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Posted by janejj on July 24, 2002, at 14:13:02
.............I need a drug for my lonliness. Ever since i have moved to this new place I have been so lonely i want to die.
Janejj
Posted by oracle on July 24, 2002, at 14:53:52
In reply to Drug for lonliness............, posted by janejj on July 24, 2002, at 14:13:02
What are you doing to meet new people ?
Posted by Bobby on July 24, 2002, at 16:51:54
In reply to Drug for lonliness............, posted by janejj on July 24, 2002, at 14:13:02
Janejj,Please see a doctor---it just might save your life. We will be here to listen until you do. try the psycho-social babble. Hang in there jane
Posted by chiron on July 24, 2002, at 18:28:47
In reply to Re: Drug for lonliness............, posted by Bobby on July 24, 2002, at 16:51:54
I feel your pain. I moved to a new place with exciting anticipation- then when reality hit I hit rock bottom. My hormones got screwy, and I would wake up at 3 am every morning in a deep depression. I went on Prozac again, which helped some. How long have you lived there? It does get easier. But the prob is, when you don't feel well, you don't feel like taking the risk to go out & meet people. It's a self-perpetuating cycle.
Posted by Xevious on July 25, 2002, at 0:20:36
In reply to Re: Drug for lonliness............, posted by chiron on July 24, 2002, at 18:28:47
Oh, Janejj, I hear you loud and clear. I moved from a major metropolitan area (my preferred environment) to a *very* rural area six months ago, and I'm still fighting loneliness, depression and a bit of general hopelessness.
The bad news is that there really isn't a drug for this, except finding new friends! Hard to do when you feel like crap, though.
The GOOD news is that a good therapist and/or antidepressants (maybe something activating like Wellbutrin or Prozac) can really help you get through this low point so you can get out and meet some new people! And it *does* get better - even though I still haven't completely adjusted, I am so much better now than I was only six months ago.
Talk to a good doctor, look up a therapist, and keep in touch with us. Hang in there!
-Xevious
Posted by Hattree on July 25, 2002, at 9:09:41
In reply to Re: Drug for lonliness............, posted by Xevious on July 25, 2002, at 0:20:36
I think the drug for that one is TIME.
I am the type who gets depressed by spending too much time alone and lose all social confidence when depressed...perhaps you know the cycle.
After quite a few moves I have learned that they all suck, but that at some point you get a break and life gets better again.
Therapy and meds can help, though. Please see someone if you are not. Life is too short to prolong the misery.
Posted by joberry on July 30, 2002, at 21:52:58
In reply to Drug for lonliness............, posted by janejj on July 24, 2002, at 14:13:02
Hi Janejj. What you don't seem to realize is, that that overwhelming feeling of lonliness is PART of the depression. Talk to your doctor first. Tell him/her that you are feeling lonely. Your antidepressant needs to have a 'kick' to it. In healthy people, socialization comes fairly naturally. It's the depression that's confusing you. Talk to your doctor. Then search out places like work, school and gymnasiums to make lasting contacts. Once the depression is lifted, it will be easy for you to get involved in conversations, and you will make friends. You've already shown that you have the inner skills to reach out and touch someone... you did it here!
Posted by Gabbi on July 31, 2002, at 19:36:13
In reply to Re: Drug for lonliness............, posted by joberry on July 30, 2002, at 21:52:58
Can't add anything to your answer.. though being gabbi I undoubtedly will. Well put Joberry.
When I had my first depression I had no idea what it was, I felt absolutely terrifyingly lonely, and I had really good friends I could call on anytime....
I felt like all there was for me inevevitably was empty room after empty room and then death.
It was absolutely real.There is no way anyone could have talked me out of that feeling, I actually became frightened by the phone because phoning my friends no longer comforted me, and that made me more lonely.I don't know why I'm trying to get something across that I never would have believed at the time, or even now when I relapse. But its true, its the depression, you've got to wait for the medication to "kick in"
Hang on Jane.
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