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Posted by Dr. Bob on October 25, 2003, at 12:26:15
In reply to Re: A little learning » Dr. Bob, posted by Ilene on October 25, 2003, at 9:48:17
> > I was afraid Hanks might feel you were implying that he had only a little learning...
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> I was. He seems to likes Classical literary allusions, that's why I used the Pierian spring quote. I didn't think that was a deeply wounding insult.
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> Is there a way to say, "You don't know what you're talking about," in a way that enhances someone's self-esteem?
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> I have more than one so-called hidden disability and being told I'm not really sick is a trigger for me. *That* is deeply wounding.Please don't insult people here. Even if you intend to inflict only superficial wounds.
It's fine to give others feedback as long as its constructive. Or just to keep your reaction to yourself. I'm sorry you felt wounded, but two wrongs don't make a right.
Bob
Posted by MamaB on October 25, 2003, at 13:35:27
In reply to Re: A little learning » Ilene, posted by Dr. Bob on October 25, 2003, at 12:26:15
IMHO: Sometimes a little reality therapy is just what is needed. What if all we did was go around and make people feel "supported" and "accepted" ? It seems to me that that is part of the problem in this post-moderan society. We have children who have never really grown up because they have gone through life, school etc, getting their "self-esteem" protected or reinforced. One does not need to be cruel; the facts can be presented in a positive way. Will it be non-"threatning ?" Maybe, maybe not. We all have to learn to, as a popular saying goes --"DEAL WITH IT"
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 25, 2003, at 13:56:16
In reply to Re: A little learning yes Ilene!, posted by MamaB on October 25, 2003, at 13:35:27
> Sometimes a little reality therapy is just what is needed... One does not need to be cruel; the facts can be presented in a positive way.
It's fine to give others feedback as long as its constructive. Would you consider it a form of "reality therapy" to be blocked from posting? That does happen in some cases...
> Will it be non-"threatning ?" Maybe, maybe not. We all have to learn to, as a popular saying goes --"DEAL WITH IT"
Don't people already have enough of it to deal with? IMO, they don't need more of it here.
Bob
Posted by Brio D Chimp on October 25, 2003, at 14:16:15
In reply to Re: reality therapy, posted by Dr. Bob on October 25, 2003, at 13:56:16
> Don't people already have enough of it to deal with? IMO, they don't need more of it here.
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> Bob
Posted by galkeepinon on October 25, 2003, at 14:28:57
In reply to Re: reality therapy, posted by Dr. Bob on October 25, 2003, at 13:56:16
>>> Don't people already have enough of it to deal with? IMO, they don't need more of it here.
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> Bob
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I Soooooooooooo Agree!!!!
Thanks Bob for reminding us:-)
Posted by Dinah on October 25, 2003, at 14:44:33
In reply to I agree with yr grace regarding reality » Dr. Bob, posted by Brio D Chimp on October 25, 2003, at 14:16:15
Great to see you, my friend! Sticking around for a while this time? I thought you didn't get your get out of jail card till the end of November?
My memory stinks.
Posted by Brio D Chimp on October 25, 2003, at 16:34:28
In reply to Re: Brio!!!!!, posted by Dinah on October 25, 2003, at 14:44:33
that seems to have become optional ;) I don't see any point in voluntarily banning myself anymore since it's become just a suggestion. It was never very enforcable anyway. I hope the others in the gulag will recieve their pardons or whatever.....if they want to come back. I must say I'm a little baffled by our Bob. But that's the price of unreality I spose...........Thanks for remembering me. you were a big help at the time of my first departure from the board!!
> Great to see you, my friend! Sticking around for a while this time? I thought you didn't get your get out of jail card till the end of November?
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> My memory stinks.
Posted by Dinah on October 25, 2003, at 16:49:29
In reply to I have paid my debt to society in full tho » Dinah, posted by Brio D Chimp on October 25, 2003, at 16:34:28
I was a bit too much help. :(
I'm glad you're sticking around. I've missed you.
Posted by MamaB on October 25, 2003, at 19:34:04
In reply to Re: reality therapy, posted by Dr. Bob on October 25, 2003, at 13:56:16
> > Sometimes a little reality therapy is just what is needed... One does not need to be cruel; the facts can be presented in a positive way.
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> It's fine to give others feedback as long as its constructive. Would you consider it a form of "reality therapy" to be blocked from posting? That does happen in some cases...
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I DO hope the above is not intended as a threat!
Yes blocking is a form of confronting honestly.> > Will it be non-"threatning ?" Maybe, maybe not. We all have to learn to, as a popular saying goes --"DEAL WITH IT"
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> Don't people already have enough of it to deal with? IMO, they don't need more of it here.
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> BobOf course. I realize that it is an individual thing. Not every one can tolerate honesty. Which by the way, is probably the word I should have used instead of "reality therapy".
I have a reputation as "a tough old broad", but in fifteen years of practice, I have never had a client terminate because of my being honest.
I shall attempt to be judicious in further posts. I was addressing the over-done "self-esteem" business as an issue in our whole society/culture. I shall attempt to be judicious in further posts. MB
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 28, 2003, at 0:20:47
In reply to Re: reality therapy Dr. Bob, posted by MamaB on October 25, 2003, at 19:34:04
This is the end of the thread.
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