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Posted by Partlycloudy on December 23, 2008, at 10:57:38
In reply to Re: Please be civil - ?? » Partlycloudy, posted by Deputy Dinah on December 23, 2008, at 6:47:19
At this point I would have to call this type of behavior injurious to my mental health.
In the interest of cooling off - in the interest of peace here and in my mind, which is not close to happening anytime soon, I wish you all a Merry Christmas and will go away now until the new year.
This place is not making me any better, which is really what I need right now - solace, safety, security.
Thanks for understanding
pc
Posted by zenhussy on December 23, 2008, at 11:19:55
In reply to Once more in English, Please » Deputy Dinah, posted by Partlycloudy on December 23, 2008, at 9:34:45
Posted by fayeroe on December 23, 2008, at 12:56:39
In reply to about as clear as mud---better explanation needed (nm), posted by zenhussy on December 23, 2008, at 11:19:55
and yes, i came back for this. what is it about PBCs thrown left and right and then rescinded? chill.
Posted by Dr. Bob on December 23, 2008, at 13:54:36
In reply to Once more in English, Please » Deputy Dinah, posted by Partlycloudy on December 23, 2008, at 9:34:45
Posted by fayeroe on December 23, 2008, at 14:20:34
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays (nm) » Partlycloudy, posted by Dr. Bob on December 23, 2008, at 13:54:36
Posted by muffled on December 23, 2008, at 16:48:25
In reply to Re: Please be civil - ?? » Deputy Dinah, posted by Partlycloudy on December 23, 2008, at 4:17:35
PC said this:
> I had no idea what the poster was saying, in code or not. I was under the impression it was jibberish.
DepDinah said this:
>>I allowed for the possibility in the PBC, and made it conditional upon your having understood it.So I took it to mean that there would be no PBC as PC said she didn't understand, therefore, no PBC....it was slightly confusing to me, but I pretty much got it.
I hope you can come back PC when your feeling a little more able to tolerate being here. Seems a little crazy right now. But you been here a long time and you know it comes and goes. Maybe you can stay away from admin at least. I used to do that cuz it'd just set me right off.
Take special care PC, you got alot to deal with right now.
My heart aches for you.
M
Posted by Dinah on December 23, 2008, at 17:36:47
In reply to uh oh, I kinda DID get it!?, posted by muffled on December 23, 2008, at 16:48:25
That's precisely right, Muffled.
I'm sorry I didn't answer earlier. I was at work. I'm glad Dr. Bob clarified. A PBC was never recorded.
Posted by jammerlich on December 23, 2008, at 18:35:01
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays (nm) » Partlycloudy, posted by Dr. Bob on December 23, 2008, at 13:54:36
In my opinion, a retraction of a PBC is best placed in the thread in which it was given. Some people may not follow the topic as it moves Admin and the person PBC'd might want any percieved tarnish to his or her reputation removed before the proper audience. Just my thoughts, for what they're worth.
(((((partlycloudy)))))
Posted by Phillipa on December 23, 2008, at 18:55:57
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays » Dr. Bob, posted by jammerlich on December 23, 2008, at 18:35:01
Good Point Phillipa
Posted by muffled on December 23, 2008, at 19:14:47
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays » Dr. Bob, posted by jammerlich on December 23, 2008, at 18:35:01
I kinda was thinking too, if there was doubt, maybe its best to ask *B4* pbc'ing as in this case? Cuz I was thinking it was a joke what pc said too.
Or mebbe thats just me being picky, I dunno, my heads spinnin a bit.
Gotto go figger WTF to feed kids for supper.
The dishes never end.
Laundry....
Water on floor from snow.
Trying to keep fire going w/friggin wet wood...arrggghh.
Best wishes.
M
Posted by Tabitha on December 24, 2008, at 0:21:39
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays, posted by muffled on December 23, 2008, at 19:14:47
place. Great decryption skills there.
Posted by BayLeaf on December 24, 2008, at 16:47:32
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays » Dr. Bob, posted by jammerlich on December 23, 2008, at 18:35:01
Would someone post an UN-PBC on the thread where it was issued? Seems only fair since a lot of people don't come to the Admin board. Thank you!
Bay
Posted by Dinah on December 24, 2008, at 16:58:31
In reply to you're un-pbced, happy holidays )Dinah or someone, posted by BayLeaf on December 24, 2008, at 16:47:32
Someone already posted a link to this thread. But I'll link it again.
Posted by Dinah on December 24, 2008, at 17:00:07
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays )Dinah or someone » BayLeaf, posted by Dinah on December 24, 2008, at 16:58:31
I suppose it was a reference. I'll post a link.
Posted by Dinah on December 24, 2008, at 17:01:55
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays )Dinah or someone, posted by Dinah on December 24, 2008, at 17:00:07
Muffled beat me to it.
Thanks, Muffled.
Posted by BayLeaf on December 24, 2008, at 19:17:05
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays )Dinah or someone, posted by Dinah on December 24, 2008, at 17:01:55
Muffled, sweet as she may be isn't an deputy.
How hard would it have been to just post the retraction? See, this is what I meant by my previous post. Maybe just post a little softer when possible?
It feels like the deputy team is all on one side, and the "other side" is...well...screwed. It shouldn't be like that. The deputy team should be the mediators.
Bay
Posted by Dinah on December 24, 2008, at 21:32:15
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays )Dinah or someone » Dinah, posted by BayLeaf on December 24, 2008, at 19:17:05
I was not only busy with Christmas yesterday, but I had a migraine and my vertigo is acting up again, so it's not easy to read or write for long because my eyes are jumping around. And, in my opinion, it would not only have been rude for me to have repeated what Muffled did, but it would have sent the wrong message. IMO Babblers should feel free to do what they think should be done (as long as it's civil) if Admin doesn't think of it. Muffled did it just fine. If that's not your opinion, then I respect that, but please don't assume that I had any bad or uncivil intent.
I did my best. If my best isn't good enough, I will be happy to step down at Dr. Bob's request.
It's true that this past week or so, I haven't so much felt like a Babbler, but more like a deputy. From my point of view that isn't a positive thing for me. It isn't what I want, and it isn't what I like. I don't do this to be a deputy. I do this to be a Babbler. And if you think it feels bad on your "side", it doesn't feel so good over here either. I've been reasonably sure these past couple of weeks that whatever I do, it will be the wrong thing. I don't remember the last time I've felt so bad about myself on Babble.
From my point of view, I didn't draw or want any lines and I don't want any sides. I'd like us to work together to keep Babble a positive environment for posters and posters who happen to be deputies. I'm sorry if this isn't possible. I've done my best to keep the lines between the two down.
Posted by Phillipa on December 24, 2008, at 22:19:38
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays )Dinah or someone » BayLeaf, posted by Dinah on December 24, 2008, at 21:32:15
Dinah I feel for you. You're a very strong person in my opinion. Love Phillipa
Posted by muffled on December 24, 2008, at 23:04:14
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays )Dinah or someone » Dinah, posted by BayLeaf on December 24, 2008, at 19:17:05
> Muffled, sweet as she may be isn't an deputy.
*ya, I haven't been a dep and I feel kinda bad bout that, but it seems too hard so i don't want to do it, but I don't mind to help where I can.
And thanks that I am sweet :-) !!!
> How hard would it have been to just post the retraction? See, this is what I meant by my previous post. Maybe just post a little softer when possible?*I think the deps are trying...
> It feels like the deputy team is all on one side, and the "other side" is...well...screwed. It shouldn't be like that. The deputy team should be the mediators.
*I feel a little history or info would be good here.
Historically, when Dr. Bob started the 'deps', they went thru a training process. What they THOT they were going to do, was help out a *little* at babble.....this sadly/unfortunately was not the case. Dr. Bob then proceeded to disappear on them :-( They got a whole LOT, like a whole whole lot more than they bargained for.
I am guessing that Dr. Bobs intentions were good towards this site, but he just was findding he didn't have enough time for it, hence the deps. Then for unknown reasons he was gone, like GONE, and now he reappears from time to time...
What the deps have to deal with is trying to understand Dr. Bobs ofttimes mysterious rules. They have to deal with the fact that sometimes he's here....and sometimes...not. And there doesn't seem to be a whole lot of rhyme or reason....
So the deps started out as babblers that had been here awhile, and they still ARE babblers IMHO, they just are HELPING OUT. They are not paid, they have lives of their own. Sorry if this seems a lecture, its not meant to be, just background.This place has changed so much. the rules etc keep changing. I think Dr. Bob is trying to figger what works.
In the process of him stepping back from babble, he indicated that he wanted ALL babblers to take an interest in the running of this site. Thats partly why the notify button came into play.
I beleive Dr. Bob would wish us all to help, not just pile all the work/responsibility on the deps. This is NOT what they signed up for.
So when we see a poster getting upset and feel we can help, then great, help out! If there is a real hurtful post let admin know so they can take action if they feel it is what they want to do...But all of us can help by greeting new posters, we can help calm, we can help by posting, sometimes we can help by NOT posting!!!, we can help by posting links, or showing others the ropes etc etc etc. I think if we all pitch in where we can, it'll make this a better place, and make it easier on the deps.Just my 2cents worth.
I think once you know the history of the deps, it makes things alot more clear....I hope.Take good care. It is good Bay, that you are taking an interest!
Thanks if you read alla this.
Muffled
Posted by BayLeaf on December 25, 2008, at 10:09:22
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays )Dinah or someone » BayLeaf, posted by Dinah on December 24, 2008, at 21:32:15
"I did my best. If my best isn't good enough, I will be happy to step down at Dr. Bob's request."
Dinah - you know of course, that is NOT what I was suggesting. I'm not sure where you got that idea from my post.
I hope you are feeling better soon.
Bay
Posted by fayeroe on December 25, 2008, at 10:58:33
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays )Dinah or someone » BayLeaf, posted by Dinah on December 24, 2008, at 21:32:15
*****I did my best. If my best isn't good enough, I will be happy to step down at Dr. Bob's request.
It's true that this past week or so, I haven't so much felt like a Babbler, but more like a deputy. From my point of view that isn't a positive thing for me. It isn't what I want, and it isn't what I like. I don't do this to be a deputy. I do this to be a Babbler. And if you think it feels bad on your "side", it doesn't feel so good over here either. I've been reasonably sure these past couple of weeks that whatever I do, it will be the wrong thing. I don't remember the last time I've felt so bad about myself on Babble.
From my point of view, I didn't draw or want any lines and I don't want any sides. I'd like us to work together to keep Babble a positive environment for posters and posters who happen to be deputies. I'm sorry if this isn't possible. I've done my best to keep the lines between the two down. *****
I'm sorry that this is a time where you've felt worse than you ever have on Babble.
I believe that when a PBC is applied and the poster hasn't been uncivil it does upset people.(especially the people who didn't deserve the PBC) I've seen three such PBCs in a row that were rescinded and it took quite awhile to get the last unPBC in the proper place. PBCs can be hurtful and if I don't deserve one...that makes it worse.
I've been busy and I have physical problems that affect me also. For instance I've been in horrible pain recently but I know that I will have flare-ups and I try to prepare for them.
I'm sorry Dinah, but I feel that if one of us is a deputy, there are going to be up and down days. I realize that you feel put upon and I expect you will again. It is a life thing.
Pat
Posted by BayLeaf on December 25, 2008, at 11:05:34
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays )Dinah or someone » BayLeaf, posted by muffled on December 24, 2008, at 23:04:14
Muffled - Like I've said before, new name, old poster.
I get the whole history. But when Bob decided to walk away and leave the administration to deputies, it is their decision to allow that to happen. Don't we all allow people to treat us one way or another? I know the deputies did this for the good of the Babblers. That's extremely generous! They are good people.
But, Dinah and others should not have to bare the burden of running Babble via his convoluted tippy-toe rules. It was unfair to dump Babble on them, and takes advantage of their emotional attachment to Babble and Babblers, and perhaps Bob.
By allowing him to do this - they are enabling him to continue the age old "cycle of abuse".
He'll show up with flowers and a smiley face once in a while...then he's gone again. It irks me to no end to see him get away with it.
If he does not want to admin Babble, he ought to discuss his options with the International Society for Mental Health Online. I believe he's on the board. I'm sure they can come up with a better alternative than walking away.
Bay (guessing she'll see you next year!)
Posted by lucie lu on December 26, 2008, at 2:55:38
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays » muffled, posted by BayLeaf on December 25, 2008, at 11:05:34
> Muffled - Like I've said before, new name, old poster.
Hi Bay,
I know that you are an old poster with a name change. When I posted above to you about not many people seeming to leave the psych board, I was merely trying to more or less report my observation. You have not been posting much on that board under your new name, and of course I cannot know whether you have been reading it regularly. So I do know that you are not new, and I'm sorry if you took offense, none was intended.
Happy holidays,
Lucie
Posted by BayLeaf on December 26, 2008, at 7:53:09
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays » BayLeaf, posted by lucie lu on December 26, 2008, at 2:55:38
I do read a lot. More than I should. I used to post a lot, but got my precious feelings hurt too much. You know, primary feelings, secondary feelings. Hurt...anger. That's me in a nut shell. Nut being the key word. Now I'm an angry nut. I'll try to work on it more.
Bay
Posted by muffled on December 29, 2008, at 1:11:37
In reply to Re: you're un-pbced, happy holidays » muffled, posted by BayLeaf on December 25, 2008, at 11:05:34
> Muffled - Like I've said before, new name, old poster.
*sorry Bay, I got a mind like a sieve. I can't remember babblers and details very well when names don't change, obvo i am ridiculously bad with name changes, though I understand why people do it.
> I get the whole history. But when Bob decided to walk away and leave the administration to deputies, it is their decision to allow that to happen. Don't we all allow people to treat us one way or another? I know the deputies did this for the good of the Babblers. That's extremely generous! They are good people.*I agree, we must protect ourselves, but sometimes we dunno how to do that very well. Ya :-) deps good people!
> But, Dinah and others should not have to bare the burden of running Babble via his convoluted tippy-toe rules. It was unfair to dump Babble on them, and takes advantage of their emotional attachment to Babble and Babblers, and perhaps Bob.*Thats it exactly, its SO hard to figger the RULES, UGH!
Ya I agree with you here.
> By allowing him to do this - they are enabling him to continue the age old "cycle of abuse".*Ya think so? I mean by abuse, I never thot of that, but I guess its like neglect is considered abuse too, so maybe so. I think the emotional aspect of all abuse is often the most damaging.
> He'll show up with flowers and a smiley face once in a while...then he's gone again. It irks me to no end to see him get away with it.
*Ya, I kinda got this admire/hate thing w/him. I have a scientific side that admires some of his thot trains.....when we can figure them out that is!!!
> If he does not want to admin Babble, he ought to discuss his options with the International Society for Mental Health Online. I believe he's on the board. I'm sure they can come up with a better alternative than walking away.*Well I agree that I wish Bob would do something to get some help with administrating this site. Maybe he could get some good ideas from others involved in this type of stuff. I wondered if someone might want to help that was not a babbler already. But who would do this?
I wished I knew what could be done.
> Bay (guessing she'll see you next year!)*LOL! Nope! Not next year yet! Soon though.
Thanks for talking to me.
Muffled
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