![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 3 of 3. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by trouble on March 10, 2002, at 19:32:05
Dr. Bob,
When someone challenges me in a disrespectful manner and I reply in any way that can't be characterized as "prostrate" I think it unfair to keep a record of my admonishment, if you do in fact keep records.
The admonishment I can handle, it would be inconsistent for you to ignore fighting words, regardless of the circumstances.
But when someone lays down the gauntlet, when I am challenged to a dual, so to speak I believe I am within my ethical rights to match wits w/the individual who has put me on the defensive. In doing so I will use the rhetorical skills available to me as I have access to no others. And I will reply passionately to any posts I feel invalidate me as a person. If I fail to reply in kind, I will suffer a narcissistic wounding, which is unacceptable, only lost causes are granted that particular privilege. I don't want to see anyone in this community as a lost cause. Whether it shows or not I am fighting for a relationship, to the best of my ability, before giving up, b/c I think it can be salvaged, once the dust settles. But we are not even on personal
terms yet, the individual and I have been arguing semantic and moral principles, I don't know why she was hurt by my aborted post; and I am not entitled to know, b/c that's not supposed to matter. What matters is:
I was ignorant and immoral, I have been found out, and now I must admit it. Well fine, if this is the ground she wants to place us on I'm not about to turn my back. My thinking was eventually we'll get passed this orgy of self-righteousness, and may even end up bonding over it. Some of us have more surface to scratch til you get to the heart underneath, I make no apologies for this in myself, and accept it when I perceive it in others. It's a process. That's not to say I regret your intervention, I expected it WEEKS AGO, but am just trying to make a case for patience, ambiguity, and dare I say mystery in the course of human relationship.
But, back to my original question, does the reprimand I got go on some kind of record?
How many reprimands are permitted before a person is blocked, and how do we keep track of the number?With respect,
trouble
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 10, 2002, at 22:08:48
In reply to For Dr. Bob, posted by trouble on March 10, 2002, at 19:32:05
> when someone lays down the gauntlet, when I am challenged to a dual, so to speak I believe I am within my ethical rights to match wits w/the individual who has put me on the defensive.
Yes, but this isn't the place. Please "step outside" for that.
> If I fail to reply in kind, I will suffer a narcissistic wounding, which is unacceptable
Maybe trying to accept an occasional narcissistic wound might not be so bad?
> But, back to my original question, does the reprimand I got go on some kind of record?
It stays online, like all (well, most) other posts, is that what you mean?
> How many reprimands are permitted before a person is blocked, and how do we keep track of the number?
In general, the first time I ask people to please be civil, the second time I start blocking them.
Bob
Posted by trouble on March 10, 2002, at 22:43:21
In reply to Re: gauntlets, posted by Dr. Bob on March 10, 2002, at 22:08:48
thanks Dr. Bob for reading my post so carefully. Please see my new promise regarding any future civility skirmeshes, hope you approve
trouble
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Administration | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.