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Posted by muffled on October 19, 2006, at 11:43:06
I would like to walk up to you and slap you unexpectedly on the face, hard.
Think about how that would feel...?
Would you be shocked, angry, confused, hurt......?
Cuz thats how it feels with some of the more questionable blocks....
Where a pbc would have been more appropriate.
When the poster inquestion truly meant no harm...
I wish i could make you understand....
:-(
But your safe, I don't live near you! ;-o
Just don't tell me if you comming to Canada!!!!!LOL!
Muffled
(p.s. FYI, I don't hit people, there's already enough hurts around :(
Posted by karen_kay on October 19, 2006, at 12:14:57
In reply to y'know Bob...., posted by muffled on October 19, 2006, at 11:43:06
mr bob likes it rough. perhaps a time-out would be a more appropriate form of punishment?
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 22, 2006, at 15:30:17
In reply to y'know Bob...., posted by muffled on October 19, 2006, at 11:43:06
> I would like to walk up to you and slap you unexpectedly on the face, hard.
> Think about how that would feel...?
> Would you be shocked, angry, confused, hurt......?
> Cuz thats how it feels with some of the more questionable blocks....
> Where a pbc would have been more appropriate.
> When the poster inquestion truly meant no harm...
> I wish i could make you understand....
> :-(I do understand that being blocked may shock, anger, confuse, and hurt posters. But I don't intend it to be unexpected or to imply that I think they meant to harm anyone else.
Bob
Posted by muffled on October 23, 2006, at 0:08:28
In reply to Re: understanding, posted by Dr. Bob on October 22, 2006, at 15:30:17
> > I would like to walk up to you and slap you unexpectedly on the face, hard.
> > Think about how that would feel...?
> > Would you be shocked, angry, confused, hurt......?
> > Cuz thats how it feels with some of the more questionable blocks....
> > Where a pbc would have been more appropriate.
> > When the poster inquestion truly meant no harm...
> > I wish i could make you understand....
> > :-(
>
> I do understand that being blocked may shock, anger, confuse, and hurt posters. But I don't intend it to be unexpected or to imply that I think they meant to harm anyone else.
>
> Bob**Oh I WISH I could express myself better.
I am very heartened to hear that you don't intend it to be unexpected, or that your implying that they meant to harm others...(but then WHY the block????)
But does that mean you DO intend to have shock and hurt?
You DO understand that blocks cause pain? YOU DO????
THEN WHY DO YOU BLOCK OVER THE SILLIEST THINGS (IMO anyways)sometimes???????? Where there is not likely to be any large amt of hurt as a result of the post? When a pbc would clear things up just fine?
You CREATE hurt where there was NONE, when you block in these circumstances. There may be a possibility of hurt, MAYBE. But with the block, there is GUARANTEED hurt.
You blocked me over f*rt for crying out loud. For overriding the asterisk over F*RT?????? I was hurting NOONE. I was having a human moment in as undamaging way as I could...
You hurt me. I seriously doubt anyone was offended or hurt by it.
That is just an example.
So mebbe you can think to yourself, weigh the pain as it were, BEFORE you jump on a block.
That being said, I think overall there have been less blocks, I know i have screwed up at least once and it was let slide....
I dunno you from squat. I am trying to beleive that you DO actually care, but mebbe for all your education, you miss the point on some of this interpersonal stuff.
I'd like to think your a nice person.
So excuse me if I have offended you.
But I feel like a lab rat.
So just as a matter of interest, meaning no harm to anyone, and not thumbing my nose at your asterisk system,
but, f art.
Hmmmmm. Red flag in front of a bull?
Do YOU feel like a lab rat now????
Hmmmmmm.
Muffled
Posted by Lindenblüte on October 23, 2006, at 8:03:01
In reply to Re: understanding, posted by Dr. Bob on October 22, 2006, at 15:30:17
> > Where a pbc would have been more appropriate.
> > When the poster inquestion truly meant no harm...
> > I wish i could make you understand....
> > :-(
>
> I do understand that being blocked may shock, anger, confuse, and hurt posters. But I don't intend it to be unexpected or to imply that I think they meant to harm anyone else.
>
> BobThis thread reminds me of a recent block of someone who has made powerfully supportive contributions to this community. Alexandra_k will be missed for MANY weeks.
I thought it was COMPLETELY shocking that she was not given a PBC or warning regarding her post ob the politics board that resulted in a block of many many long weeks.
FYI, I am the dependent of an active duty member of the US Armed Forces. I was not offended in the SLIGHTEST by that post, and I am a strong supporter of the USA, and of our women and men who are fighting and working to save lives around the world. I really don't like my husband's boss, or his policies, but that's a different issue altogether.
-Li
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 23, 2006, at 18:38:07
In reply to Re: NOT understanding » Dr. Bob, posted by muffled on October 23, 2006, at 0:08:28
> I am very heartened to hear that you don't intend it to be unexpected, or that your implying that they meant to harm others...(but then WHY the block????)
Because others may end up feeling hurt even if that wasn't intended.
> But does that mean you DO intend to have shock and hurt?
No, my goal isn't shock or hurt, but I do realize those are potential consequences.
> I feel like a lab rat.
Which means powerless? I'm sorry if that's the case.
> So just as a matter of interest, meaning no harm to anyone, and not thumbing my nose at your asterisk system,
> but, f [*]rt.Well, please don't use language that could offend others.
But please don't take this personally, either, this doesn't mean I don't like you or think you're a bad person.
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please first see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforceFollow-ups regarding these issues, as well as replies to the above post, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
Posted by muffled on October 23, 2006, at 20:48:19
In reply to Re: please be civil » muffled, posted by Dr. Bob on October 23, 2006, at 18:38:07
...(but then WHY the block????)
>
> Because others may end up feeling hurt even if that wasn't intended.***There it is again, that thing I can't seem to get thru to you...'others may', MAY, end up being hurt.....
But if you block, you DO hurt guaranteed.(intentionally, I might add..)
>
> > I feel like a lab rat.
>
> Which means powerless? I'm sorry if that's the case.**Not powerless, just like mebbe I'm being messed with.
> Well, please don't use language that could offend others.
>
**Well, OK, I'm sorry if I offended you or any others with my use of that crude and vulgar word :-oNow didn't THAT work out well! ;-)
We communicated. I learned.
I still here!
Happy Muffled :-)
Hmmmmmmmmm.Muffled
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 23, 2006, at 23:45:27
In reply to Sorry » Dr. Bob, posted by muffled on October 23, 2006, at 20:48:19
> There it is again, that thing I can't seem to get thru to you...'others may', MAY, end up being hurt.....
> But if you block, you DO hurt guaranteed.So then I should never block anyone?
> > > I feel like a lab rat.
> >
> > Which means powerless? I'm sorry if that's the case.
>
> Not powerless, just like mebbe I'm being messed with.Oh, that's different. Messed with in what way?
Bob
Posted by muffled on October 24, 2006, at 0:14:57
In reply to Re: thanks » muffled, posted by Dr. Bob on October 23, 2006, at 23:45:27
> > There it is again, that thing I can't seem to get thru to you...'others may', MAY, end up being hurt.....
> > But if you block, you DO hurt guaranteed.
>
> So then I should never block anyone?***Aaaaaaaaggghhhh. Its not black and white. Mebbe thats the prob? Do you tend to have B&W thinking?
I think blocks SHOULD happen. But AFTER there has been a pbc or warning of some type, so that the poster has an opportunity to see the error of their ways....
And so, have an opportunity to correct their actions....
And so learn.
Of course there are OVERT incivilities in which noone would question an immediate block....
Its the ones where there is even a shadow of a doubt that should be given a warning IMO.
>
> > > > I feel like a lab rat.
> > >
> > > Which means powerless? I'm sorry if that's the case.
> >
> > Not powerless, just like mebbe I'm being messed with.
>
> Oh, that's different. Messed with in what way?***Like you sometimes messing w/me just to see what I might do. In the name of science of course...
But then, perhaps its a two way street..LOL!Muffled
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 24, 2006, at 19:50:11
In reply to Re: thanks » Dr. Bob, posted by muffled on October 24, 2006, at 0:14:57
> I think blocks SHOULD happen. But AFTER there has been a pbc or warning of some type, so that the poster has an opportunity to see the error of their ways....
> And so, have an opportunity to correct their actions....
> And so learn.I agree, and no one's blocked without a prior PBC or warning of some type...
> Like you sometimes messing w/me just to see what I might do. In the name of science of course...
It's always interesting to see what people do, but I'm not messing with you just for that reason, in the name of science or anything else...
Bob
Posted by muffled on October 29, 2006, at 2:38:25
In reply to Re: thanks, posted by Dr. Bob on October 24, 2006, at 19:50:11
> > Like you sometimes messing w/me just to see what I might do. In the name of science of course...
>
> It's always interesting to see what people do, but I'm not messing with you just for that reason, in the name of science or anything else...***See this is where you remind me of my man.
See the way I read this is:
but I'm not messing with you JUST for that reasonLike its saying you IS messing w/me, but not ONLY for that reason....like there's other reasons....
So mebbe thats just me.
I dunno.
Anyhow I assuming you didn't mean it that way.
Hope not.
Thx,
muffled
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 29, 2006, at 17:29:47
In reply to Just FYI » Dr. Bob, posted by muffled on October 29, 2006, at 2:38:25
> See the way I read this is:
> but I'm not messing with you JUST for that reason
>
> Like its saying you IS messing w/me, but not ONLY for that reason....like there's other reasons....
> So mebbe thats just me.
> I dunno.
> Anyhow I assuming you didn't mean it that way.
> Hope not.I didn't, sorry I wasn't more clear.
Bob
Posted by muffled on November 26, 2006, at 23:23:55
In reply to Re: Just FYI, posted by Dr. Bob on October 29, 2006, at 17:29:47
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