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Posted by coral on January 20, 2006, at 22:30:19
My mother passed away after a lengthy illness. The kaleidiscope of emotions...........and the depth of my exhaustion...
Coral
Posted by allisonm on January 21, 2006, at 13:34:54
In reply to loss and renewal, posted by coral on January 20, 2006, at 22:30:19
Coral,
I'm so sorry. I lost my mother in 1998 and still think of her every day.Please take good care of yourself and let others help. It's important.
Allison
Posted by shar on January 21, 2006, at 21:28:03
In reply to loss and renewal, posted by coral on January 20, 2006, at 22:30:19
Coral,
I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your mother. I know things were not always easy with her and about her, and I hope you will take care and......talk to a grief counselor, if it will help...and...
pray or ask for prayers, if it will help... and...
just take care of yourself and be a lump, if need be.
My short prayer for roadkill (I live in the boonies, and see a lot of it) is "Blessed be, comfort thee, if need be." I know that "roadkill" may sound cold and awful to some, but...comfort thee. And so mote it be.
xoxoxo
Shar
Posted by Kath on January 27, 2006, at 19:05:55
In reply to Re: loss and renewal » coral, posted by shar on January 21, 2006, at 21:28:03
Coral - I send you my warm, nurturing, supportive thoughts.
My Mom died when I was in my early 20's & I still miss her.
My Mom & I had a wonderful relationship, which, I think, makes it uncomplicated for me in my ongoing grieving. I suspect it's not that easy for everyone.
Please take care of yourself; be gentle with yourself; be accepting of wherever you are on all levels.
much love, Kath
Posted by coral on January 28, 2006, at 8:19:19
In reply to loss and renewal, posted by coral on January 20, 2006, at 22:30:19
My deepest thanks to all for your kindnesses.
Shar, lumping is really good advice, she said while lumping! I'm grieving a lot through my dreams. So, I guess until my psyche gets done, restorative sleep isn't on the list. Certainly am learning a lot...
xoxoxo
Coral
Posted by shar on January 28, 2006, at 23:55:50
In reply to Re: loss and renewal, posted by coral on January 28, 2006, at 8:19:19
Coral,
When you're up to it, and there is no pressure or timeline, I'd really like to know about grieving through dreams. My father passed when I was 14, and then, later, in my 40's, I had a very cathartic dream about the event.
I don't know quite how to say it...it would be so helpful to know how that works in your dreams. I was a hospice volunteer (but since I took a 2nd job I am not any longer)...and that seems so relevent to the people I have talked with.
It was like during the day they were on auto-pilot, and then they (family/friends) would return home and sort of collapse and return the next day...but, they never got to grieve, or feel sorry for the loss (or coming loss), or sorry for themselves, or anything. They felt they were bad if they left a half-hour before visiting hours ended, even if they lived 75 miles away.
I used to tell the wives/husbands/daughters/sons that what they were doing (being with their dying loved one) was exhausting, and there was no shame in taking care their own self...but they always seemed to feel so awful about it.
SO, I hope YOU, Coral, will take your time, grieve as the grief fits you, and I know you will be 'you' again. It is sort of like the Phoenix (I hope that's not too hokey). You may be down right now, but you can flow, ride the wave, do what you need to, and come back to us with even more wisdom.
Again, I am very sorry for your loss, and I hope you are taking VERY good care of yourself! (Please!)
xoxoxo
Shar
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