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Posted by Racer on January 20, 2004, at 13:55:12
Today, my T brought up something very much like your Shame Thread! She asked what I was afraid of, and it suddenly came to me that I associate fear with something very specific. I go straight back to being a kid, hiding behind the love seat, while my mother had tantrums, listenting to all the bad things she said about me. For me, Fear=All Those Things Being True, which in turn equals me being unworthy of love, approval, support, validation, justification, respect, or even oxygen. And guess what? I'm afraid a lot.
What do you think? Does that have anything to do with my depression? (<<attempt at a joke...)
Anyway, I think your post primed the pump, so that came much more easily than it would have otherwise. Thank you.
Also, to you, Shar, and to anyone else reading, thank you for everything you do and type here, because when I'm really in need, this really is one of the first places I come for help. I guess you guys know that already, but it's still nice to be thanked. Thank you for being here, and making it a safe and supportive place.
Posted by shar on January 20, 2004, at 21:27:06
In reply to Hey, Shar, guess what?, posted by Racer on January 20, 2004, at 13:55:12
It's so nice to say something that makes sense and/or helps somebody! Yippee! I'm glad.
And, I agree with you about coming here to get a kind of 'loving kindness' (I would say if I was a yogini) from people who understand 'why' when so few others do.
Shar
Posted by Racer on January 20, 2004, at 22:09:33
In reply to Re: Hey, Shar, guess what? » Racer, posted by shar on January 20, 2004, at 21:27:06
I was just talking to a friend about that. We don't talk often, and I called her to chat. While talking about something else entirely, she broke down crying. One of the things she said was that it freaks people out when she admits that she doesn't get dressed some days, doesn't leave the house because of depression, etc. (Not that I'd understand that "no one will see me, so I won't shower today" mode, right?) She said it was a relief just to hear that someone else had a glimmering of what that state feels like.
So, I guess that counts, without the yogic contortions, don't you think so?
Posted by shar on January 21, 2004, at 11:20:32
In reply to What a coincidence... » shar, posted by Racer on January 20, 2004, at 22:09:33
Yes, I do think so, and I can forgo the contortions, too!
What a gift it was to your friend to have someone else understand. It's so nice not to feel alone.
Shar
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