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Posted by NikkiT2 on May 17, 2004, at 12:06:54
OK, this is starting as a quick rant on parties.. I haven't had a birthday party since I was 12.. so, I decided that this year I am having a birthday party. *I* am arranging it, I am paying for it, I am cooking the buffet.. so why the *&^% does everyone else want to stick their oar in?? One brother is moaning that the party is being held near where *I* live and not near where he lives, another brother moaning I can't put him, his wife and daughter up for the night (we live in a V small one bedroomed flat), mum is moaning I don't want to invite x, y and z (second cousins who I can't stand!), another friend moaning about thye fact there will music and then more that I won't meet up wih him that afternoon (cos apparently his day would be a waste of time if he didn't enjoy it).. I'm like, if you don't like it, don't come.. but apparently thats upsetting people. And its like 6 months away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anyway.. We should have a 5th anniversary party here next year!!! OK, so most of us have been here longer, but well, I doubt any of know the exact date, but we do know for a fact we were here in 2000 (hence being on 2000 board *l*)
Damn I'm bored.. 8th day of bad insomnia and my brain is mushed to hell..
Is it OK if I just ramble on!!!
Nikki x
Posted by noa on May 17, 2004, at 17:44:47
In reply to Rambles on parties..., posted by NikkiT2 on May 17, 2004, at 12:06:54
You need to tell all those folks that "regrets only" refers only to whether they can come or not, and NOT to all the little things you supposedly need to do to meet each and every one of their personal needs!
Sheesh! They're driving me nuts already and they're not even my family!!!!
Posted by finelinebob on May 18, 2004, at 6:34:22
In reply to Rambles on parties..., posted by NikkiT2 on May 17, 2004, at 12:06:54
Of course it's okay to ramble on here!...
See, all these ordeals you're going through -- you should just have a surprise party. I've held several for myself ... they're a blast! You just invite whoever's available over and, once they're there, you tell them it's a surprise birthday party for you!!
That's when they look at you with this kinda "Whaaaa?!" expression, and you say:
"Weren't you all surprised?"
They all say, "yeah..."
And you say, "See -- it worked!"happy half-birthday (you did say it was six months away...)
flb
Posted by NikkiT2 on May 18, 2004, at 7:26:57
In reply to Re: Rambles on parties... » NikkiT2, posted by finelinebob on May 18, 2004, at 6:34:22
I just have this need to ramble on about totally unimportant stuff at the moment!!
So, day 9 of this current insomnia bout.. Normally my insomnia pattern is pretty easy to fllow.. 1 week great sleep, 1 weeks okish but not great sleep, 1 week baaaaad sleep (unable to get to sleep but fine once asleep).. Well it seems to have screwed up this time.. I had 10 days of falling alseep OK, but waking up 5 hours later extremely figity, unable to stay in bed and just getting really wound up with my husband being in the bed *lol* Then, 9 days ago it switched to not being able to get to sleep till atleast 4am, and then waking up at around 7:30 - 8 really fidgity and annoyed.. Its messing with my head big style.. I'm not napping during the day (even though I am exhuasted until the second I get into bed at night), drinking only one coffee a day, no soft drinks with caffiene.. And the biggest problem si when I am up in th enight I am STARVING!!! So damned hungry I eat a horse.. luckily I don't keep munchies in the house so I can't pig out.. but I think the hunger then keeps me awake even later.
I'm drinking cammomile tea when up in night to calm me.. trying everything I know of.. marajuana isn't helping, my wonderful zopiclone sleeping pills aren't helping, and last night I took 10mg valium (diazapam) and all that did was make me go wobbly.. but no sleep till dawn.. (so about 5:45)
I've tried warm bath with lavander oil in it before bed, lavander oil on pillow case..
I'm not stressed about it as I have nothing to do during the days.. but it IS making my head go really really mushy and strange... on a different planet kinda mushy and strange.
And I'm smoking SO much..Oh well, just todays ramble *l*
Nikki x
Posted by Racer on May 20, 2004, at 11:42:01
In reply to Insomnia is sending me looopy, posted by NikkiT2 on May 18, 2004, at 7:26:57
I'm going through a major bout of insomnia, too. It really is lousy. At least I know it's largely untreated depression and a great deal of anxiety. If I didn't know that, it would be a lot harder to deal with.
And doesn't it just fry you, trying to be quiet for your husband to sleep when you're up and agitated? I'm waking most mornings between 4:30 and 5:30, after three to five hours of sleep -- on a good day. Then, Hubby wanders out of LumLand about 8:30ish, to find me p*ssed as all get out that he's been sleeping during the few hours in a day that I might be able to channel the agitation and get something done. Wanna chew him up and go sulk in the back of my cage.
As for your friends and family reacting to your part, well -- noa's response was the funniest thing I think I've heard in a month, and I like Bob's suggestion about a surprise party. (Bob, if I move to Michigan, will you invite me to your next party?) All I can add is that it sounds to me as though you do a lot of care-taking for them, historically, so they're expecting more of the same. That's my pattern, and it gets me so much grief. On the one hand, there are firestorms when I say no, on the other hand, I get eroded pretty badly by saying yes. So, major erosion either way, and it's not good. Can you say anything to these people, like, "Hey, Bro', the party is near my place because it's my party and I wanted it to be convenient for ME -- remember the first part?" Or, "Mumsy, where would you like us to put you during your visit? You can sleep in my bed with my husband and me, if you promise to keep your cold feet to yourself. Otherwise, all we have to offer is the closet shelf or the bathtub. Which would you prefer?" As for the invitees, well, you don't *have* to tell anyone who else is invited, in theory...
Good for your for having yourself a party. I wish I had thought to do something like that for 30. (Then again, I was in another depressive episode -- gaining 50+ pounds for a partial response on Paxil, along with the major sedation and the angst about turning 30. 40 wasn't nearly so hard as 30, by the way. Dunno why, but 40 was kinda nice in a way. 30 was really upsetting for me, too, so you're not alone.) Have you decided what kind of cake to have? That, after all, is the real priority...
Good luck with your party. I love parties, and think that even a partial response to anti-depressants and being able to go to a lot of parties, and give a good few, would do a lot more for my mood overall than the treatment I've received overall from this agency. Then again, parties when you're depressed are --- depressing.
Wishing us both good sleep, and envying you your upcoming party -- with guests YOU want to have there, and at the facility YOU choose for YOUR convenience!
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