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Posted by cocohoneynut on March 15, 2004, at 6:30:20
Howdy all...
I hope everyone else is feeling better than I do. To begin with, I've been on Paxil, Lexapro and now I'm on Effexor and I've gone from 165 to 181 in a matter of 5 months.
Yesterday, my hubby and I went to go see his aunt and grandmother who live 20 minutes away. His grandmother said to me, "....you're fat..." and I haven't been the same since. When I talked to my husband about it, he said, ..."you can't let anything Granny says get the best of you". I told my husband I work out, I watch what I eat, I do everything I can to lose the weight and it's the meds. I cried myself to sleep last night and this morning going to work I cried also. I feel BLAH and just don't want to exist (wish I could crawl under a rock and become a hermit). Thanks for hearing me out...
Posted by Sad Panda on March 15, 2004, at 6:55:28
In reply to JUST A SAD STORY, posted by cocohoneynut on March 15, 2004, at 6:30:20
> Howdy all...
> I hope everyone else is feeling better than I do. To begin with, I've been on Paxil, Lexapro and now I'm on Effexor and I've gone from 165 to 181 in a matter of 5 months.
> Yesterday, my hubby and I went to go see his aunt and grandmother who live 20 minutes away. His grandmother said to me, "....you're fat..." and I haven't been the same since. When I talked to my husband about it, he said, ..."you can't let anything Granny says get the best of you". I told my husband I work out, I watch what I eat, I do everything I can to lose the weight and it's the meds. I cried myself to sleep last night and this morning going to work I cried also. I feel BLAH and just don't want to exist (wish I could crawl under a rock and become a hermit). Thanks for hearing me out...
>
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>What a mean old woman, I'd ring her back & tell her she's old & wrinkly. :) I try & ignore petty & small minded people.
Cheers,
Panda.
Posted by Bob on March 15, 2004, at 15:29:12
In reply to JUST A SAD STORY, posted by cocohoneynut on March 15, 2004, at 6:30:20
Try to hang in there. There are certain things about these meds (besides the fact that they don't seem to work very well for many people) that there's just no getting around. Reduced or eradicated functioning/libido, and weight gain are two really big ones. I have fought the weight gain and what people say about it for years. Judgements of others' weights is deeply, deeply, deeply ingrained in our psyche. Among other things, it subconciously indicates gluttony, laziness, and lack of self control to others. Not true in most cases, but that's the message that's sent to our primitive brains. I have a number of friends of a certain race that I won't mention here that think nothing of talking about how fat you are whenever they see you after a long hiatus. One of them, the last time I visited said, "you getter fatter every time you come down here". Believe it or not, it does get a little easier to here that, but not much. Also, I'm a guy, so that helps a little to. However, I'm overly sensitive to that kinda stuff. Another thing I find interesting is that if you ever do lose the weight, you will hear all the people who managed to hold their tongue complimenting the heck out of you, as if to say they hated the old you, and the new you is much more acceptable. Of course, compliments are extremely helpful thought.
The only thing I can say is that you have to tough it out. There are truly no magical answers to these problems. If your husband understands, and he seems to, you have to try and work with that. Hang in there.
Posted by sl on March 15, 2004, at 18:32:12
In reply to JUST A SAD STORY, posted by cocohoneynut on March 15, 2004, at 6:30:20
Hehe, you may eventually lose the weight, but the old lady will always be a bitch. ;)
Posted by rainbowlight on March 15, 2004, at 20:28:44
In reply to JUST A SAD STORY, posted by cocohoneynut on March 15, 2004, at 6:30:20
I can totally relate. I have gained 30 plus pounds on meds. I tried everything to get it off, exercising, cutting the calories. I finally went on Atkins, lost it, got tired of the diet, and gained it all back. I have also had rude remarks about my weight and it hurts. And people don't even understand it when you try to explain it is caused by the meds. Hang in there, at least your husband is supportive and that is the most important.
Posted by JoshG on March 15, 2004, at 22:45:44
In reply to JUST A SAD STORY, posted by cocohoneynut on March 15, 2004, at 6:30:20
Sorry your having a hard time. Don't know what's worse sometimes, the depression or side effects from the meds. Hurtful comments don't help either.
Hang in there!
Posted by Simus on March 16, 2004, at 3:33:06
In reply to JUST A SAD STORY, posted by cocohoneynut on March 15, 2004, at 6:30:20
I am so sorry. People can be idiots.
Posted by cocohoneynut on March 16, 2004, at 8:02:18
In reply to JUST A SAD STORY, posted by cocohoneynut on March 15, 2004, at 6:30:20
Thank you all for your comments...
When I got home yesterday after work, my hubby bought me roses!! HE MADE MY DAY BETTER!! As a matter of fact, this website is very supportive!! Once again, thanks for listening!!
Posted by green hornet on March 18, 2004, at 12:33:12
In reply to Re: JUST A SAD STORY, posted by cocohoneynut on March 16, 2004, at 8:02:18
> Thank you all for your comments...
> When I got home yesterday after work, my hubby bought me roses!! HE MADE MY DAY BETTER!! As a matter of fact, this website is very supportive!! Once again, thanks for listening!!Hey, great! Just to add my two cents....when I have gained weight in the past my spouse refused to believe that it was the med and said I just lacked will power...........I came off two AD's in the last year and lost 50 big ones with hardly any effort!! Finally changed somebody's tune !! GH
Posted by shadows721 on March 18, 2004, at 20:00:21
In reply to JUST A SAD STORY, posted by cocohoneynut on March 15, 2004, at 6:30:20
I think that comment was cruel and totally heartless. I think the people that make comments about weight are the ones who have themselves fought with that issue. I have seen many mothers damn their daughters about weight. The very mothers that do that are on laxatives and starve themselves. I wonder if granny takes a lot of laxatives herself. Most of the older generation believed in laxatives everyday. If not, she needs on put in her mouth a.s.a.p.
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