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Posted by Honore on June 25, 2007, at 10:06:39
In reply to Re: And of course it hurts worse » sunnydays, posted by Dinah on June 25, 2007, at 8:41:50
I have a lot of respect for people here on Babble, and that includes, and really, especially includes, the deputies.
Not just as deputies, but as individuals,. IMO the deputies here are really extraordinary people; I feel lucky that they come to the site and make it, with their presence, a special and so valuable place. And that they devote so much time and thoughtful concern-- to making sure that I, and others, have this opportunity to get to know them and others here.
I feel sorry that I haven't posted that before, or in response to some of the recent conflictual threads in which deputies, or ex-deputies, have been partial subjects of the discussion.
This might be the time to thank GG for all the work and caring she's put into babble, and wish her the best with her current projects. I very much hope she'll continue to post, even if occasionally, to let us all know how she's doing. Her contributions have meant a lot to me. I hope to get to know her better as a poster, if not deputy.
I feel gratitude and respect for everyone who's a deputy-- and my not saying it is only in some sense not wanting to seem too "goody-goody" when other posters seem disturbed about an issue. But this may not be fair, and may hurt everyone, since the positive that we really feel for one another can sometimes get lost when the intensity of our caring moves into more negative moments, of being hurt and often not what to do with those feelings. I've been there, at least, and I know for me that's been hard--- but we all are learning, too-- which gives me a lot of hope.
I hope, by the way, that nothing I've said is uncivil. I don't mean to say what others are feeling; but I know that I at times am hurt by things said and done-- and because I do care, it is hard to say just the right thing.
Honore
Posted by muffled on June 25, 2007, at 10:48:14
In reply to And of course it hurts worse, posted by Dinah on June 25, 2007, at 8:16:31
> because I thought you guys knew me.
>
> I thought that I'd spent hours in chat trying to give support as well as get it.
>
> I'm an idiot.**Dinah you so NOT an idiot.
You give lotsa support.
Your very good at stepping back and remaining calm and rational.
You got your own stuff going on and thats hard too.
I'm not sure exactly what your post here is about. But cept mebbe you feeling kinda messed at all the goings on in general. Its sorta like mebbe babble goto decompress after the tension of Bob 'dissapearing',as he himself puts it. The hacking on top of it all. All the name changes and disruption... Just like in a irl family. But then it blows over, and things ease up, and we can get back to caring bout each other, and helping each other more, and accepting our own humaness, and the humaness of others.
You ARE appreciated. You are human. So if you having a hard time thats OK. Try and be good to yourself as you can OK?
Mebbe your like me, feeling unsafe and easily triggered.
Take special care of our Dinah OK?
Muffled
Posted by muffled on June 25, 2007, at 10:48:58
In reply to Re: Thanks, posted by Honore on June 25, 2007, at 10:06:39
Posted by confuzyq on June 25, 2007, at 11:12:13
In reply to Ouch., posted by Dinah on June 25, 2007, at 8:09:53
> I'm not sure why I want to cry. I don't even understand what everyone is saying.
Dinah, this thread took a turn towards the silly (I'm sorry about that sunnydays), but the dot thing was only about Dr. Bob's habit of ending with three dots. You know, that his answers tend to be either questions themselves or followed by dots that somehow turn them into questions. (Even his biggest fans could good-naturedly kid about such aspects of his style.)
And the rest of the thread was only good stuff, about how deputies deserve more support from Bob. And I agree with that, and also wanted to add that I don't think most of any complaining going on is meant broadly against deputies. And that some of it probably pertains only to admin and policy as usual, not to deputies at all.
I think Sunnydays' point comes in again there -- one way Bob could support you guys more would be step in and address more situations himself, when it looks like policy is at the core and not actually the deputies who are just trying to follow it.
I'm sorry anything here made you feel bad!
Posted by Dinah on June 25, 2007, at 11:17:02
In reply to Re: Ouch. » Dinah, posted by confuzyq on June 25, 2007, at 11:12:13
Thanks for explaining, and I'm sorry for overreacting.
I think I'm upset about gg this morning, and am probably more sensitive than usual. I'll go have a good cry and a good nap. I'm sure I'll feel better.
Posted by Dinah on June 25, 2007, at 11:18:56
In reply to Re: Thanks, posted by Honore on June 25, 2007, at 10:06:39
For all your posts this morning.
It means a lot.
Posted by Dinah on June 25, 2007, at 11:19:40
In reply to Re: And of course it hurts worse » Dinah, posted by muffled on June 25, 2007, at 10:48:14
Posted by Racer on June 25, 2007, at 11:56:07
In reply to lame dot poem » confuzyq, posted by obsidian on June 25, 2007, at 1:16:57
For many, many years, there was a columnist in the local San Francisco newspaper named Herb Caen. His column was -- kinda like a gossip column, I guess? But the three dots were one of his trademarks. That's where I picked up the habit, although I have to admit I've tried hard to get rid of it.
To no avail...
Posted by confuzyq on June 25, 2007, at 13:20:03
In reply to Three dot journalism -- RIP Herb Caen, posted by Racer on June 25, 2007, at 11:56:07
Posted by sleepygirl on June 25, 2007, at 13:21:02
In reply to Ouch., posted by Dinah on June 25, 2007, at 8:09:53
Dinah,
I hope you know that my post was not really directed toward anyone in particular...yeah sure bob in his administrative role, but I really don't get particularly upset at his diplomacy...even though I notice it
it works for me I guess I'm saying
but really, I use the dots!! I was commenting on the "space" we use, that a lot of people use before maybe saying what they think
oh dinah..I'm sorry. I was being silly.
I didn't mean anything hurtful
-obsid
Posted by sleepygirl on June 25, 2007, at 13:24:29
In reply to Damn this creative writing is trouble!! » Dinah, posted by sleepygirl on June 25, 2007, at 13:21:02
to powers that reflect back to you rather than provide an answer maybe?
there is a thoughtfulness there and thus an encouragement of thoughtfulness on the part of the other
I guess I was less than thoughtful
I really need the dots :-(
Posted by sleepygirl on June 25, 2007, at 13:25:32
In reply to I really thought ... was just a gen. reference...., posted by sleepygirl on June 25, 2007, at 13:24:29
Posted by confuzyq on June 25, 2007, at 13:28:52
In reply to I really thought ... was just a gen. reference...., posted by sleepygirl on June 25, 2007, at 13:24:29
Posted by Happyflower on June 25, 2007, at 13:55:15
In reply to Re:I really need and use the heck outta dots too:) (nm), posted by confuzyq on June 25, 2007, at 13:28:52
I didn't mean anything by the dots either, just being silly...thats all.
Posted by Dinah on June 25, 2007, at 14:05:52
In reply to I really thought ... was just a gen. reference...., posted by sleepygirl on June 25, 2007, at 13:24:29
No, I'm sorry. I should have asked, since I knew I didn't understand. I do know better than to assume.
I'm feeling calmer now. Sleep is a wonderful thing.
Posted by Happyflower on June 25, 2007, at 14:20:13
In reply to Re: I really thought ... was just a gen. reference, posted by Dinah on June 25, 2007, at 14:05:52
> No, I'm sorry. I should have asked, since I knew I didn't understand. I do know better than to assume.
>
> I'm feeling calmer now. Sleep is a wonderful thing.I am glad you are calmer now, and yes you should have asked. I just wonder why you assumed it was negative? Why didn't I get the benefit of doubt?I feel very accussed right now of doing something wrong.
As far as your other "ouches" today, I didn't name you as doing anything. You could ask me to verify, before deceiding my post was about you. You have to remember I am trying to keep my comments civil, and sometimes that vagueness is because of the rules here. I am just trying to follow them because I understand them better than before. But this doesn't work either, because other innocent people get hurt in the process.
Posted by gardenergirl on June 25, 2007, at 15:13:35
In reply to Re: I really thought ... was just a gen. reference » Dinah, posted by Happyflower on June 25, 2007, at 14:20:13
Posted by Dinah on June 25, 2007, at 15:13:55
In reply to Re: I really thought ... was just a gen. reference » Dinah, posted by Happyflower on June 25, 2007, at 14:20:13
I thought the fact that you were quoting me meant that you were speaking of me.
I am however sorry that I said anything at all this morning. I usually do not express my feelings upon reading Admin, and likely that's the best course of action.
I will return to that strategy at once.
My apologies to Dr. Bob for being Dinah instead of his Deputy Dinah. :( I'll try to see that it doesn't happen again.
Posted by gardenergirl on June 25, 2007, at 15:13:59
In reply to Oh (nm), posted by gardenergirl on June 25, 2007, at 15:13:35
Posted by gardenergirl on June 25, 2007, at 15:14:18
In reply to My (nm), posted by gardenergirl on June 25, 2007, at 15:13:59
Posted by karen_kay on June 25, 2007, at 15:31:26
In reply to Re: I really thought ... was just a gen. reference » Dinah, posted by Happyflower on June 25, 2007, at 14:20:13
does sorry not count for a thing anymore?
are you looking for dinah to kiss your *ss as well or what?
just sticking my nose where it doesn't belong and surely creatign more problems but for crying out loud cut her a break here, dinah's a good girl and very sweet and geez, she's the sweetest person i know and forgive me for coming to her defense but i do get a bit defensive of MY dinah,kk
Posted by sunnydays on June 25, 2007, at 15:32:39
In reply to God (nm), posted by gardenergirl on June 25, 2007, at 15:14:18
I started this thread, so I decree that no one else needs to post to it. :) I think that enough has been said. It really didn't turn out as I was hoping it would, so I'd like to just end it. I support the deputies and will thank them for their hard work. Admin can be a vicious place, and maybe I need to post my support for the deputies on social. Too much going on here that could cause people to react badly. I just meant that I wished Bob could step up and say thank you to the deputies publicly (all of them, although I thought his post to gg was very nice).
So this thread can stop now as far as I'm concerned, although obviously I have no control over it.
sunnydays
Posted by Happyflower on June 25, 2007, at 17:22:48
In reply to Re: I really thought ... was just a gen. reference » Happyflower, posted by Dinah on June 25, 2007, at 15:13:55
I did not quote you. That was your perception.
Posted by Happyflower on June 25, 2007, at 17:35:40
In reply to geez... » Happyflower, posted by karen_kay on June 25, 2007, at 15:31:26
I don't have a problem with you sticking up for a friend... but I didn't do anything wrong... but I will remember your comments...I thought you were a friend... but I was wrong... and that is okay...life goes on...
Posted by MidnightBlue on June 25, 2007, at 17:45:06
In reply to And of course it hurts worse, posted by Dinah on June 25, 2007, at 8:16:31
(((((DINAH)))))
Hugs! You are NO idiot! Now where would you get such an idea? You are a HUGE help here. I don't think this site would make it without you.
MidnightBlue
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