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Posted by judy1 on February 11, 2004, at 19:41:10
you sound like you are in a great deal of pain (on admin). I am so, so sorry about what happened at work. I hope that everything gets straightened out. You have to do what is best for your emotional health, if that involves a trip to HR- I guess whatever it takes. You know my prayers are with you.
take care, judy
Posted by Phil on February 12, 2004, at 9:58:51
In reply to Phil, you said you didn't want help, but..., posted by judy1 on February 11, 2004, at 19:41:10
judy, Your prayers must have worked. After seeing how much things got stirred up, my anger is gone.
I am exhausted but I'm okay. You are a very sweet person judy. Thank you.Phil
Posted by judy1 on February 12, 2004, at 15:52:38
In reply to Re: Phil, you said you didn't want help, but..., posted by Phil on February 12, 2004, at 9:58:51
and I'm really glad you are feeling better (although exhausted). make sure you get lots of rest and post us in the morning:-)
take care, judy
Posted by shar on February 12, 2004, at 20:51:22
In reply to Phil, you said you didn't want help, but..., posted by judy1 on February 11, 2004, at 19:41:10
I want to second what Judy said. When I read the post about the job bullsh*t going on, I really felt disappointed that you were having to put up with that. I hope you will be able to get some acceptable resolution, and I strongly encourage you to file a grievance or go to HR or whatever is necessary.
I hate it that you're having a tough time, and I want to offer my good thoughts in your direction.
If you're up for coffee I should be able to drive in a few days ...sprained ankle and all that. It would be great to see you.
Shar
Posted by noa on February 12, 2004, at 22:42:29
In reply to Re: Phil, you said you didn't want help, but..., posted by Phil on February 12, 2004, at 9:58:51
Phil, you got lots of admirers round these parts, I hope you know!!!
You are thoughtful and funny and I'm sad that you are in such pain.
Posted by Phil on February 13, 2004, at 10:09:48
In reply to Re: Phil, you said you didn't want help, but..., posted by noa on February 12, 2004, at 22:42:29
Despite intellectually believing people care for me, it goes in one ear and out the other.
It's not that I don't appreciate it, it's that I can't afford to trust or care. You would have to grow up taking care of drunks to understand. You are loved one minute and invisable the next.
When I'm under stress, these feelings come rushing back and I'm deep in my disease right now.
One of the last women I was seeing(cumulative speaking, I've been in relationships for maybe 2 out of the last 32 years, that's the truth). Anyway, her mom was dying from cancer and I went to the hospital with my girlfriend to see her. I'm good at hospital stuff.
A lady in her early 60's walked up to us pulling along her IV thing. She was obviously very ill. She asked why we were there. My girlfriend said she was there seeing her mother, who was terminal. The lady looked at me and asked, 'and you?' I said I was there to be with my girlfriend. This sick angel looked me square in the eye and said, 'you run well on a muddy track.' I excused myself, went to the bathroom and wept till I couldn't anymore.
Unexpected kindness to an ACOA has that effect.
My girlfriend had no idea why I reacted that way.I enjoyed sharing 18 years with my mom sober. Despite it all, we were best friends. She died Christmas of '93. If only my love could have saved her...
I know this is probably too raw of a story to share here but let me try and ease your minds a little. My mother had a terrible addiction but she beat it and I was so very proud of her.
That's why I've fought for people not to take their own lives here. God will see me through with his infinate grace. If you let Him, he'll see you through as well. Never give up.Well, now that y'all are miserable, I feel pretty good. "C'mon kitty, lets go chase some cars."
Phil & Jules da cat
"C'mon Jules, how many times do I have to tell you not to smoke in the house? Do as I say, not as I do!
What do you mean that's not fair? Listen buster, I pay the rent here and as long as you live under...
Okay, okay. Two packs of Marlboro reds, a 12 pack of wine coolers. YES, I'll get the good catnip you little junkie. Oww, oww oww, get your fat butt off my back you heathen. Okay, I'm going. (I slam my robe in the locked door and realize my keys are in the house) C'mere kitty, who loves you? Yes please, throw me the keys and my cowboy boots. I TOLD YOU I'D GET THE KITTY LITTER YOU SAW ON TV! You better have your room cleaned up when I get back. Oh, threaten to call the Humane Society, huh? Okay, I'll get the fish but you can forget the Range Rover."Sorry guys..family business. No families are perfect, you know.
"Don't let me get back here and find you with that alley cat again and stay out of the refrigerator!"
I hate roommates.
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But I love my fellow babblers. "It is the truth Jules! Why can't you be like Fred's cat?"
Posted by Racer on February 13, 2004, at 20:15:27
In reply to Re: I lied, posted by Phil on February 13, 2004, at 10:09:48
Dear Phil, you've been so good to me over the years. I have to admit that I didn't read your job situation -- I stay pretty close to "home" (2000) these days -- but I hope the sun starts shining for you soon. (And if someone will point me in the right direction, I'll go catch up.)
A lot of what you wrote resonated for me. My best wishes and warmest thoughts are going out to you.
Posted by Phil on February 15, 2004, at 8:29:59
In reply to Re: I lied » Phil, posted by Racer on February 13, 2004, at 20:15:27
I think the sun will shine on me when I start mowing yards for a living.
I think the fact that so many work indoors and do what I'm doing now for recreation is 90% responsible for our diseases. The other 50% is just good luck.
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