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Posted by Aylese on May 3, 2000, at 21:45:55
I was transferred hundreds of miles away from my identical twin sister a few years ago and still can hardly get over it. We went through a tragic childhood together..alcholic and abusive parents, poverty, suicides of family members, family mental illness, etc, etc. Both of us and several sibs "inherited" depression but no alchoholism or other bad effects. We were one another's heart. Now we are separated and I yearn to talk with her and be close to her every day of my life. When we are together our conversations never end. Without her, I can't think of things to talk about to my spouse, neighbors, or coworkers. I want my twin sister!! I am a grown adult woman with grandchildren. Anybody else with this infantile problem? Help!
Aylese
Posted by CarolAnn on May 4, 2000, at 9:15:49
In reply to Twins Interrupted, posted by Aylese on May 3, 2000, at 21:45:55
Dear Aylese, I don't have your problem, but I have a very good friend whose identical twin died of ovarian cancer. I know that she feels exactly the way you do. She misses her sister everyday, and has actually gone to a few psychics to try to get in touch with her.
I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in the way you feel about not being with your twin. CarolAnn
Posted by Cynthia M on May 4, 2000, at 11:00:48
In reply to Re: Twins Interrupted, posted by CarolAnn on May 4, 2000, at 9:15:49
> Dear Aylese, I have a daughter who is 6 and is a surviving twin. It may seem odd but her twin died during their pregnancy and she talks of him often. I also have a set of 3 year old twins , (boy, girl) and they are inseparable. I think that there maybe nothing stronger on the earth than the bond between twins. What a wonderful relationship to have. I hope that you and your sister are able to find a solution that is liveable. I am sure she is probably dealing with the same kind of problem. Maybe you could come up with a plan that you are both happy with and can afford, maybe keeping a journal for each other? I don't know if that would help. Anyway {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} I hope you will feel better and no, you are not being silly. Why should our emotions change just because we get older?
Posted by Noa on May 5, 2000, at 16:32:58
In reply to Re: Twins Interrupted, posted by Cynthia M on May 4, 2000, at 11:00:48
There was a great article in the New Yorker a few years ago about twins. It was fascinating!!
Posted by CraigF on May 5, 2000, at 16:49:32
In reply to Re: Twins Interrupted, posted by CarolAnn on May 4, 2000, at 9:15:49
I must say, I envy your situation. Enjoying closeness of that magnitude with anybody is one of the most precious things a human can experience. Maybe that's why it hurts so much. Your were blessed to be part of her and now you are blessed with her memories.
Sorry, I know that may seem cold comfort for you now.
Posted by Aylese on May 5, 2000, at 22:21:22
In reply to Re: Twins Interrupted, posted by CraigF on May 5, 2000, at 16:49:32
Thanks so much for your kind comments. Just having you listen and respond means a lot. Much appreciated.
Aylese
Posted by Noa on May 7, 2000, at 12:37:00
In reply to Twin Interrupted Thanks, posted by Aylese on May 5, 2000, at 22:21:22
Reading these posts, I am reminded of the fantasies I had all the time as a child, of being a twin, or of finding a long lost twin. It was a way to think of myself as not being so alone.
I can only imagine that if I were a twin and were separated suddenly from her, it would be an incredible loss, even with all the instantaneous communication technology. There is nothing like being with someone in person. And when that someone is so much like you and understands what you experience and how you experience it, so much more the loss.
Posted by afatchic on May 7, 2000, at 14:48:24
In reply to Re: Twin Interrupted Thanks, posted by Noa on May 7, 2000, at 12:37:00
Well Noa, I guess I'm not the only one with twin fantasy. I've had the same thoughts since childhood. How nice it would be to have someone so much like myself. It would be easier for me to be accepting of "me". On the strange side - I did know one young woman who had an identical twin sister and she claimed to hate her twin. She was very vehement on the subject and had not seen or spoken to her twin in years.
> Reading these posts, I am reminded of the fantasies I had all the time as a child, of being a twin, or of finding a long lost twin. It was a way to think of myself as not being so alone.
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> I can only imagine that if I were a twin and were separated suddenly from her, it would be an incredible loss, even with all the instantaneous communication technology. There is nothing like being with someone in person. And when that someone is so much like you and understands what you experience and how you experience it, so much more the loss.
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