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Posted by Bob12 on June 11, 2009, at 7:37:21
Does anyone else really not liked to be looked at, even during conversation? When people look at me I get uncomfortable.
Bob
Posted by Phillipa on June 11, 2009, at 12:44:18
In reply to Anxiety when being looked at, posted by Bob12 on June 11, 2009, at 7:37:21
I get anxious if can't escape from other people it's so draining. Love Phillipa so I guess that's a yes.
Posted by rjlockhart04-08 on June 11, 2009, at 19:43:47
In reply to Re: Anxiety when being looked at » Bob12, posted by Phillipa on June 11, 2009, at 12:44:18
self-counsious to all i can know. The image you give does effect, diffrent way's people view you. Been through this before long ago, 1st day of high school....ancient days ago.
Just know who your are, represent, and the speech and your image will build. Be sure, to be true, no fakeness.
takecare
rj
Posted by ace on June 11, 2009, at 20:56:52
In reply to Anxiety when being looked at, posted by Bob12 on June 11, 2009, at 7:37:21
> Does anyone else really not liked to be looked at, even during conversation? When people look at me I get uncomfortable.
>
> BobHi Bob,
How often do you feel this? Does it include all of society or people around your age?
In what situations do you feel this most strongly?
Ace
Posted by Michael Bell on June 11, 2009, at 21:54:58
In reply to Anxiety when being looked at, posted by Bob12 on June 11, 2009, at 7:37:21
I get that. But not nearly as bad as I used to, ever since I started Lexapro + Risperdal + therapy. Even klonopin and nardil did not help as much as that combo.
Posted by floatingbridge on June 12, 2009, at 13:27:42
In reply to Re: Anxiety when being looked at, posted by Michael Bell on June 11, 2009, at 21:54:58
Yes, meds + therapy help me with SP. One without the other doesn't seem to work.
Posted by Sigismund on June 12, 2009, at 21:08:41
In reply to Re: Anxiety when being looked at, posted by ace on June 11, 2009, at 20:56:52
Since the optic nerve is part of the brain, a shared look is really brain to brain and mind to mind contact, so it is no wonder people are sensitive about it.
Posted by yxibow on June 13, 2009, at 19:59:34
In reply to Anxiety when being looked at, posted by Bob12 on June 11, 2009, at 7:37:21
> Does anyone else really not liked to be looked at, even during conversation? When people look at me I get uncomfortable.
>
> BobIt sounds sort of like a cross between social phobia and self-esteem. Do you like how you appear to yourself?
-- Jay
Posted by manic 666 on June 14, 2009, at 4:23:41
In reply to Re: Anxiety when being looked at » Bob12, posted by yxibow on June 13, 2009, at 19:59:34
my gp does this weird thing when talking to him . i can look at him, but his eyes start flickering like he wants to not focus on me.an i mean flickering like humming birds wings , i have all on not pissing myself
Posted by floatingbridge on June 14, 2009, at 14:01:22
In reply to Anxiety when being looked at, posted by Bob12 on June 11, 2009, at 7:37:21
Just for perspective, esp. after Maniac's post. Alot of people don't like being looked at--not just us random folks on Babble. Consider the time spent on grooming, clothes, sunglasses, and the list goes on. Being looked at IS intense. Gorillas avoid eye contact-many animals do.
Then again, those of us with SP, like me, well, the discomfort is more pronounced....
Posted by obsidian on June 15, 2009, at 0:32:08
In reply to Anxiety when being looked at, posted by Bob12 on June 11, 2009, at 7:37:21
depends on to what degree I am being looked at, and in what way
I used to not be able to tolerate much eye contact, I'm a lot better at it now
I'm not good at eye contact though when I don't think the other person likes me or when I am saying something I am not particularly proud of
Posted by yxibow on June 15, 2009, at 1:51:44
In reply to Re: Anxiety when being looked at » Bob12, posted by obsidian on June 15, 2009, at 0:32:08
One also has to consider the person's eyes with eye contact.
I had a professor for the longest time that I thought was looking away from me when I realized that he had glaucoma.
Not that its a common occurrence, but one never knows.
Posted by Phillipa on June 15, 2009, at 20:24:14
In reply to Re: Anxiety when being looked at, posted by yxibow on June 15, 2009, at 1:51:44
My ex husband never looked anyone in the eye in his case he was a pathological lier. Phillipa
Posted by Amelia_in_StPaul on June 16, 2009, at 12:08:52
In reply to Anxiety when being looked at, posted by Bob12 on June 11, 2009, at 7:37:21
when I'm depressed, anxious, or my self-esteem is in the dumps (as it is now--gaining 15 pounds in a year is just not cool), I really have a problem w/it. When feeling better, I'm OK with it.
> Does anyone else really not liked to be looked at, even during conversation? When people look at me I get uncomfortable.
>
> Bob
Posted by desolationrower on June 19, 2009, at 7:34:17
In reply to Re: Anxiety when being looked at, posted by Amelia_in_StPaul on June 16, 2009, at 12:08:52
hm, i have social anxiety, but i'm more comfortable when i'm being looked at.
-d/r
Posted by manic666 on June 24, 2009, at 3:33:38
In reply to Re: Anxiety when being looked at, posted by desolationrower on June 19, 2009, at 7:34:17
my point on the doc ficking his eyes , make me think he is lieing or pissed off, a gp should have the bottle to look a patinent in the eye
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