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Posted by allisonm on July 20, 2004, at 8:51:22
Six years ago today, my alcoholic mother died unexpectedly. It was the day after my 12th wedding anniversary and nine days after my then-husband had moved out of the house. Already battling major depression, I felt devastated.
Now, as I look back I see much progress. I have learned how to be my own person rather than to live in the shadow of someone else. I have learned to live alone and to love it. I've attained the courage to quit a miserable job and go back to school to learn more about something I am truly passionate.
There were many times I considered suicide -- particularly in the first three years. I am glad I held on and stuck it out. Good things CAN happen in time.
Posted by Racer on July 20, 2004, at 11:46:02
In reply to Anniversary, posted by allisonm on July 20, 2004, at 8:51:22
Just based on my own experience, I found living alone addictive. In fact, when I met my now-husband, I told him very early on that I'd marry the first man who'd buy a duplex and live in the other half...
Congrats on getting through all this. The situation you describe sounds devastating.
This is only musing on my part, based only on my own reactions to things, but I wonder how much your despair gave you the perverse freedom to choose to go back to school? Seriously -- I've often found that when I'm very nearly suicidal, I'll suddenly be able to, say, quit a terrible job that I've been holding on to out of fear of the unknown. After all, if it doesn't work out, I'll just kill myself... While it's certainly *not* the optimal way to make major life choices, it has advanced my life in a number of situations -- although that's said with the clarity of hindsight.
I'm glad things you're still with us, and very glad you've found a better place for yourself.
Posted by Shar on July 21, 2004, at 13:12:20
In reply to Re: Anniversary, posted by Racer on July 20, 2004, at 11:46:02
Al and Racer,
It is good to hear of success after dark times. I'm listening, just not sure I believe.By that I don't mean I think people are bearing false witness, I guess I just am not sure the good stuff is as lasting or as real as the bad stuff. The bad stuff always seems to win in the long run (no matter how hard one runs).
ewwww, so much for dousing a glimmer of hope with 30 barrels of verbal water. Sorry! I'm having a crisis of faith, I guess.
Shar
Posted by Noa on July 21, 2004, at 21:36:53
In reply to Anniversary, posted by allisonm on July 20, 2004, at 8:51:22
Thanks for posting that. It is important for us all to know. I admire you a lot for what you've been able to achieve.
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