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Posted by Racer on January 9, 2005, at 9:49:59
I guess I'm not really ready for recovery. This morning, my scale told me I had gained more weight, and I can't handle it. I'm freaking out and all I can think of is how to get it back off. I need to take it back off, because I just can't handle it at all.
How do people handle it when this happens? I'm still more than thirty pounds from my target weight, but I can't do this. I need to take off the weight that I've put on this week, even though it's supposed to be a good thing to gain it. How can I work through the ambivalence? Or is it OK to stay sick, as long as I don't go back to my lowest weight again?
Oh, just make it go away!
Posted by gardenergirl on January 9, 2005, at 16:20:50
In reply to Freaking out over weight gain, posted by Racer on January 9, 2005, at 9:49:59
Racer,
It's not okay to stay sick. It's NOT OKAY!
(sorry for shouting)You are not your weight. You are not even your body. You are a lovely, wise, attractive, charming, witty, educated, caring, creative, (and many many many other complimentary adjectives) soul.
Please respect and honor this soul by sticking with it. And let me know how I can help.
hugs,
gg
Posted by stresser on January 9, 2005, at 22:07:24
In reply to Freaking out over weight gain, posted by Racer on January 9, 2005, at 9:49:59
You are thirty pounds from your target weight meaning you need to gain? Please don't freak out either way. You're still you.....no matter what you weigh. Remember, you don't see yourself the way others do. First you must GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION to get over this illness. Why don't you try taking it one week at a time? Just say "for one week, I won't weigh myself, and I will eat like a normal person. At the end of that week, if I can't stand it anymore, I can weigh myself." When that time frame is over, try it again, and again..... You must give yourself permission...don't you deserve it? Of course you do! Go out and get the healthy body you deserve. You will have setbacks, everyone does, and it takes time. Expect that, but if you take it slowely and just have faith in yourself IT WILL WORK FOR YOU. I know it will, I have been very thin and afraid to gain....years ago. Working out helped me, gaining muscle and feeling fit is a great feeling. It changes everthing, they way you feel about yourself, they way you look, etc. That's how I got out of my being too-thin situation....it made me start thinking differently and the great thing was that I didn't mind it like I thought I would. My best to you. -L
Posted by TofuEmmy on January 9, 2005, at 22:42:00
In reply to Freaking out over weight gain, posted by Racer on January 9, 2005, at 9:49:59
When my brain tells me, "Emmy you are a $%&*@ and should die"....I know that's my sick depression addled brain talking. Depression talks like sailor, btw.
When your brain says, "I need to take off the weight that I've put on this week"...guess what? Yah babe, anorexia speaks. Please don't listen, K? And I won't listen to that sailor! :-)
Kisses, TButt
Posted by saw on January 10, 2005, at 6:20:51
In reply to Freaking out over weight gain, posted by Racer on January 9, 2005, at 9:49:59
I identify so deeply with this that I don't even know what to say to you.
I step on my scale every morning and feel just sick to the stomach when it hasn't moved down, or has moved up, and I haven't eaten much. I am 33lb overweight.
My thoughts are with you. I know just how you feel.
Sabrina
Posted by iris2 on January 15, 2005, at 20:10:35
In reply to Freaking out over weight gain, posted by Racer on January 9, 2005, at 9:49:59
It is not okay to stay sick. I do not have all the answers. Your weight is not YOU. Having complete control over your weight will never make you happy no matter how much weight you loose. Your mind is telling you that if you are in control of your weight and are at a very low weight that you are successful and therefore happy. Are you thinking about having control over other things in your life? In this illness we disregard reality, those objectives in life that we should strive for that could increase our happiness and instead focus only on an objective, that of being thin and "in control of our bodies" as the only objective to getting us happy because we do not realize that we are capable of achieving anything else toward this effort. Do you think you are an intelligent person? Are you pretty? Are you athletic? Are you a good friend? Etc. Do you have the self-esteem to believe enough in yourself to begin to recognize that you are in more control of your life than you are observing. That your happiness and success can be contingent upon succeeding in many other areas of life besides your weight? Many of us have low self esteem and therefore think the only way to achieve happiness and success is to be thin or even thinner than everyone else and to be in control of our weight at all times. We do not see ourselves as good enough to achieve other things in life to be happy. But we are intelligent beautiful people. And no matter how thin you get the reality is it will not make you happy because you are never addressing the real problems and needs you have. It is your mind deceiving you into thinking this one achievement will make you happy. When you have reached your "goal weight" in the past were you happy? Did you think you needed to loose yet more to be "happy". You can be in control of your life instead of your weight and perhaps that is how to begin not being so sick.
Good luck,
irene
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