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Posted by gardenergirl on February 8, 2004, at 9:48:53
In reply to Re: I won't be around for a little while. » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on February 8, 2004, at 9:31:01
Thanks for letting us know. I would worry. Take care and look forward to your return.
(((Dinah)))
gg
Posted by noa on February 8, 2004, at 10:01:40
In reply to I won't be around for a little while., posted by Dinah on February 8, 2004, at 8:19:34
Dinah are you just taking a break? Won't have internet access? Or did something happen to upset you?
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 8, 2004, at 11:07:58
In reply to I won't be around for a little while., posted by Dinah on February 8, 2004, at 8:19:34
o0o0 that usxz u bring so much light to this place take care !!!!!!!! why r u leaving and will u be coming back ? keep in touch!!
Posted by Crooked Heart on February 8, 2004, at 12:06:47
In reply to I won't be around for a little while., posted by Dinah on February 8, 2004, at 8:19:34
Hope you are OK, and take care. Looking forward to your return.
Posted by Pfinstegg on February 8, 2004, at 12:07:45
In reply to I won't be around for a little while., posted by Dinah on February 8, 2004, at 8:19:34
Dinah, you are such a vital part of PB. Did something painful happen to make you feel like leaving for a while? I would feel much better knowing, but will of course try to respect your privacy.
Pfinstegg
Posted by deirdrehbrt on February 8, 2004, at 12:18:25
In reply to Re: I won't be around for a little while. » Dinah, posted by Pfinstegg on February 8, 2004, at 12:07:45
I can hold my breath for a long time, but this sounds like longer. I'll be blue. hopefully not literally.
Take care of you, and, in the words of Robin Williams in "Moscow on the Hudson", "Come back McSoon".
Dee
Posted by Penny on February 8, 2004, at 12:36:46
In reply to I won't be around for a little while., posted by Dinah on February 8, 2004, at 8:19:34
Thanks for letting us know. Take care.
(((Dinah)))
P
Posted by DaisyM on February 8, 2004, at 13:20:23
In reply to Re: I won't be around for a little while. » Dinah, posted by Penny on February 8, 2004, at 12:36:46
This is the 9-year-old me saying: "but I don't want you to go..."
Seriously, I respect what you are doing and taking a stand can be painful. I just wish I didn't, selfishly, want you to stay so much. You've help me in some very dark times.
Take care of you. You know how to contact me if YOU need anything. I'll listen with my heart and try to help with my head.
((((Dinah))))
Posted by pegasus on February 8, 2004, at 15:24:10
In reply to I won't be around for a little while., posted by Dinah on February 8, 2004, at 8:19:34
Thanks for letting us know. I always look forward to your posts and will miss you.
-p
Posted by Slinky on February 8, 2004, at 19:21:07
In reply to I won't be around for a little while., posted by Dinah on February 8, 2004, at 8:19:34
Hello sweetheart.. I ain't been around here
lately ~obviously :)...you get yourself a healthy break
and healthy return.
Posted by DaisyM on February 8, 2004, at 19:40:51
In reply to I won't be around for a little while., posted by Dinah on February 8, 2004, at 8:19:34
Posted by Karen_kay on February 8, 2004, at 20:22:30
In reply to I won't be around for a little while., posted by Dinah on February 8, 2004, at 8:19:34
Oh girlie.... I hope it's for good news that keeps you away, rather than bad. I know PB is a large base for support for you. Do take care of my lovely Dinah, won't you please? And please email me if nothing more than to "hear" my beautiful voice. Take care of yourself hun, and please hurry home in time for dinner, if you like what we're serving :)
I'll miss you, but I know I don't even have to say that...
Posted by Elle2021 on February 9, 2004, at 1:39:13
In reply to Re: I won't be around for a little while. » Dinah, posted by noa on February 8, 2004, at 9:30:22
I don't really want you to go, but I understand how it's necessary to take breaks. I've had to do it before too. In fact, just a couple days ago, I was comptemplating taking one myself. I hope you have a nice one, take care. I love your advice and you.
Elle
Posted by Elle2021 on February 9, 2004, at 1:40:05
In reply to Re: I won't be around for a little while. » noa, posted by Elle2021 on February 9, 2004, at 1:39:13
Posted by Elle2021 on February 9, 2004, at 1:43:43
In reply to Re: I won't be around for a little while. » noa, posted by Elle2021 on February 9, 2004, at 1:39:13
By the way Dinah, I hope your not leaving because of something I said to you that might have hurt your feelings. I'm sorry if that is the case, I didn't mean to.
Elle
Posted by Penny on February 9, 2004, at 8:21:22
In reply to Dinah, posted by Elle2021 on February 9, 2004, at 1:43:43
It wasn't you, Elle. Just so you know.
P
Posted by Dinah on February 9, 2004, at 9:31:33
In reply to I won't be around for a little while., posted by Dinah on February 8, 2004, at 8:19:34
I'm sorry everyone, I should have been more clear.
No one said anything to upset me, except Dr. Bob. I'll take Pegasus's word for it though, as my thoughts may not be too clear, and check to make sure my assumptions are correct before taking my leave of absence.
Posted by Dinah on February 9, 2004, at 11:08:53
In reply to Re: I'm open to alternate conclusions., posted by Dinah on February 9, 2004, at 9:31:33
It's believe it is a done deal folks. Now I just have to weigh my ethical obligations.
But it has nothing to do with what anyone said or did. You're a great bunch of posters.
Posted by Karen_kay on February 9, 2004, at 12:01:51
In reply to Re: No, I wasn't wrong, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2004, at 11:08:53
And please do remember (and not that I'm using this as an excuse but Dinah I just love you dearly and sincerely and would hate to lose you so please know that if this sounds a bit wrong, I'm still not all together....)
Now, after that disclaimer...
Can you think of it as dinner... Like you have roast and mashed potatoes and salad and green beans. And even though you hate green beans, you still love the rest of the dinner and have to eat to survive. And the rest of the guests need you at dinner as much as you would love to have dinner with them. Could you politely pick the green beans off your plate?
I'm not trying to minimize your feelings. And I completely understand your point, as I agree and would certainly have no part as well. But we, the dinner guests need you. We would be lost without you. And I know you need us too. And I realize that someone's not taking the voices of very valuable guests into consideration while preapring the meal, and that's not fair. But, do the rest of the guests, especially you have to suffer?
I'm really not at all trying to minimize the situation. I just know that dinner wouldn't taste the same without your company. In fact, it would taste quite sour. It's already beginning to taste that way.
Obviously, the loss of invaluable parts of the dinner guests doesn't hurt the dinner host. Or maybe it does, but the dinner goes on...But, it hurts the other guests. And it hurts them a lot. If you don't believe me, ask Gabbi.(hope you don't mind me bringing you in Gabbi, I just know you don't post much anymore because of people leaving or being "forced" to leave) I know it's hard to stay at a dinner that doesn't taste very good, or the conversation is beginning to sour, but remember things are always changing at this dinner party. But, does that mean the guests have to leave? Other guests need you very much. And I know you need us.
So, please. Pick the green beans to the side. Yell very loud if you have to to say, "I hate green beans, don't serve them!" Wll of us who agree will yell loud with you. Avoid the green beans! But please, don't leave to prove a point when you know things won't change! And you know we need you! Please!
What I'm trying to say is Dinah, you are an invaluable dinner guest. We need you here. And I know you need to be here. I;'m sorry if this doesn't make sense. And I think I'm even sorrier if it does. But please, I'm just saying anything that I can to get you to stay. I know you need to stay as much as we need you to. "Young lady, it's for your own good!" I'm trying to tell you, I love you and would be very sad to see you go. Things just wouldn't be the same. I'm honesty be pacing until I hear from you. And I know it's not as simple as picking green beans of your plate, but maybe we can make it that simple if we have to. If it doesn't work, it may jsut go away, right? Didn't that happen in the past?????? But, you just leaving won't solve a thing, except hurting you, me and everyone else here...... I'm sorry I jsut had to say it girlie..
Posted by Dinah on February 9, 2004, at 12:20:45
In reply to I'm just thinking here and i could be wrong » Dinah, posted by Karen_kay on February 9, 2004, at 12:01:51
Thank you, Karen. I'll think about it, and I printed out your post to bring to my therapist today. He has the qualifications to be an ethical mentor as well as a therapist, and I really do value his opinion. But I hope I'm not just trying to make excuses to stay where I want to stay in the face of what I think to be wrong.
I think I should decide this with the rational half of my brain, but the emotional half keeps tantruming.
Posted by judy1 on February 9, 2004, at 12:23:35
In reply to Re: No, I wasn't wrong, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2004, at 11:08:53
Dinah,
Why do you feel it's a 'done deal'? My impression is there is still a discussion going on about pros and cons. Since most people are expressing a negative reaction, my assumption would be that it won't happen. But of course that is an assumption-either way I would have to see if PIBs were instituted before making a decision. I hope you do the same.
take care, judy
Posted by Dinah on February 9, 2004, at 12:34:05
In reply to Re: No, I wasn't wrong » Dinah, posted by judy1 on February 9, 2004, at 12:23:35
Sorry, Judy. I shouldn't have posted that. :( I am just not myself today, although I thought I was feeling better after sleeping all day yesterday and taking a risperdal. But obviously my judgement is still off.
I had emailed Dr. Bob about the matter, and while his response was civil and perhaps even helpful, it did seem pretty clear that it's a done deal.
But it was poor judgement of me to post about it. I need to step away from the computer now. At least till I talk to my therapist, have another risperdal and sleep a while.
Posted by Karen_kay on February 9, 2004, at 12:48:02
In reply to Re: I'm just thinking here and i could be wrong » Karen_kay, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2004, at 12:20:45
I'm touched and honored that you printed out my post. Just remember that thing happen that are beyond your control. And by taking a stand and making a point that needs to be made, who gets hurt in the process? You'll make a better point by staying, IMHO.... It's not ignoring your moral values and judgement. It's letting people know that even though you don't agree, you'll still voice your opinion. No one's going to make you leave home. No one can take away your right to be here. I honestly feel you can make more of a stand by staying. And that's my head talking.
My heart's begging you to stay... (I don't want to say this, but do what you feel is right) And I'm so proud of you for getting an unbiased opinion. That takes guts girl.... Not jsut guts, that's just .. Well, I can't even put into words. It's the right thing to do.
You're truly wonderful, in every way!!!! [I'm so glad I have a fair and just Aunt Dinah!]
Posted by Karen_kay on February 9, 2004, at 13:01:11
In reply to Re: No, I wasn't wrong » judy1, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2004, at 12:34:05
And Dinah, you don't have to step away from the computer.... you've been so wonderful at giving support, please let us return the favor./.... Just this once, let me help you like you've helped me. Maybe you know something we don't. Maybe not. I know that when I'm very upset, I tend to jump to conclusions, maybe that happened... Either way, it's fine... We're all entitled to it. Please know that if you need us, we are here. You hear me? You really are one of the most compassionate people I know. I really respect you and hope to learn from that. Take your time away if you have to, if you think that's best. But also know that this board was created for support. (Is that true? See, I'm wrong about 85% of the time :)) And I'll be right here if you need me babe.
Awaiting your return,KK
(((((((Dinah))))))))))
Posted by Fallen4myT on February 9, 2004, at 13:43:47
In reply to Re: No, I wasn't wrong » Dinah, posted by Karen_kay on February 9, 2004, at 13:01:11
I am kind of new and don't know you well but seen a lot of your posts and you seem very nice and smart. I am sorry you are going and hope you come back but I dont know why you are going so maybe you wont wanna come back. All in all I would say do what YOU can live with and feel good about..Best wishes with whatever you decide
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