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Posted by Kath on March 4, 2008, at 12:04:47
In reply to huh? » Dinah, posted by karen_kay on March 4, 2008, at 9:44:03
if your final decision is to withdrawl as a deputy, you will be dearly missed!!!!
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> ((((((dinah))))))*************That's the problem kk - it's not to withdraw as a deputy. It's to not be posting on PB at all :-((
Kath
Posted by llurpsienoodle on March 4, 2008, at 19:44:24
In reply to Sadly........ » karen_kay, posted by Kath on March 4, 2008, at 12:04:47
Dinah,
you have always been a beacon of quirky sensitivity. I will miss hearing tales of your mama-daddy T and the pups.Can you figure out some way to reincarnate yourself?
or clone you?
((((((((dinah)))))))))
love,
llurps, who (in her head) says your name DEEEEnah, even though I know better.
Posted by Phillipa on March 4, 2008, at 19:50:21
In reply to Re: Sadly........, posted by llurpsienoodle on March 4, 2008, at 19:44:24
Lurpsie sounds Southern. Love Phillipa agree with you post.
Posted by KAL44 on March 4, 2008, at 21:26:10
In reply to Re: I am resigning as deputy, posted by Dinah on March 3, 2008, at 21:57:09
I guess I still don't understand why you are leaving as a deputy or poster, but I can see it is very hurtful to you, and I am very sorry for that.
Posted by Dinah on March 5, 2008, at 1:43:21
In reply to I am resigning as deputy, posted by Dinah on March 3, 2008, at 9:22:57
Everyone, I'm really sorry. I should have never posted any of this.
I was wasting so much of my time trying to decide what to do, and agonizing over it, and I just wanted to force myself into a decision. Because once I've posted it, I can't go back on it. I'd look ridiculous. I know this is the right decision. But if I didn't say so on board, I'd be likely crawling back and begging Dr. Bob to let me come back. Because that's who I am. I am terrified of change. I'm terrified of loss.
So that's why I posted it. Then people seemed to think I was mad at posters, and I tried to fix it. And I probably made things worse.
I'm sorry. I really am sorry. I don't know how to make a graceful exit. I never leave anything.
I really appreciate all the nice things people have said. I can't believe I forgot to acknowledge them. I can't tell you what it means to me. I have learned so much as Dinah, and I've received so much acceptance as Dinah.
I've tried to learn to keep my meltdowns off board over the years. And really they come far less often now than they used to. But I'm not doing so well, no matter how calm I may feel at times. And I've brought it on board, and I'm really very very sorry.
I'm sorry I'm being so dramatic. I hate being dramatic. I like being sensible.
Posted by Dinah on March 5, 2008, at 1:51:38
In reply to Re: I am resigning as deputy, posted by Dinah on March 5, 2008, at 1:43:21
And I really didn't want to just disappear without explanation, or let people think I was mad at them.
Posted by ClearSkies on March 5, 2008, at 18:42:25
In reply to Re: Hello, I thought you were blocked! » alex_again, posted by ClearSkies on March 5, 2008, at 16:18:59
Poof!
And another year added to the block, I surmise.
Well, it was nice to see you, however briefly. And *I* read what you had to say.
CS
Posted by Sigismund on March 5, 2008, at 19:15:00
In reply to And they're gone, posted by ClearSkies on March 5, 2008, at 18:42:25
But they have left a trace because you responded.
That's not what all this is about, is it?
Deleting posts?
Posted by Phillipa on March 5, 2008, at 21:14:13
In reply to Re: And they're gone » ClearSkies, posted by Sigismund on March 5, 2008, at 19:15:00
I feel it is generalization and contact admin and lets try another way. Meaning change of policy without consulting. That's how I took it????? Love Phillipa
Posted by muffled on March 5, 2008, at 22:04:23
In reply to Re: I am resigning as deputy, posted by Dinah on March 5, 2008, at 1:43:21
Dinah, you are not being dramatic, you are being kind in trying to let us know wassup w/you.
The reason you can't slip away quietly is because you are an important, valued, much cared for, member of babble. There's no way you could disappear without us wondering.
I am just sorry you are hurting so bad right now.
The pain is big, emotions really hurt, but they do ease some with time. I have come to realize that part is true.
And I know that the 'babble dinah', exists INSIDE, and in fact is PART of, IRL 'dinah'. So "dinah' is still here babble or not. You have many wonderful qualities dinah, but your no more perfect than I am, so we all have our 'moments' as it were. Though if this is your 'moment', then it seems very restrained. Not over the top at all. Very 'civil'. Just a fellow babbler calling out. And I see no wrong in that.
Here I am 'babbling' away. I just wish I knew the right thing to say to help you start to feel better faster.
I wish you could feel freer to post what you feel, that you could express yourself perhaps more cathartically, but perhaps this is not the place. There is always bmail or email, I am sure there are plenty, incl me who would love to give a little caring right back to you.
Take extra good care. Try and do nice things. Lean on T as much as you need to.
Your a good person Dinah.
M
Posted by ClearSkies on March 6, 2008, at 6:52:59
In reply to Re: And they're gone » ClearSkies, posted by Sigismund on March 5, 2008, at 19:15:00
> But they have left a trace because you responded.
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> That's not what all this is about, is it?
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> Deleting posts?A blocked poster registered under a different name (Alex again), and posted. When this happens, the posts are routinely deleted, but the responses aren't usually. The block is then extended because of the go-around of the rules.
ClearSkies
Posted by Phoenix1 on March 6, 2008, at 8:08:41
In reply to And they're gone, posted by ClearSkies on March 5, 2008, at 18:42:25
> Poof!
> And another year added to the block, I surmise.
> Well, it was nice to see you, however briefly. And *I* read what you had to say.
> CSI read them too, and despite the evident anger, and incivility, there was a whole lot of truth. But now they're gone, understandably so because of the posting while blocked rule. Too bad. It would be great if it were possible to speak one's mind without breaking civility rules, but unfortunately it's impossible. So much for healthy debate.
Phoenix1
Posted by Toph on March 6, 2008, at 11:03:42
In reply to Re: Hello, I thought you were blocked! » alex_again, posted by ClearSkies on March 5, 2008, at 16:18:59
I saw your posts Alex. They can't erase my memory (unless they send me a case of Bushmans). What's ironic and sad (a recent theme of some of my posts) is that your passion for fairness comes from caring about those you have met here. Too much passion for this place. Off with her head.
Posted by Toph on March 6, 2008, at 11:14:39
In reply to Alex, posted by Toph on March 6, 2008, at 11:03:42
Posted by Sigismund on March 6, 2008, at 13:52:32
In reply to Alex, posted by Toph on March 6, 2008, at 11:03:42
Verne, Alex, Zeugma and Zazenducke all have a passionate sense of fairness.
This place is pretty quiet these days.
Posted by Phoenix1 on March 6, 2008, at 14:06:38
In reply to Blocked (or frequently blocked) posters » Toph, posted by Sigismund on March 6, 2008, at 13:52:32
> Verne, Alex, Zeugma and Zazenducke all have a passionate sense of fairness.
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> This place is pretty quiet these days.I never really knew verne or alex, but it sure is quiet without zazenducke. I miss her sense of humour.
Posted by muffled on March 6, 2008, at 15:22:09
In reply to Re: Blocked (or frequently blocked) posters » Sigismund, posted by Phoenix1 on March 6, 2008, at 14:06:38
Thats why I wish the length of the blocks would go up MUCH more slowly....and be capped at some lower point...
But I flap my gums...
Posted by Sigismund on March 6, 2008, at 15:40:29
In reply to Re: Blocked (or frequently blocked) posters, posted by muffled on March 6, 2008, at 15:22:09
>Thats why I wish the length of the blocks would go up MUCH more slowly....and be capped at some lower point...
But I flap my gums...
Well so you do, but I think you are right.
The way the blocks are organised leaves anyone with a big block on endless probation.
Posted by SLS on March 7, 2008, at 5:14:03
In reply to I am resigning as deputy, posted by Dinah on March 3, 2008, at 9:22:57
Do what you need to do. The rest of us will survive.
I wish you peace.
- Scott
> Due to some changes that Dr. Bob is making, I no longer feel like I can in all due conscience be a deputy.
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> Under those same changes, I no longer feel safe myself to post either as a deputy or a former deputy. If anything changes in that regard, and I can post as a former deputy, I'd be delighted to return. I'll miss you guys.
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> I can still babblemail and chat. And wherever I am, I'll be Dinah.
Posted by AbbieNormal on March 7, 2008, at 6:13:33
In reply to Re: I am resigning as deputy » Dinah, posted by SLS on March 7, 2008, at 5:14:03
> Do what you need to do. The rest of us will survive.
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> I wish you peace.
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> - Scott
>Exactly!!
Posted by Dinah on March 7, 2008, at 12:53:22
In reply to And they're gone, posted by ClearSkies on March 5, 2008, at 18:42:25
Thank you for what you said about me. I didn't deserve all of it, you know. I've stalked off often enough and crawled back. :(
I love you, too. I know you know that, but I don't often say so on the record, so to speak. And I think it bears repeating.
I'm glad you reminded me of the coral colony idea last night. I'd forgotten that. Those posts are so long ago, and I don't feel like the same Dinah at all. I can't say I like it any more now than I did then, though. I guess Dr. Bob will always see Babble as a coral colony. He's interested in the colony as a whole, and the welfare of the colony as a whole. And he's probably right in that. I may disagree from time to time on whether his ideas are best for the colony, but I don't doubt that he's doing what he thinks is best. For the coral colony at least.
Babble has sustained some heavy blows and kept on. Cam is the one that strikes me most. But Lar and Scott for a while. I know that if I can't work out something about posting, Babble will certainly do just fine without me. The coral colony will survive and flourish I'm sure.
Posted by Dinah on March 7, 2008, at 12:57:27
In reply to I see you, Alex. :), posted by Dinah on March 7, 2008, at 12:53:22
I'm sorry I haven't said anything, but I'm trying to gain some distance and perspective. However, I want to thank those of you who said such nice things about me.
Posted by rskontos on March 7, 2008, at 13:54:32
In reply to I see you, Alex. :), posted by Dinah on March 7, 2008, at 12:53:22
As I see it, I am just afraid that if it is seen as as a coral colony then I do feel like a lab rat and suddenly don't feel safe. Like someone's project and this has been the event that projected that knowledge. Already I am basically just posting here. Not where I usually post and this hurts. I think I just might go where I can find anonomity and safety elsewhere. And where someone doesn't just post I am busy and nothing else. To that end it enforces the lab rat feeling. That no one matters, the good of what is above all else. That posters threads can be deleted when it suits the one deity only. No that is not acceptable. Poof, the post was gone, I am busy. Not too busy to erase the post huh Dr Bob. I usually don't like to be confrontational but geeze. How many of the coral units need to ask a question until the questions get answered. It is very upsetting. I guess leaving is the only answer. I think for now, I am not caring more about the answer of the questions, for now to me, it the way the answer was never delivered. We don't matter do we Bob.
Dinah, I will miss your clarity and caring of thoughtful answers, and even when you needed to sanction someone you try to do with heart. Unlike some one here, you showed you cared, and have a heart. Thanks for that. Do take care, that you are thought well of here by some many that send you a show of their feelings take heart in that, I wish I could say the same of the leader here. I am not trying to be uncivil but I think to totally disregard the feelings of the unanswered questions we are being treated uncivilly. I don't think I have ever received a PBC and I Have never been blocked. But if I am n ow treading on thin ice, I apologize to Babblers. I am not trying to do that. I am expressing my sadness at the face in the photo at the top who chooses to diss us. This is how I feel and I feel a need to express it.
good luck Dinah, and you too Alex, I agreed with your words.
rsk
Posted by SLS on March 7, 2008, at 13:55:59
In reply to Thank you everyone., posted by Dinah on March 7, 2008, at 12:57:27
Thank YOU!
Posted by Dinah on March 7, 2008, at 16:31:15
In reply to Re: Thank you everyone. » Dinah, posted by SLS on March 7, 2008, at 13:55:59
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