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Posted by LegWarmers on February 24, 2006, at 10:53:32
In reply to Re: reply to me, posted by Dr. Bob on February 24, 2006, at 4:10:08
> > > I wonder if you're the only one here who's wanted a reply from me. Anybody else?
> >
> > Of course, Dr. Bob. :)
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> > I just have my own ways of going about it.
> >
> > You don't mind, do you?
> >
> > Dinah
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> > I suppose it would be nice if you replied to that email I sent you, some time ago now.
> > Although, now Ive forgotten what it was about...
> >
> > LegWarmers
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> I don't mind, and sorry, could you send it to me again?
>Ill see if I can find it but I had forgotten about it until you asked.
> Also, could you (or anybody else who wants to join in) say more about what that experience (wanting a reply from me) was like?
probably similar to you waiting for a response from someone??
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> > Is it OK that I love Dr. Bob? Do you think he minds? Do you think it's weird? Do you think it's like loving a brick wall? LOL
> >
> > Deneb
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> And, to continue, whether warm feelings or outright love for me were involved?LOL Im sorry, but are you being serious?
Posted by Dinah on February 24, 2006, at 10:57:30
In reply to Re: reply to me » Dr. Bob, posted by LegWarmers on February 24, 2006, at 10:53:32
I see a forthcoming research paper. :)
Dr. Bob can be singlemindedly analytical.
Posted by Deneb on February 24, 2006, at 11:03:01
In reply to Re: reply to me, posted by Dr. Bob on February 24, 2006, at 4:10:08
> Deneb, it's great that you're being so open about how you feel, but right now could you give others a chance to respond before you tell us more?
>
> BobSure! No problem Dr. Bob. :-)
I want to hear about what other people have to say about this too.
Deneb
Posted by LegWarmers on February 24, 2006, at 11:03:11
In reply to Re: reply to me » LegWarmers, posted by Dinah on February 24, 2006, at 10:57:30
> I see a forthcoming research paper. :)
>
> Dr. Bob can be singlemindedly analytical.ahh, well that was very strange! I had to double check he had written the post!
keep me out of the researchDr. Bob, please : ) and thank you
Posted by muffled on February 24, 2006, at 13:17:47
In reply to Re: reply to me, posted by Dr. Bob on February 24, 2006, at 4:10:08
> > > I wonder if you're the only one here who's wanted a reply from me. Anybody else?
> >
> > Of course, Dr. Bob. :)
> >
> > I just have my own ways of going about it.
> >
> > You don't mind, do you?
> >
> > Dinah
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> > I suppose it would be nice if you replied to that email I sent you, some time ago now.
> > Although, now Ive forgotten what it was about...
> >
> > LegWarmers
>
> I don't mind, and sorry, could you send it to me again?
>
> Also, could you (or anybody else who wants to join in) say more about what that experience (wanting a reply from me) was like?
>
> > Is it OK that I love Dr. Bob? Do you think he minds? Do you think it's weird? Do you think it's like loving a brick wall? LOL
> >
> > Deneb
>
> And, to continue, whether warm feelings or outright love for me were involved?
>
> Deneb, it's great that you're being so open about how you feel, but right now could you give others a chance to respond before you tell us more?
>
> BobNo offense intended. Just its how I feel bout things is all.
Posted by muffled on February 24, 2006, at 13:20:58
In reply to Hmmmmmmmm.Lab rats., posted by muffled on February 24, 2006, at 13:17:47
NOW I see. Hope I'm wrong.
Don't think I am.....
Posted by 10derHeart on February 24, 2006, at 15:22:30
In reply to Wondered why Dr.Bob was being so nice?Ahhh., posted by muffled on February 24, 2006, at 13:20:58
Well, muffy, I certainly see where you're coming from. This thread has turned slightly creepy for me, actually :-(
(And no, in case anyone wants to suggest it....I'm NOT going to say any more about that)
But...I believe Dr. Bob is also generally nice just for the sake of being nice, too :-)
Posted by 10derHeart on February 24, 2006, at 15:29:47
In reply to Re: reply to me » Dr. Bob, posted by Deneb on February 24, 2006, at 11:03:01
Huh.
I think that request might have made me feel at least a bit shut down, and therefore a bit put down. Your response was most understanding and graceful.
I'm sure I'm projecting, and maybe more than a little. I don't suppose I ever react well to being asked to hold my thoughts, hold my tongue, don't share more, wait to tell me the rest....even temporarily.
Interesting and triggering.
{shrug} Well, Deneb, you know you can post away and as much about these questions/feelings over on Social anyway, right? You know, just in case you do have more to say but aren't sure how long you're supposed to wait for others who may or may not add anything here :-)
Or at least, I'm assuming that would be okay.
Posted by Deneb on February 24, 2006, at 16:38:33
In reply to Re: reply to me » Deneb, posted by 10derHeart on February 24, 2006, at 15:29:47
> Huh.
>
> I think that request might have made me feel at least a bit shut down, and therefore a bit put down. Your response was most understanding and graceful.Hmmm...I didn't feel put down by the request, should I feel put down? I just thought that Dr. Bob didn't want my responses to influence what other people write. I'm happy that Dr. Bob isn't freaked out about my loving him.
I'm not creeped out about his questions. He's just curious.
I really like how he finds it interesting that I love him.
Deneb
Posted by Dinah on February 24, 2006, at 17:28:12
In reply to Re: reply to me » 10derHeart, posted by Deneb on February 24, 2006, at 16:38:33
I suspect that his interests lies more along the lines of "Transference and the on line administrator of a very large group" or "How transference affects the administration of a very large group".
I don't mind helping him out, and I don't find it creepy, but neither do I see it as anything particularly personal on his part.
Not that I have any particular insight into Dr. Bob's mind.
Posted by Dinah on February 24, 2006, at 17:29:27
In reply to Re: Wondered why Dr.Bob was being so nice?Ahhh. » muffled, posted by 10derHeart on February 24, 2006, at 15:22:30
lol. Actually, you have to admit that it's a very Dr. Bob thing to do. Only he could think to ask that question without realizing how it would sound. :)
Posted by muffled on February 24, 2006, at 22:31:03
In reply to Re: Wondered why Dr.Bob was being so nice?Ahhh. » 10derHeart, posted by Dinah on February 24, 2006, at 17:29:27
> lol. Actually, you have to admit that it's a very Dr. Bob thing to do. Only he could think to ask that question without realizing how it would sound. :)
***He's a shrink, he proly thinks about every word he says, and what body language and asffect to go along with it. Its what he does.
I think its research and I feel like a predator is scoping out his prey waiting, waiting to get the weak.
Thats what I feel like.
Nobody gonna get me. Nobody f*cks with me. Nobody.
Yeah, I gotta stop reading this sh*t.
I kinda screwed up righht now.
Ya. Sh*t.
Later
Posted by Dinah on February 25, 2006, at 10:50:29
In reply to We being scoped, all there is to it........., posted by muffled on February 24, 2006, at 22:31:03
It's not that bad, muffled. He's not putting us in a cage and performing tests. He's just observing what happens naturally and wants to understand it better.
I'm a teeny bit surprised that he's not already familiar with the transference issues, though. I know I've already completely described my issues on Psychology. :)
There are most likely lots of people that observe anything that goes on a public internet site. Other consumers, college psych students, maybe even a few therapists have the wit to try to find out what's really going on in our brains. And maybe a few people who don't like particular posters. Dr. Bob is just interested in the dynamics of groups. Maybe other people interested in the dynamics of groups watch us too.
I've got no problem helping him with that and I'm always happy to answer any questions he has or volunteer anything I might notice (globally). It's a worthy enough goal. We even talk about it on Psychology sometimes, don't we? The effect of Babble participation?
I only mentioned it this time because how he asked his question sounded a bit funny or narcissistic if one didn't keep in mind his interest in group dynamics. And I didn't want anyone to be hurt by that.
Posted by muffled on February 25, 2006, at 11:00:22
In reply to Re: We being scoped, all there is to it......... » muffled, posted by Dinah on February 25, 2006, at 10:50:29
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 26, 2006, at 3:08:17
In reply to Re: reply to me » Deneb, posted by Dinah on February 24, 2006, at 17:28:12
> > Also, could you (or anybody else who wants to join in) say more about what that experience (wanting a reply from me) was like?
>
> Me or Legwarmers? I wasn't sure whether you meant both of us, or just her, since you put our responses together.
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> DinahAnybody who wants to join in.
> > And, to continue, whether warm feelings or outright love for me were involved?
>
> LOL Im sorry, but are you being serious?
>
> LegWarmersI was...
> I suspect that his interests lies more along the lines of "Transference and the on line administrator of a very large group" or "How transference affects the administration of a very large group".
>
> DinahNo, I just wondered if Deneb was alone or if others could join her. Which might help her feel supported. Sorry about kind of shifting gears...
Bob
Posted by Dinah on February 26, 2006, at 6:37:57
In reply to Re: support, posted by Dr. Bob on February 26, 2006, at 3:08:17
So, to be clear, you asked
> > And, to continue, whether warm feelings or outright love for me were involved?
Because you wanted to others to show her that others could join her in her feelings, and thus feel supported by other Babblers?
Hmmm....
So you want other Babblers to tell Deneb whether they've had warm feelings or outright love for you for no reason of your own, but to support her? Am I correct there?
Posted by LegWarmers on February 26, 2006, at 9:22:25
In reply to Re: support, posted by Dr. Bob on February 26, 2006, at 3:08:17
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> > > And, to continue, whether warm feelings or outright love for me were involved?
> >
> > LOL Im sorry, but are you being serious?
> >
> > LegWarmers
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> I was...
>It just came accross, like a very.... odd request, that's all
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> No, I just wondered if Deneb was alone or if others could join her. Which might help her feel supported. Sorry about kind of shifting gears...
ah ok, makes sense now.
Posted by fallsfall on February 26, 2006, at 10:16:00
In reply to Re: reply to me, posted by Dr. Bob on February 24, 2006, at 4:10:08
I've been honored by your responses to my emails. In a way, I think that sending an email to you is like a "Jessica" test. That if you send back a response I feel like you at least see me as an individual in the sea of Babblers.
When we were talking about me helping with technical things on the site a couple of years ago, it was disappointing to me that you took so long to reply. Rationally I knew that it was because what you needed to say would take time to put together. But I wanted you to be as excited about it as I was. You did reply, eventually, but I think I was more interested than you were.
I'm very careful to only send you emails that I think are "important". Because I want you to be motivated to pay attention to them, and see me as a helpful Babbler.
It feels like there is sibling rivalry on Babble. And one way to score points is to get an email from you.
Thanks for asking.
Falls.
Posted by fallsfall on February 26, 2006, at 10:22:29
In reply to Re: support, posted by Dr. Bob on February 26, 2006, at 3:08:17
Shucks, And I thought you were interested in the group dynamics.
Well, if you do decide to be interested in it, I'd be happy to talk about it.
Posted by muffled on February 26, 2006, at 10:57:22
In reply to Re: support » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on February 26, 2006, at 6:37:57
> So, to be clear, you asked
>
> > > And, to continue, whether warm feelings or outright love for me were involved?
>
> Because you wanted to others to show her that others could join her in her feelings, and thus feel supported by other Babblers?
>
> Hmmm....
>
> So you want other Babblers to tell Deneb whether they've had warm feelings or outright love for you for no reason of your own, but to support her? Am I correct there?****Our Dr. Bob is behaving strangely. I'm still inclined to think its a game. Alot of shrinks do have serious problems of their own, thats what draws them in in the fist place. In my opinion if course. And him trying to select out a babbler for special attn. is VERY strange to me. VERY.
This whole thing is weird.
And all Bob says is one liners.
I feel he should explain just where it is he's comming from because honestly he has radically changed what he does in the last short while.
Hope he's not falling apart :-(
Well, he know where to come if he needs to talk HA!
Thats if he doesn't already under some name.......
Hmmmmmmmm........
Muffled
Posted by Dinah on February 26, 2006, at 11:19:43
In reply to Re: support » Dr. Bob, posted by fallsfall on February 26, 2006, at 10:22:29
That's how I feel too. Like it was unfair of him not to be upfront with his motivation.
I'd be happy to talk about that too.
But as far as the other, I don't think I can be much help.
Posted by Dinah on February 26, 2006, at 11:21:42
In reply to See, told ya..., posted by muffled on February 26, 2006, at 10:57:22
Maybe he's trying to be nicer and more real.
Poor guy can't win either way, can he. :)
(It was a sort of unnerving question if you don't think of it in a detached analytical way, wasn't it?)
Posted by muffled on February 26, 2006, at 11:24:54
In reply to Re: See, told ya... » muffled, posted by Dinah on February 26, 2006, at 11:21:42
if he would just explain himself.
We not utterly stupid people and we got a right to know.
Posted by 10derHeart on February 26, 2006, at 12:56:52
In reply to Re: See, told ya... » muffled, posted by Dinah on February 26, 2006, at 11:21:42
> Maybe he's trying to be nicer and more real.
cool. :-)
> Poor guy can't win either way, can he. :)You have an excellent point there. Somewhat goes with the territory though, I suppose, whether admin role, pdoc role....
> (It was a sort of unnerving question if you don't think of it in a detached analytical way, wasn't it?)
Yes! That's what part of my 'creepy' post meant. I tend to use that word in a very multi-purpose way, and I haven't felt like explaining myself. But as this thread has continued, I've been concerned it seemed like I was being contrary, or suspicious or cold or [really] overreacting...or some of all of the above... But that was it, something about the sense I got of something (?) underneath it did unnerve me. (DB, I'm not accusing you of anything. I truly have no clue, other than what you've now posted re: Deneb, why you asked that question when and how you asked it.)
I dunno. As muffled and LW have expressed, it just struck me as odd, and quite out of the blue.
Posted by Deneb on February 26, 2006, at 13:50:27
In reply to Re: support, posted by Dr. Bob on February 26, 2006, at 3:08:17
That's nice of Dr. Bob to want to make me feel less lonely and upset when he doesn't reply to my e-mails. I think he wants to help me stop e-mailing him so much.
Deneb
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