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Posted by muffled on November 28, 2005, at 18:01:33
In reply to changing the header 'cause it scares me ;-), posted by alexandra_k on November 28, 2005, at 17:52:11
So sorry you've had so much hurt in your life :(
Those people should have known better.
You are beautiful inside Alex.
Muffled
Posted by 10derHeart on November 28, 2005, at 19:46:07
In reply to What the hell? :( :(:( (((((Alex)))) » alexandra_k, posted by muffled on November 28, 2005, at 18:01:33
Posted by Dinah on November 28, 2005, at 19:54:03
In reply to Oops..muffled *meant* to write: heck or h*ll :-) (nm), posted by 10derHeart on November 28, 2005, at 19:46:07
hell
Posted by Dinah on November 28, 2005, at 19:54:40
In reply to Looks like that word's ok?, posted by Dinah on November 28, 2005, at 19:54:03
And Merriam Webster doesn't call it vulgar.
Posted by muffled on November 28, 2005, at 19:54:43
In reply to Oops..muffled *meant* to write: heck or h*ll :-) (nm), posted by 10derHeart on November 28, 2005, at 19:46:07
Thanks 10der. Wonder why the auto thing didn't take it out? Maybe its not a swear? I dunno. Sorry.
Muffled.
Posted by muffled on November 28, 2005, at 19:57:18
In reply to Yep. No auto asterisking., posted by Dinah on November 28, 2005, at 19:54:40
Posted by alexandra_k on November 28, 2005, at 19:57:23
In reply to What the hell? :( :(:( (((((Alex)))) » alexandra_k, posted by muffled on November 28, 2005, at 18:01:33
i should have known better
and i did
but that didn't stop mei'm sorry
i think i need to go away
i really can't / shouldn't talk / think about this
Posted by muffled on November 28, 2005, at 20:11:14
In reply to Re: What the hell? :( :(:( (((((Alex)))), posted by alexandra_k on November 28, 2005, at 19:57:23
> i should have known better
> and i did
> but that didn't stop me
>
> i'm sorry
> i think i need to go away
> i really can't / shouldn't talk / think about this***Two church leaders and a teacher vs. a teenager.
Hmmmmm. Who's the adult? Whos in position of authority?
Alex, I'm serious, you really are great. We have all made mistakes, and you were so young, screwed up. Teens are young, they THINK they know it all and are adults, but they don't, not really. You did what you had to do at the time, but you're doing so much better now. And you help people here. You have helped me.
Thats a question I asked my T. Why do I hurt myself when I know its wrong? Why do I take such risks with myself safety when I know it would absolutely devastate my kids if I died? WHy, why, why? She said its an age old question. People always been that way. Everybody is. We just not perfect. We just goto do the best we can and leave the past mistakes behind, the past is past. She said it way better...
oh Alex (((((((Alex))))))) :(
Muffled
ps. I'm done stupid sh*t too, so if you're gonna be kicking *sses, kick mine too. Hard.
Posted by Declan on November 28, 2005, at 22:54:32
In reply to Re: please be civil Alex and Others, posted by cricket on November 28, 2005, at 15:01:56
Hi there
I guess this is slightly off topic, but anyway. There was a man in Brisbane, a Parliamentary Secretary, who had sex with about a thousand boys over decades. Not one of them complained, which says something about the loneliness and lack of touch that boys can experience. Eventually in some other way, I forget how, all this came to light, his house was searched and his detailed records became public knowledge. He killed himself before his trial came up. Written up by Paul Wilson in "The Man They Called A Monster".
Declan
Posted by 10derHeart on November 28, 2005, at 23:24:23
In reply to Yep. No auto asterisking., posted by Dinah on November 28, 2005, at 19:54:40
Posted by muffled on November 28, 2005, at 23:27:39
In reply to sorry. nevermind. stupid assumption :-( (nm) » Dinah, posted by 10derHeart on November 28, 2005, at 23:24:23
Posted by muffled on November 28, 2005, at 23:32:12
In reply to Re: sorry. Not stupid.Very kind.:) (nm) » 10derHeart, posted by muffled on November 28, 2005, at 23:27:39
Yeah, thanks for watching my *ss 10der. F*cking son of a b*tch *ss of mines NEEDS watching!!!!!Thanks!
Muffled :)
Posted by muffled on November 28, 2005, at 23:33:25
In reply to Re: sorry. Not stupid.Very kind.:) » muffled, posted by muffled on November 28, 2005, at 23:32:12
Posted by 10derHeart on November 28, 2005, at 23:52:21
In reply to Re: sorry. Not stupid.Very kind.:) » muffled, posted by muffled on November 28, 2005, at 23:32:12
lol. I was trying to help...'fraid Dr. B might come and give you a PBC and hurt your feelings. Don't want that....uh-uh.
Just feeling dumb and impulsive tonight, but it's better now. Sense of humor coming back...oh no....not here on Admin!! (NOT generally a funny place...)
I guess I should have written....
"well, hell's freakin' bells, I can't keep this crap straight...which damn words are vulgar and which aren't. Hell!! oh....yeah...the weirdest ones are:
p*m p*ms AND
f*rt
HAhahahahaha!
**okay...leaving admin to admin stuff and going to behave now...{giggle}**
Posted by Tabitha on November 29, 2005, at 0:20:57
In reply to Re: sorry. Not stupid.Very kind.:) » muffled, posted by 10derHeart on November 28, 2005, at 23:52:21
I'm happy to report that Merriam Webster online does not list any vulgar meaning associated with the word p*m-p*ms. I think the asterisking software is confused.
Posted by Tabitha on November 29, 2005, at 0:23:17
In reply to Re: sorry. Not stupid.Very kind.:) » muffled, posted by 10derHeart on November 28, 2005, at 23:52:21
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 29, 2005, at 1:46:00
In reply to Re: please be civil » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on November 27, 2005, at 14:53:49
> > The only one who seems to be offended here Happyflower is you.
> >
> > it seems that the things you have said about yout intentions towards your T in so many posts suggest you are not just joking.
> >
> > You're pretty upset that some of us are shining the bright light of reality on this situation.
> >
> > I am being a friend. I know it dosn't seem like that.
>
> I don't get it, Dr. Bob. I didn't see anything uncivil at all in this post.
>
> Maaaayyyybeeee a Please Be Supportive, but I don't see a PBC.
>
> You've let far more challenging statements go with no remark at all, haven't you?Fair enough, maybe a PBS. I just get concerned when someone keeps posting to someone else despite their being offended and not viewing it as friendly, contradicts what they say they're doing, or declares one thing fantasy and another reality...
Bob
Posted by alexandra_k on November 29, 2005, at 3:11:18
In reply to Re: sorry. Not stupid.Very kind.:), posted by Tabitha on November 29, 2005, at 0:20:57
> I'm happy to report that Merriam Webster online does not list any vulgar meaning associated with the word p*m-p*ms. I think the asterisking software is confused.
LOL!!!P*m p*ms aren't the problem...
Its calling people P*ms that is the problem...'P*ms'...
It is Australasian (Australian and New Zealand) vulgar slang for people from England.
One theory is that it stands for:
'Prisoners of her majesties service'
Which is to say...
That most of the English in Australia are / were criminals
(Not so nice and only sometimes true);-)
Though I should also say that the term has fairly affectionate connotations now...
Posted by alexandra_k on November 29, 2005, at 3:19:19
In reply to Re: sorry. Not stupid.Very kind.:) » Tabitha, posted by alexandra_k on November 29, 2005, at 3:11:18
((((Cricket)))))
Sometimes...
I really think you are my twin or something...
:-)(Well, not so good for you really, but nice to not feel so alone... I hope you get what I mean)
Sorry about getting a bit wound up...
I'm doing alright now.
I guess I just wanted to say that it was good (in a funny kind of way) to get some of that out there...
(Never have said that to anybody before...)Declan...
Yeah.
That is really interesting...
I would like to talk about that more...
MUST DO THESIS!!!
But I would like to talk about that more...Because...
Yeah, it is hard.
I don't condone people doing those things...
Not at all
Nope
But it is interesting...
About how some offenders say that they did it out of love etc
And yeah, that is a bit messed up...
But sometimes...
You can kind of see where they are coming from...
Which is not to condone it at all...
Just to point out that there is a difference between violent assault and the other kind of thing...
And it is interesting that people are considered 'monsters' rather than messed up...
And it is interesting that considering them to be 'monsters' shifts the burden of responsibility to the offending individual...
Which leads us to pass over the social factors that contribute etc etc...
And it is hard...
It is really very hard.
There is a whole heap more to 'abuse' than gets typically talked about...
And... I guess I don't consider what happened to me to be abuse because...
I was willing.
But I guess...
Its not a black and white issue.Though for the next two weeks it is a FORGOTTEN issue
I swear...Going now...
:-(
Posted by alexandra_k on November 29, 2005, at 3:47:52
In reply to Re: sorry. Not stupid.Very kind.:) » Tabitha, posted by alexandra_k on November 29, 2005, at 3:11:18
> Though I should also say that the term has fairly affectionate connotations now...
Well... In a 'come here ya p*mmy bastard - mate'
ruffle your hair
slap ya around (lightly)
kinda way...hmm.
Posted by cricket on November 29, 2005, at 7:40:20
In reply to Re: Cricket and Declan, posted by alexandra_k on November 29, 2005, at 3:19:19
It is an interesting discussion.
But now off to your thesis, my lovely twin sister.
I'll talk to you soon.
Posted by Dinah on November 29, 2005, at 9:42:46
In reply to Re: Being Supportive, posted by Dr. Bob on November 29, 2005, at 1:46:00
Ok. I was just concerned with consistency. Supportive would have been ok.
But for the sake of argument, what if the poster had apologized for any distress and reiterated her caring before repeating her point?
Or do you make allowances for relationships between posters? So that if two posters who are known to be on good terms have the same conversation, you might treat it differently? I'm just trying to resolve remaining inconsistencies. :)
By the way, I think the latter scenario would be a good thing not a bad one. At least I think it would. I would hate to see friends punished for a bit of bluntness. I've been on the receiving end a few times, and if I'm assured of the goodwill behind it, it's hard to be really offended.
Posted by Dinah on November 29, 2005, at 9:52:41
In reply to sorry. nevermind. stupid assumption :-( (nm) » Dinah, posted by 10derHeart on November 28, 2005, at 23:24:23
That's why I tested it in the body of the post and looked it up. I still tend to asterisk it.
The ways of the auto-asterisk are mysterious. :)
Posted by Tabitha on November 29, 2005, at 11:43:53
In reply to Re: sorry. Not stupid.Very kind.:) » Tabitha, posted by alexandra_k on November 29, 2005, at 3:11:18
Wow, thanks for clearing that up. It was kind of disturbing to think that the word for cute fluffy yarn ornaments might have some unpleasant alternate meaning.
Posted by Declan on November 29, 2005, at 13:46:31
In reply to Re: Cricket and Declan » alexandra_k, posted by cricket on November 29, 2005, at 7:40:20
Yeah, it wasn't to condone the actions, but really, a much older man has (some sort of) sex with a thousand schoolboys and not one of them complains. (With pardonnable excuse) I can't think of a better indicator of the emptiness and lovelessness of so many kids lives. It was over 20 years or so. That's the context, if you follow my drift.
Declan
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