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Posted by NikkiT2 on March 2, 2004, at 16:39:24
Had interview this afternoon..
Not sure how it went at all.. too little experience if interviews.. I think was too hyper and too vague on answers.. think I didn't say the right things.. and think I was way to vague on the written test..
But I want to know.. I really want to know!!!
No.. I don't.. I'm scared I'll be upset..
Oh this feeling is hell!!! Julian tells me it doesn't matter whether I get it.. To stop worrying as it really doesn't matter.. He's being very sweet.
But.. uuuurrrrrgggghhhhh!
Nikki x
Posted by Racer on March 2, 2004, at 17:20:25
In reply to Damn I hate the waiting..., posted by NikkiT2 on March 2, 2004, at 16:39:24
I don't know if this will help you, but it helped me so I'll tell you anyway...
When I was job hunting way back when, I set up interviews for jobs I knew I didn't want. That way, I had nothing much invested, and I could *know* that they were practice interviews. I'd consider how I felt during the interview, what I could have done better, and what I did well. I also thought about how the interviewer affected how I felt, whether any anxieties I had were based on the interviewer rather than myself.
Then, when I got feedback, in the form of an offer or no offer, I could check it against my feelings. It helped me, made me better at being interviewed.
Even if that doesn't help, I can certainly empathize with your pain!
Posted by judy1 on March 2, 2004, at 19:36:04
In reply to Damn I hate the waiting..., posted by NikkiT2 on March 2, 2004, at 16:39:24
and hoping you get this job (if this is the one you truly want). please let us know how it turns out- judy
Posted by NikkiT2 on March 3, 2004, at 8:58:59
In reply to Re: Damn I hate the waiting... » NikkiT2, posted by Racer on March 2, 2004, at 17:20:25
If I could get damned interviews for other jobs I being going to them *lol* Its been a year since I started job hunting now, and this is my first interview. No one is interested once they know you've been off work for 3 years nearly sick.. and I'm not going to start lying, thats not me.
I need IT interviews as they generally have technical questions in them, and thats what I need to practice.. but no one wants me *sighs* I am un emloyable it seems now.
Just feeling SO uncomfident about this..
Nikki x
Posted by NikkiT2 on March 3, 2004, at 8:59:19
In reply to saying a prayer for you » NikkiT2, posted by judy1 on March 2, 2004, at 19:36:04
Thanks Judy.. will post and let you all know when I hear
Nikki x
Posted by Racer on March 3, 2004, at 10:56:21
In reply to Re: Damn I hate the waiting... » Racer, posted by NikkiT2 on March 3, 2004, at 8:58:59
I don't know if anything like this exists Over There, but there's a great organization in San Francisco called Alumnai Resources. It's all about career advancement, for women, and they have groups that meet to practice interviewing skills. They bring in Mentors from the outside to help by conducting the kinds of interviews they use, and the whole process is videotaped so that everyone can discuss it later. It sounds so intimidating, but it's really not. Sure, every so often you get someone in a group with an attitude problem, but mostly it's about suggesting positive alternatives to help you strengthen your skills. It took me forever to find out about them, by the way, so look hard to find something similar.
By the way, interviewing is stressful by its very nature. For one thing, the skills needed for interviewing are useful for sales and a couple of other positions, but for most positions it's a case of "show that you have skills that your position does not require, and that we're not really hiring you to have." Does that make sense? I mean, someone whose job will involved, say, maintaining a mainframe in a room virtually no one else enters for days on end, is not a person you want to have that easy, outgoing personality that might make it hard to be alone so long. Some HR people recognise that, and adjust accordingly, but most people conducting interviews really don't know what they're doing. Makes it a hell of a lot harder for those of us on the other side of the desk.
(I know, but I'm not good at just saying, "Hey, Nikki, {{cuddles}} and you'll do fine, even if they're not insightful enough to see it." My best wishes are with you, though.)
Posted by noa on March 3, 2004, at 17:50:28
In reply to Another thought... » NikkiT2, posted by Racer on March 3, 2004, at 10:56:21
Nikki, I know you've done some volunteer work. Maybe building on that will help you get around the gap in employement? I'm thinking: if you do some IT work for various organizations on a volunteer basis, you can still put these experiences on your resume even if it's not paid employement, and get good references from the organizations you help. Plus, it gives you some practice experience to help you stay in touch with your skills, which can help you with the confidence issue.
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