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Posted by iris2 on December 7, 2004, at 12:48:50
I let my issues with my weight and body define my entire life. When I am not happy with my weight and/or body I am more depressed and isolate myself. I do not want to get dressed for the day or go out and be in public. I am not obese just realistically perhaps 5 pounds over weight and not in shape. I have had anorexia first than bulimia for 30 years. Will this ever stop. Please make it stop! I never feel like I am alive or myself in this life. I feel constantly tortured.
irene
Posted by Racer on December 7, 2004, at 14:14:42
In reply to Weight issues defining Life, posted by iris2 on December 7, 2004, at 12:48:50
You know what's funny? When I read your post, I had all sorts of wonderful ideas -- "well, here's how you can make it stop..." Things like learning a more generous view of your body, etc.
In other words, all the things I can't do for myself. Damn.
Seriously, though, it will only get better if you decide to make it get better. That's what I'm doing now, and it's horrible. I hate it so much, and don't want to do this anymore. You have no idea how much I hate this right now. But it's the only way anything will make a difference to it.
So, what I'm doing might or might not help you as a roadmap to how to get it started. I'm seeing a Registered Dietitian weekly to work on the eating directly; a therapist weekly -- going to twice a week during the holiday season -- to work on the issues underlying it as well as others; a pdoc for depression medications; an OB/GYN for some other health issues related to this, and I think that's it. Oh, nearly forgot, I also have a weekly appointment for a telephone session with a physicist, but I have no idea why that's part of my treatment, but he says it's vitally important ;-) (And yes, that is physicist, like a particle physicist, and it's a joke, although we do talk every Friday and we do joke that it's part of my treatment...)
I hope that might help a little, as far as what maybe could help?
Posted by iris2 on December 7, 2004, at 15:51:01
In reply to Re: Weight issues defining Life, posted by Racer on December 7, 2004, at 14:14:42
Thanks,
I hope you continue to get better. For some reason I resist seeing a therapist. One is I have a hard time getting there. I kind of know how to eat it is just that I do not do it anymore. But I used to for a long time and did well with it. I found a balance between having control over what I eat and not being obsessed by it. I need to get back to that again. But seeing a therapist would be a good idea. It is hard to find someone who deals with eating issues well. At the very least I should find someone to talk to about my depression and perhaps my eating issues. There is a direct link for me. I really do feel defeated these last few years.
What do you talk about with the physicist?
I think I am resisting all of the stuff you recomended. I have never recognised this before. I just always thought I did not need it or no one could help. I think it is more than that now. I am stubbornly stuck and the only way I am going to feel better is to actively do something about it. Sitting around waiting for my mind to work differently is not rational.
Thanks again,
irene
Posted by Racer on December 7, 2004, at 21:27:37
In reply to Re: Weight issues defining Life » Racer, posted by iris2 on December 7, 2004, at 15:51:01
I was -- and am, really -- resistant to some of it, too. I swore up and down that I didn't need nutritional counseling, and then when I got there, I swore I didn't need every week.
I was wrong!
Even if you don't get to a therapist who specializes in eating disorders, a therapist can help with some of the issues underlying the ED. What's more, I swear that the RD is the best move I've ever made! Talk about someone who deals well with EDs, she's great. The goals she sets for me are more or less within my ability, she doesn't show her disappointment (so far) or disapproval when I don't make the goals, and she really and truly helps make it seem possible. It's still frightening, but it's gonna be with or without the RD, so I'm choosing to have that support.
Be well.
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