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Posted by twinmom on June 15, 2004, at 13:56:13
I am so sad and lost - I don't know what to do now - my depression has
finally worn my husband down to the point of being numb to my tears.
He told me this weekend that he loves me - but he doesn't want to take
a day off together or try to go away for a weekend with just me (we have
4 kids (ages 15, 9, and 2 year old twins).
What do I do know - he is the one I go to to cry and be consoled. I hate
this depression - it is seriously hurting my relationship.
I just wanted to be able to tell this to someone - there is no one else now.
Posted by Megs on June 15, 2004, at 15:21:47
In reply to This depression keep costing me things I love, posted by twinmom on June 15, 2004, at 13:56:13
How do you feel about taking a medication for your depression? I've been taking Wellbutrin XL for about a month and I have a huge improvement in my mood. I can still be sad, but I wake up in the morning happy, and it takes alot more to get me sad then it used to. I haven't had any side effects besides a loss of appetite and thats one that I like. I would suggest taking to your doctor about an anti-depressant because Its helped me a lot. good luck!
Posted by twinmom on June 15, 2004, at 15:42:21
In reply to Re: This depression keep costing me things I love, posted by Megs on June 15, 2004, at 15:21:47
Thank you for the response - unfortunatly I am already on Zoloft (200mg), Wellbutrin(150mg), Risperdall(1mg) and Depakote(200mg) - and have been for months - although I just started the wellbutrin 1 1/2 weeks ago - so I still need to give that time to work. I have never had any real Manic episodes. but my new pdoc has diagnosed me as bipolar (hence the depakote and risperdall)
> How do you feel about taking a medication for your depression? I've been taking Wellbutrin XL for about a month and I have a huge improvement in my mood. I can still be sad, but I wake up in the morning happy, and it takes alot more to get me sad then it used to. I haven't had any side effects besides a loss of appetite and thats one that I like. I would suggest taking to your doctor about an anti-depressant because Its helped me a lot. good luck!
Posted by Sinnielou on June 15, 2004, at 18:36:34
In reply to This depression keep costing me things I love, posted by twinmom on June 15, 2004, at 13:56:13
> I am so sad and lost - I don't know what to do now - my depression has
> finally worn my husband down to the point of being numb to my tears.
> He told me this weekend that he loves me - but he doesn't want to take
> a day off together or try to go away for a weekend with just me (we have
> 4 kids (ages 15, 9, and 2 year old twins).
> What do I do know - he is the one I go to to cry and be consoled. I hate
> this depression - it is seriously hurting my relationship.
> I just wanted to be able to tell this to someone - there is no one else now.Hi, I feel for you I know how hard it is to keep a happy face on for everyone you love. Have you ever thought about starting a scrap book with cut outs and pictures of things that you really love and things that make you happy? Plus it's also a good activity for the kids to do as well. I hope all goes well for you, you are in my thoughts.
Shannon
Posted by littlep24 on June 15, 2004, at 18:46:48
In reply to This depression keep costing me things I love, posted by twinmom on June 15, 2004, at 13:56:13
We all experience depression in our own ways. I have two small children and a husband that I have been with for 10 years of battling depression. My problem is I am so depressed that I can't talk to him without crying because I know he has had it with all my issues. I have fallen out of love due to being so down on myself. He says he is there to support me but he can be a bit emotionally abusive when he is frustrated. Sorry for ranting, I really wanted to say that you are not alone in your frustration with this disease it sucks the life out of us. Hopefully a mix of meds can help out of it.
Posted by Holli-Anne on June 15, 2004, at 22:32:04
In reply to Re: This depression keep costing me things I love » twinmom, posted by littlep24 on June 15, 2004, at 18:46:48
It's cost me a lot of people who i love as well. Seems i always take and take.. and seem to give none.... "too needy" is what people say. However, after having been on the right combo of medication for 5 months, its improving.!
Posted by Sinnielou on June 15, 2004, at 23:14:37
In reply to Re: things i lost, posted by Holli-Anne on June 15, 2004, at 22:32:04
I also wanted to say but forgot in my last post. Never give up hope ever the right medication combo is out there for you don't get discouraged easier said than done, but when you find it you will know.
Keep your head up!!
Shannon
Posted by Caper on June 16, 2004, at 2:33:31
In reply to This depression keep costing me things I love, posted by twinmom on June 15, 2004, at 13:56:13
To everyone who posted in this thread, I can relate. What I really wanted to say though, was do you (especially twinmom) have therapists as well as psychiatrists? I'm all for meds, don't get me wrong, but the talking thing can be so amazing if you find the right therapist or group.
I've only ever done groups in in-patient psych hospitals, but they can be amazingly, astoundingly helpful sometimes (of course sometimes they're annoying and pointless- it can vary from day to day) but some type of support group might be a really good thing. If you've never done it before (group therapy) it can be very scary getting up the nerve, but it becomes comforting very quickly because everyone who has been there for a while remembers their own fears from when they started and goes out of their way to welcome and soothe new members.
Just a thought in case some of you all haven't tried it.
Best wishes,
Caper
> I am so sad and lost - I don't know what to do now - my depression has
> finally worn my husband down to the point of being numb to my tears.
> He told me this weekend that he loves me - but he doesn't want to take
> a day off together or try to go away for a weekend with just me (we have
> 4 kids (ages 15, 9, and 2 year old twins).
> What do I do know - he is the one I go to to cry and be consoled. I hate
> this depression - it is seriously hurting my relationship.
> I just wanted to be able to tell this to someone - there is no one else now.
Posted by littlep24 on June 16, 2004, at 5:08:56
In reply to Re: things i lost, posted by Holli-Anne on June 15, 2004, at 22:32:04
Wow isn't it the truth take and take and don't give back. Needy is my first name not even my second. The problem for me is I realizing that this is where I am in my life. I think if I could handle that I wouldn't be so needed and I wouldn't lose so much friends etc.
GLAD TO HEAR THINGS ARE LOOKING UP FOR YOU
Posted by littlep24 on June 16, 2004, at 5:14:36
In reply to don't forget therapy in combo with meds, posted by Caper on June 16, 2004, at 2:33:31
When I read about therapy I get deeper into depression. I have been in therapy for over 10 years and have been in group for about 3 months. I don't know how to really explain why it triggers me except that I for some reason do not have the ability to let in the information given to me. I have been told that I have a "blockage" in my mind. I don't know how to overcome it and frustration of the time and energy has worn me down to a stub.
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