we look great, just because we're thin. I don't know what to say to you about it, beyond talking to your therapist about it -- and MAKING IT CLEAR that you're suffering with this, and that you're very ambivalent about it.
Good luck. You know that I'll post back to you wiht whatever I can offer, but I'm not sure that I've got anything much that's helpful right now.
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