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Posted by fayeroe on April 22, 2010, at 10:45:03
In reply to Re: being blocked again » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on April 22, 2010, at 8:15:46
Dinah, I thank you so much for talking to me about this. I really do appreciate your concern and I appreciate your talking to Bob about my being blocked.
Obviously neither of us know enough about FB to understand the "how" of this and I already have a headache today so I am not going to worry about "why".
Thanks, Dinah, for being so supportive. I hope that Bob gets over his FB fetish and Babble can settle back down into it's old comfortable ways.
Pat
Posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2010, at 10:49:13
In reply to Re: being blocked again, posted by Dr. Bob on April 22, 2010, at 7:42:41
Posted by fayeroe on April 22, 2010, at 10:55:11
In reply to Re: being blocked again, posted by Dr. Bob on April 22, 2010, at 7:42:41
Let me point out to you, Bob, that I said "the lies"......Did you think I meant "your" lies? Tsk, tsk, you're projecting again.
Don't bother asking the posters to help keep me from being blocked. I definitely won't be staying. Of course if it will make you feel better, block ahead...I'm 66 so if you take your little math equations and block me til the end of time........I won't miss much. :-) ......
Only reason I dropped in with the FB post was to let my friends know that Babble still works in mysterious ways. I must add that I suspect that Babble will always be a mystery to most.
I miss the old Babble very much.
At least we know that there won't be any "new and interesting posters" coming in from my FB account. :-)
Later, Bob.
Posted by fayeroe on April 22, 2010, at 10:56:44
In reply to BOB: URGENT ATTEMPT TO HELP !!!!!!!!!!!!!! » Dr. Bob, posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2010, at 10:41:07
I love you, Duckie! Your subject line was worth it!! Seriously!!! I have this big silly grin from ear to ear........
Posted by fayeroe on April 22, 2010, at 10:58:40
In reply to Re: links to posts, posted by Phillipa on April 22, 2010, at 10:44:14
Phillipa, I didn't stay on FB long enough yesterday to look for clues. I probably should have gone over everything with a "fine toothed" comb. I was too freaked to look around.
Thanks for mentioning that. I don't think that we can be too careful when it comes to social networking sites.
Pat
Posted by Phillipa on April 22, 2010, at 11:02:17
In reply to Re: links to posts » Phillipa, posted by fayeroe on April 22, 2010, at 10:58:40
I just checked newsfeed and I'd hit hide yesterday so it wasn't there and not being computer savvy never will be don't know where the link to unhide is. I never talk meds on facebook family and friends there. Phillipa
Posted by fayeroe on April 22, 2010, at 11:13:22
In reply to Re: being blocked again » Dr. Bob, posted by fayeroe on April 22, 2010, at 10:55:11
I want to explain how I felt yesterday when I saw that message on my FB page.
My very first response was fear.
My heart started pounding and my hands were shaking.
I felt violated.
My brain kicked in and then I started thinking about "how could this be?". "How did this happen?"
......but my very first response was
simply fear.I don't think I have to explain to anyone here how devastated I would be if a person from FB came into (from my account) Babble and read our posts. And if Bob points out that "this is a public forum".....yes, it is. He misses the point about none of us wanting people that we KNOW on FB coming in to nose around.
Be safe, everyone.......Fayeroe
Posted by fayeroe on April 22, 2010, at 11:25:17
In reply to Re: being blocked again, posted by Dr. Bob on April 22, 2010, at 7:42:41
> > Bob, the lies are all going to come home to roost one of these days
>
> Would anyone be willing to try to show fayeroe how she might rephrase that or to encourage her to apologize? You may have the power to help her avoid being blocked again.
>
> Bob
>
Bob, it would be so very nice if you had logged in and said something like"Fayeroe, I am so sorry that this happened to you".
"Fayeroe, I know this must have been terribly upsetting."
"Is there any way that I can help you ?"
"I'll look into this and make sure it won't happen again".
Posted by Dinah on April 22, 2010, at 11:33:08
In reply to Bob says 'Fayeroe, I am so sorry this happened' » Dr. Bob, posted by fayeroe on April 22, 2010, at 11:25:17
I'm moved by your ability to explain your feelings and disappointment. I've felt the same way so many times. Not only on Babble. It really resonates with me.
I suppose Dr. Bob might not consider it part of his role to do the same. :(
But I hope at least he responds with as much explanation as he might be able to give about the facebook incident.
Posted by PartlyCloudy on April 22, 2010, at 12:07:40
In reply to ((( Fayeroe ))) » fayeroe, posted by Dinah on April 22, 2010, at 11:33:08
> But I hope at least he responds with as much explanation as he might be able to give about the facebook incident.
>
>Starting to turn blue now as we hold our breath collectively, waiting for that...
Posted by Dr. Bob on April 22, 2010, at 14:37:47
In reply to Re: being blocked again » Dr. Bob, posted by fayeroe on April 22, 2010, at 10:55:11
> Obviously neither of us know enough about FB
> My very first response was fear.
> Tsk, tsk, you're projecting again.
Please don't post anything that could lead others (including me) to feel accused. Even if you feel afraid. Especially if you don't know what happened.
But please don't take this personally, either, this doesn't mean I don't like you or think you're a bad person, and I'm sorry if this hurts you. I don't want anything bad to happen to you. In a crisis, please also get help in person. You may also wish to check out a listing compiled by a poster of helpful web pages on coping with crisis at:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/psycho-babble-tips/links/Coping_with_crisis_001012507973
I do hope that you choose to remain a member of this community and that this community helps you, if needed, to avoid future blocks. Dinah, thanks for trying to help this time.
More information about posting policies and tips on alternative ways to express yourself, including a link to a nice post by Dinah on I-statements, are in the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforceFollow-ups regarding these issues, as well as replies to the above post, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
PS: According to the formula:
duration of previous block: 7 weeks
period of time since previous block: 33 weeks
severity: 2 (default)
block length = 5.96 rounded = 6 weeks
Posted by sigismund on April 22, 2010, at 14:57:53
In reply to Re: blocked for 6 weeks » fayeroe, posted by Dr. Bob on April 22, 2010, at 14:37:47
That was quick.
I didn't even get to say hello.
Posted by Dr. Bob on April 22, 2010, at 15:26:00
In reply to BOB: URGENT ATTEMPT TO HELP !!!!!!!!!!!!!! » Dr. Bob, posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2010, at 10:41:07
> Do you think you could explain, to the best of your knowledge, what might have happened?
Sorry, what happened isn't clear to me. Is it to any of you?
> is there any way that anyone who doesn't have Fayeroe's Facebook information could have gotten it through Babble?
I don't see how they could have. Babble doesn't know anyone's Facebook information. You can't even get your own Facebook information from Babble, can you?
> Is there any way for posts to be sent to someone's facebook page if they don't hit the button, or someone doesn't know their identity?
>
> DinahWho can post to someone's Wall, or contact them, on Facebook depends on their Facebook privacy settings:
http://www.facebook.com/settings/?tab=privacy
> Did you or any agent of yours send the message to Fayeroe's message box?
>
> zazenduckeNeither I nor anyone acting as my agent contacted her on Facebook.
Bob
Posted by PartlyCloudy on April 22, 2010, at 15:32:50
In reply to Re: what might have happened, posted by Dr. Bob on April 22, 2010, at 15:26:00
> > Do you think you could explain, to the best of your knowledge, what might have happened?
>
> Sorry, what happened isn't clear to me. Is it to any of you?
>
> > is there any way that anyone who doesn't have Fayeroe's Facebook information could have gotten it through Babble?
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> I don't see how they could have. Babble doesn't know anyone's Facebook information. You can't even get your own Facebook information from Babble, can you?
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> > Is there any way for posts to be sent to someone's facebook page if they don't hit the button, or someone doesn't know their identity?
> >
> > Dinah
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> Who can post to someone's Wall, or contact them, on Facebook depends on their Facebook privacy settings:
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> http://www.facebook.com/settings/?tab=privacy
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> > Did you or any agent of yours send the message to Fayeroe's message box?
> >
> > zazenducke
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> Neither I nor anyone acting as my agent contacted her on Facebook.
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> BobGosh, it doesn't seem quite right that Fayeroe was blocked and THEN you answered her question. Might it not have been worked out on the boards without a block having to take place?
I guess not, since it's already done.
But that's my interpretation of appears to have happened here. I wonder if a dialog might have been possible to clear up the Facebook query - but not any longer, with Fayeroe blocked.
Then again, this has always been your place to rule as you see fit. This must be the right way.
Posted by Dinah on April 22, 2010, at 16:28:09
In reply to Bob says 'Fayeroe, I am so sorry this happened' » Dr. Bob, posted by fayeroe on April 22, 2010, at 11:25:17
I had hoped that Dr. Bob would see the same opportunity for greater understanding that I did.
I guess the words are important to him.
Posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2010, at 17:53:27
In reply to Re: what might have happened, posted by Dr. Bob on April 22, 2010, at 15:26:00
> > Do you think you could explain, to the best of your knowledge, what might have happened?
>
> Sorry, what happened isn't clear to me. Is it to any of you?
>
> > is there any way that anyone who doesn't have Fayeroe's Facebook information could have gotten it through Babble?
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> I don't see how they could have. Babble doesn't know anyone's Facebook information. You can't even get your own Facebook information from Babble, can you?
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> > Is there any way for posts to be sent to someone's facebook page if they don't hit the button, or someone doesn't know their identity?
> >
> > Dinah
>
If Fayeroe had previously checked the leave me logged in button on the popup that comes up when you hit the Facebook button at the bottom of the post and then someone was able to get into her account the same way they did when you were hacked
they could have sent the post to her facebook page while they were signed in as her. Wasn't someone posting under other peoples names last time by somehow getting their passwords?Of course you would need more information from Fayeroe to check this theory out and she is no longer available because of your block.
Maybe you should hire a professional to check before this starts happening to other people.
Posted by BayLeaf on April 22, 2010, at 18:58:12
In reply to Re: blocked for 6 weeks » fayeroe, posted by Dr. Bob on April 22, 2010, at 14:37:47
Bob - did u decide to block her for suggesting that saying you were projecting? really?
PartyCloudy's post about avoiding this block by just letting us resolve the problem by talking it out was perfect. That's what the Admin board is for, right?
But, when it comes to certain posting you have a hair trigger on the blocks. This is a classic example.
Can't you see this in yourself, and perhaps want to work on self-improvement? Don't we all, who are engaged in the personal growth process want to improve?
Bay
Posted by PartlyCloudy on April 22, 2010, at 19:35:05
In reply to Re: blocked for 6 weeks » Dr. Bob, posted by BayLeaf on April 22, 2010, at 18:58:12
I am an advocate for diplomacy whenever it might have worked.
(shrug)
Posted by gardenergirl on April 22, 2010, at 21:21:19
In reply to LYING ABOUT FB + TWTR....why am i not surprised?, posted by fayeroe on April 21, 2010, at 17:56:58
Fayeroe,
I can certainly understand your reaction to seeing that message in your FB inbox. It definitely would feel like an intrusion to me, and perhaps threatening in some way. I'm sorry that Bob acted to block you, as I do think that it would be useful for the community to see this dialog actually played out. One question I have is whether the message you received was a link to a thread, i.e. a hyperlink you could click on, a cut-and-paste of the thread on Babble, or perhaps a screen shot of the thread on Babble, and sadly, you can't clarify that here now. Bah.
At any rate...
I looked at my FB message box today, and I noted that there were not any messages that did not list who they were from, so I'm not sure why yours wouldn't have an associated "sender". That alone would be off-putting. But I did want to let you know that it is possible to send a message to someone on FB even if they are not your Facebook "friend". I recently did that in order to get in touch with a FB friend's husband to ask how my friend was. My friend was not able to get on FB herself at that time. My message went through to her husband on FB, even though we were not FB friends, and he was able to reply to me on FB, even though he is not on my friend list.
It appears that one can set their privacy for receiving messages to the following choices: "Everyone", "Friends of friends", or "Only Friends". So if your profile was set to "Everyone", as mine is currently, then anyone could have sent that to you. I suspect that the setting "Everyone" is the default, as I don't recall specifically choosing that for myself.
It's possible, then, that someone who had knowledge of your email address could search for that email address on FB and find your facebook profile. The only way I'm aware of that someone could be prevented from finding a person's profile on FB would be if that profile was set to be non-searchable. Again, I suspect that being searchable is the default for privacy on FB. Folks can also have FB search for friends automatically through their email contacts list if they allow their contact list to be linked to FB. So anyone who has the email you used for FB in their list of email contacts could potentially find your former profile on FB if you didn't elect to become non-searchable.
Gah, just writing all this out shows just how confusing it is.
If you ever decide to reactivate FB, I do recommend taking a few minutes to go to Account->Privacy settings-> etc. and go through all the options to make sure that the settings are what you're comfortable with.
At any rate, I'm sorry this happened to you. I can certainly understand your upset at Bob/Babble about it, but I wanted to point out that it really could have been anyone who sent it. Of course it must have been someone who was aware of your connection to Babble, or why would they send it? And having one's real world persona connected to Babble can certainly feel unsafe.
Hope you're well otherwise. There have been times when I've read something or heard something in the news that made me wonder what your reaction would be. Usually something political. :)
gg
Posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2010, at 21:33:54
In reply to Re: message box on Facebook » fayeroe, posted by gardenergirl on April 22, 2010, at 21:21:19
I mean ...seriously ;)
Posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2010, at 21:38:00
In reply to I think Bob has a personality disorder don't you? » gardenergirl, posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2010, at 21:33:54
it wouldn't be professional.
Posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2010, at 21:40:38
In reply to Don't answer that, posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2010, at 21:38:00
The most wonderful babbler of all!!!!!!!
Posted by gardenergirl on April 22, 2010, at 21:42:57
In reply to Don't answer that, posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2010, at 21:38:00
> it wouldn't be professional.
Good that I'm not a professional Babbler, then, eh?
Posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2010, at 21:43:36
In reply to Hi Henrietta!, posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2010, at 21:40:38
Posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2010, at 21:46:36
In reply to Re: Hi Alexandra K and twinleaf (nm), posted by zazenducke on April 22, 2010, at 21:43:36
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