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Posted by stjames on February 21, 2003, at 17:08:11
In reply to Double speak » Dr. Bob, posted by Arthurgibson on February 21, 2003, at 15:11:08
LB in NYC was banned for thirty-two weeks for “putting someone down” even though he repeatedly wrote in the same piece that it was NOT his intention to “put (the other writer) down.”
For whatever reason you have chosen to ignore the facts here, as I have pointed them out to you before.
Lost boy was blocked so long, not for on incident, but many insidents. He also came back
while blocked under another name, so that added
more weeks to his block.
Posted by shar on February 21, 2003, at 22:05:28
In reply to THANK YOU for saying it and nicely too » ArthurGibson, posted by IsoM on February 21, 2003, at 14:43:12
What I dislike is the aim of shutting the boards down. There are, in fact, people who want these boards shut down--not improved, not modified, not more accepting of differences, not better about blocking people (or, I suppose, not blocking people), not dedicated more to open discussion of differences.
There are people who want these boards not to exist at all because in their view these boards are dangerous or harmful or too annoying or whatever. There are people who want disagreements reported to authorities with the hope of stopping what dr. bob is doing here.
That's what I have a problem with.
With respect to other things you said, I can only speak for myself, but I do not feel that people who disagree with dr. bob or his policies are:
>subversive.
>trying to break up something
>wrong or evil -
>out to get the "nice Dr, Bob".
>“unsafe”
>left-wing wackos
>“out to get” the rest of you
>out for each other’s throat.In fact, I disagree with the policies here at times and say so.
As a sort of aside, I'm not crazy about a bunch of assumptions being made about me because I do not dissent as much as others do at times, or about the same issues.
But, to be straightforward, the bottom line is, I believe that by and large these boards are run appropriately when considering the community as a whole. In fact, I think giving people (adults) a warning that their behavior is just this side of unacceptable is PLENTY generous, and if one can't restrain oneself from doing the same type of thing again, a block for a period of time is very mild.
And, if it happens again and again, and more and more time is added to the time away from the board, so be it. We are grown ups here, and should be able to express ourselves in a civil manner--even when annoyed or in disagreement with each other.
As for making known our disagreements with admin issues, I say, have at it! But, if someone's aim is to shut down this forum, I will always strongly express my disagreement with that idea, and try to be very clear about my position, and focused on that issue, and civil.
Shar
Posted by shar on February 21, 2003, at 22:08:18
In reply to Lou's response to Shar's post RE A. Gibson's post » shar, posted by Lou Pilder on February 21, 2003, at 15:03:17
Lou,
I don't really understand this post. And, I don't think it is a good idea to post over and over to the same person about the same or simmilar issues, so I won't respond to the rest of your posts to me on this thread.If you care to put all your points into one post, I will be happy to read it, and if I understand it, to reply.
Thanks,
Shar> Shar,
> You wrote, [...if you could provide additional details...].
> Another aspect to create constructive change would be so that a {Bill of Rights} be established here. I base this on the concept that [The majority rules, but they can not take away the rights of the minority].
> I propose that the following notice be posted on the opening page to this site and I believe that it could be of benifit to posters here in referrence to the subject discussed in this thread.
> DR. Bob's Amendments to the rules
> 1) your amendment here
> 2) your amendment here
> 3) your amendment here
> 4) and so forth...
> Now if people wrote in what their concerns are here, and wrote an amendment that they thought would be of benifit here, then please do so as a response to this post for further discussion. I would propose the following amendment.
> 1)All posters here have an equal opportunity to post and no poster will recieve favoritism from the administration in regards to established rules, such as using racist language in any part of their post.
> Lou
>
Posted by Dinah on February 22, 2003, at 4:18:15
In reply to Re: THANK YOU for saying it and nicely too » IsoM, posted by shar on February 21, 2003, at 22:05:28
I struggled this afternoon with saying the same thing and gave up.
Posted by Arthurgibson on February 22, 2003, at 5:02:09
In reply to Re: Blocks---and Please Be Civil policies, posted by Dr. Bob on February 21, 2003, at 11:37:40
This guy is spamming this thread yet you don't act. Why?
Posted by Arthurgibson on February 22, 2003, at 5:24:56
In reply to Re: Double speak, posted by stjames on February 21, 2003, at 17:08:11
I used to enjoy reading LB in NYC's posts. Like all New Yorkers he was somewhat brusk in his manner, but then that's how they all are in New York. That's one of the reasons that they overcame 911 without missing a step. We need people like that in our world.
He was not banned for coming back under a new name, although he did, and I don't blame him for doing so. He was banned for "putting down" another contributor whom he repeatedly told in the same post that he did not wish to "put down." For a New Yorker that's real polite.
Moreover 32 weeks was an insult to a valued contributor to the board, who doubtless helped others with his efforts to understand and overcome depression. We are the poorer as a virtual community for of his banning.
If "coming back under another name" merits a 32 week ban under your code of morality I wonder what punishment you would meet out to pickpockets in Saudi Arabia if you ruled as King. Presumably they would get their hands chopped off? Rather an extreme example I agree, but you see my point. The punishment does not fit the crime and that in itself is a wrongdoing.
Lou Pilder on the other hand is viciously spamming this thread and he is allowed to get away with it.
So now I suppose I’ll be given a two week ban for “putting down” Lou Pilder. Well I’ll be back in 14 days time to continue my efforts to assist those suffering from the depression that I have managed to overcome, urge a less repressive moderation policy on these boards and to oppose anyone who tries to make a mockery of what we are doing by spamming.
See you all on 9 March.
Posted by Arthurgibson on February 22, 2003, at 5:37:22
In reply to Lost Boy in New York City and others, posted by Arthurgibson on February 22, 2003, at 5:24:56
I used the wrong word in my last two posts. Lou is spamming, but more to the point he is "trolling." At least that's what we call it in the UK, I suppose it has the same name in the US.
Posted by Dinah on February 22, 2003, at 5:59:03
In reply to Lost Boy in New York City and others, posted by Arthurgibson on February 22, 2003, at 5:24:56
Arthur,
Posting again while blocked is an automatic doubling of the block period. It doesn't matter if you come on and say the sweetest things imaginable. Because registering under another name while you're blocked is akin to a payroll violation. It is a deliberate flouting the administrative decision. To do otherwise than respond would make the blocking process laughable.
As for the other, I could give you some links that provide some background, although I prefer not to stir all that up again. And I'd give them to you privately in an email, but attempting to speak kindly in an email was a large part of what caused that particular mess, and I prefer not to do so again. It would be a great kindness to me if you would quit reciting this particular incident over and over, since I found it a rather hurtful thing given the entire context of my relationship with the poster in question. You don't have to of course, I just wanted to let you know that the frequent references to the matter were causing me pain.
And it really is moot, since I assure you that posting while blocked really does double the blocking time.
Dinah
Posted by Lou Pilder on February 22, 2003, at 6:39:08
In reply to Re: Lou's response to Shar's post RE A. Gibson's post » Lou Pilder, posted by shar on February 21, 2003, at 22:08:18
Shar,
You wrote,[...I really don't understand this post...].
Could you clarify what it is that you do not understand about [this post]? If you could, then I could reply and possibly clear up anything that you do not understand.
You then wrote, [...I don't thonk it is a good idea to post over and over to the same poster about the same issues ...]
Could you clarify if [the same poster] is {yourself}? If it is, then could you clarify why it is not a [good idea] to {reply to you} about what you have requested me to do? I base this on what you wrote ,ie: [Lou, if you could provide additional details in response to my questions to your proposed solutions, and clarify...]...
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20030221/msgs/202511.html
Lou
Posted by NikkiT2 on February 22, 2003, at 7:00:31
In reply to Re: Double speak » Arthurgibson, posted by ~alii~ on February 21, 2003, at 16:51:48
have the board exist as it is, or shut down??
I know you might not value my opinion, just being a "clone", but I do believe every person has a right to an opinion, and a right to voice it.(and yes, I am offended by the fact I am only a clone of everyone else, going along with others opinions. This is NOT true. My opinion is based on my experiences, and my experiences alone.
OK, so Dr Bob isn't perfect, and at times he is a little too heavy handed. But, all in all, this is a pretty safe place to come. I have been using the internet for about 10 years now, and have been a member of many many boards. I am currently a memeber of 4 other boards that deal with mental health issues. This is the one I come to for help though, as I know I will be protected against vicious posts.
As one example.. a board I use that is for BPD sufferers... We recently had anew guy join.. we have few rules at this board, and he has been repeatedly rude and abusive to alot of us. But there is nothing that can be done, as we are "un-moderated". I am leaving the BPD board as I simply don;'t feel safe there anymore, even though I have been a memeber for 3 years.Atleast here you know you are safe. I have never recived an abusive email from anyone of this site (could be cos I don;t post my email addy though! *lol*), and when I have been abused, I have felt OK cos I know Dr Bob will deal with the abuser.
There are hundreds of boards out there dealing with Mental Health.. some less moderated, some more moderated. This, at the end of the day, is Dr Bobs site, and I;m sure anyone can find other places to go if this one doesn't meet your needs. If a pub I drunk in no longer met my needs I would simply change to go to another pub, I wouldn't insist on complaints being made to the owner.
I am willing to make a list of alternative sites to this if anyone would like them.
Nikki
Posted by JohnV on February 22, 2003, at 7:26:33
In reply to THANK YOU for saying it and nicely too » ArthurGibson, posted by IsoM on February 21, 2003, at 14:43:12
> I feel so strongly about this. I’m glad Arthur spoke up. I get upset that any one who criticizes Bob's policies is viewed as subversive. We're too often thought of as trying to break up something that (in their opinion) is working perfectly fine. Any dissident voices are thought of as somehow wrong or evil - out to get the "nice Dr, Bob". We’re thought of as somehow “unsafe”,
>
> I wish others could see that those who disagree with Bob's policies aren’t a bunch of left-wing wackos. We're very normal, nice, loving, helpful people too. We WANT these boards to work to the benefit of all - not just those who don’t complain or speak up about what they perceive as injustices. We don’t all have to agree all the >time on issues to get along, do we? And those of >us who do speak up aren’t “out to get” the rest >of you. Because you don’t see a problem doesn’t >mean there is none.
Wow..I am really surprised and even a bit impressed at the responses in this thread, and even if I may not agree with all of you, it shows people care. I too feel quite strongly about this topic. I'd like to honestly ask Dr. Bob if there is this much concern, is it not time that we can rethink different methods around blocks and 'civility'??There are many excellent alternatives to dispute resolution, and I think with the size and needs of this board and it's members, we need to look at alternatives. I am not fond of the "2 strikes you are out for a week; 3 strikes it's doubled.." etc. That's a hardline conservative justice approach, and as jails have proven, punishment is "not" the answer. Sorry for making it political, but it is a political situation. There are some (likely many) of us on here who are broke, likely have little or no family or friends, and this is one fo the few places we can come for some respite and support. Poverty, despair, and mental illness often go hand-in-hand. I'd like to think Dr. Bob, as a provider of human care and services above all else, will consider the egalitarian and empathetic nature of giving people on the board as many options as possible before blocking them.
I don't see any reason why alternatives can't be made in place of blocks. Not everybody on here comes from a nice home where all is spoken politely, from a nice middle-upper class. Please, I beg you, take some time to really think about these considerations Dr. Bob. We are not making "demands", but asking for sincere consideration to possible alternatives. Dr. Bob, you use (part) of a Nietzsche quote on the main page...so you must also recognize the phrase "Human-all-too-Human".
Thanks.
JohnV.
Posted by JohnV on February 22, 2003, at 7:35:59
In reply to Blocks---and Please Be Civil policies, posted by JohnV on February 19, 2003, at 7:28:14
OK, another idea. In order to "argue" and speak for their cases in a democratic fashion, I think blocked posters should still be able to post to this PBAdmin board. This would allow them the chance to have their arguments heard. This board seems to be somewhat the pivotal cornerstone of launching democratic right and freedom concerns. Any thoughts?
Posted by Lou Pilder on February 22, 2003, at 7:39:18
In reply to Lou Pilder » Dr. Bob, posted by Arthurgibson on February 22, 2003, at 5:02:09
AG,
You wrote, [...this guy is spamming this thread why do you not act...]. Your subject line reads,[Lou Pilder>>Dr. Bob]
Are you saying, then, that [this guy] is the same as [Lou Pilder]? If so, cou;d you clarify what [spamming this thread] means? If you could, then I could have a better idea of your post and be better able to respond accordingly.
Lou
Posted by Lou Pilder on February 22, 2003, at 7:46:58
In reply to Blocked posters be allowed to post on PBadmin??, posted by JohnV on February 22, 2003, at 7:35:59
John V,
You wrote, [...blocked posters should be able to post on admin....]. I agree , in principle, that one should be allowed to answer their accusers. You also wrote,[...any thoughts?...].
Another idea that I have would for there to be a [period of hearing]. This would be a , perhaps, 3-day period where the accused has a right to defend against the accusation before any expulsion is made to the poster. The posting would stop untill the issue is adjudicated. Sort of like a prliminary hearing with a Grand Jury.
Lou
Posted by Lou Pilder on February 22, 2003, at 7:50:27
In reply to Spamming - Trolling, posted by Arthurgibson on February 22, 2003, at 5:37:22
AG,
You wrote,[...Lou is spamming....he is "trolling"...]
Could you clarify ehat "trolling" means? If you could, then I could understand the meaning that you are giving the word and respond accordingly.
Lou
Posted by JohnV on February 22, 2003, at 8:04:50
In reply to Re: Lost Boy in New York City and others » Arthurgibson, posted by Dinah on February 22, 2003, at 5:59:03
> Arthur,
>
> Posting again while blocked is an automatic doubling of the block period. It doesn't matter if you come on and say the sweetest things imaginable. Because registering under another name while you're blocked is akin to a payroll violation. It is a deliberate flouting the administrative decision. To do otherwise than respond would make the blocking process laughable.
>
> As for the other, I could give you some links that provide some background, although I prefer not to stir all that up again. And I'd give them to you privately in an email, but attempting to speak kindly in an email was a large part of what caused that particular mess, and I prefer not to do so again. It would be a great kindness to me if you would quit reciting this particular incident over and over, since I found it a rather hurtful thing given the entire context of my relationship with the poster in question. You don't have to of course, I just wanted to let you know that the frequent references to the matter were causing me pain.
>
> And it really is moot, since I assure you that posting while blocked really does double the blocking time.
>
> DinahDinah,
I'd like to speak outside of any particular incident (forgive me..I don't mean to intrude) and to the fact that many on here are not happy with the blocking policy. I also would hope this policy is not "moot", as well as discussion on it. It is quite overwhelming actually. Some people are structural-functionalists, and love hard-set rules and regulations. To me, not questioning authority is just as dangerous as trying to constantly create anarchy. The "two strikes you are blocked a week; three two weeks; and then always doubled" seems like a cold and calculated policy to me. I and many others don't see everything in such simple black and white terms. (That is not an accusation or meant to be, but just an acknowledgement others tend to see more grey area on the matter.)
I have read past posts by Lost Boy, and there is little doubt some or many could be offended. What I think would be a true gift of this website, and add to it as a "rehabilitative" place on the web, is if somebody took time to seriously discuss what he feels is his concerns. In likelihood, I doubt many have done that in his life.(As with many other posters who might often post in anger.)
I have proposed some alternative treatments to blocking, and I'd love to hear yours and others. I "absolutely" do not want to see any harm come to this board, or see it shut down in any way. That is not my desire or part of my reasoning for bringing up ideas, period.
I would hope Dr. Bob would seriously consider our thoughts. I think then the therapeutic value of this board would rise considerably.
Thanks for listening. John (the "V" one:-)
Posted by JohnV on February 22, 2003, at 8:14:41
In reply to Would rather... - Arthur Alli, posted by NikkiT2 on February 22, 2003, at 7:00:31
> have the board exist as it is, or shut down??
>
> I know you might not value my opinion, just being a "clone", but I do believe every person has a right to an opinion, and a right to voice it.(and yes, I am offended by the fact I am only a clone of everyone else, going along with others opinions. This is NOT true. My opinion is based on my experiences, and my experiences alone.
>
> OK, so Dr Bob isn't perfect, and at times he is a little too heavy handed. But, all in all, this is a pretty safe place to come. I have been using the internet for about 10 years now, and have been a member of many many boards. I am currently a memeber of 4 other boards that deal with mental health issues. This is the one I come to for help though, as I know I will be protected against vicious posts.
> As one example.. a board I use that is for BPD sufferers... We recently had anew guy join.. we have few rules at this board, and he has been repeatedly rude and abusive to alot of us. But there is nothing that can be done, as we are "un-moderated". I am leaving the BPD board as I simply don;'t feel safe there anymore, even though I have been a memeber for 3 years.
>
> Atleast here you know you are safe. I have never recived an abusive email from anyone of this site (could be cos I don;t post my email addy though! *lol*), and when I have been abused, I have felt OK cos I know Dr Bob will deal with the abuser.
>
> There are hundreds of boards out there dealing with Mental Health.. some less moderated, some more moderated. This, at the end of the day, is Dr Bobs site, and I;m sure anyone can find other places to go if this one doesn't meet your needs. If a pub I drunk in no longer met my needs I would simply change to go to another pub, I wouldn't insist on complaints being made to the owner.
>
> I am willing to make a list of alternative sites to this if anyone would like them.
>
> Nikki
>
>Nikki,
I really don't understand the "love it or leave it" thing. I strongly believe there can be a compromise to make most happy and get as much as possible out of the board as possible. Why can't we have discussions about meeting "everyone's" needs? I'd like you, and the rest of us, to get the most out of this board as we can. That is my sincere reasoning. In honesty, John.
Posted by JohnV on February 22, 2003, at 8:19:14
In reply to Blocks---and Please Be Civil policies, posted by JohnV on February 19, 2003, at 7:28:14
Posted by NikkiT2 on February 22, 2003, at 8:35:29
In reply to Re: Would rather... » NikkiT2, posted by JohnV on February 22, 2003, at 8:14:41
I just think we should be pretty damned thankful that Dr Bob has put such a place on the net for us. I know I am.
Having run boards in the past myself, I knoiw when people constantly complain about it and the way you run, its get very disheartening. I would hate for Dr Bob to feel like that, when he is providing a service for us. Sure, he's doing his own research, but primarily, this place is here for us.
There are comments in this thread talking about closing this place down. It has been commented onbefore that people are going to complain to his "body" in order to get thisplace closed. That, in my opinion, would be a terrible thing to happen, and something I will fight against all the way.
I just don;t understand, if someone is being made so unhappy by this site being here, why they are here at all. Surely it is easier, if something is causing you alot of pain, to walk away and find somewhere else. The times I have been that upset here (by other posters, not by Dr Bob) I have simply walked away for a while, till I felt comfortable about returning. No one says "you have to be here"...
My point was simply, surely its better to have it here as it is, than for it to be closed down.
Nikki
Posted by NikkiT2 on February 22, 2003, at 9:04:23
In reply to Lou's respons to A. Gibson's post (B) » Arthurgibson, posted by Lou Pilder on February 22, 2003, at 7:50:27
I believe that it is felt you are trying to stir the waters here Lou.
You posted a series of posts, that could easily have been just one post, simply asking "for clarification".. I think it was seen that you weren't helping much. Please do try to keep your posts all in one.. the posts above from you were generally asking just one point, but you somehow managed to post the same thing, in slightly different terminology, over 4 or 5 posts.A troll (in internet language) is someone who tries to cause trouble, on purpose.
Please do not ask me for clarification, as I think I have explained myself perfectly well here.
Nikki
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 22, 2003, at 9:12:56
In reply to Re: Double speak » Arthurgibson, posted by ~alii~ on February 21, 2003, at 16:51:48
> I admire your ability to clearly state your opinions and I am happy to see a non-clone speaking up! ;)
It's fine to support Arthurgibson, but I don't consider it supportive of others to imply that they're clones, and I just asked you to be civil, so I'm going to block you from posting for a week.
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 22, 2003, at 9:15:50
In reply to Lost Boy in New York City and others, posted by Arthurgibson on February 22, 2003, at 5:24:56
> Lou Pilder on the other hand is viciously spamming this thread and he is allowed to get away with it.
>
> So now I suppose I’ll be given a two week ban for "putting down" Lou Pilder.Yes, that's how this works.
Bob
Posted by Lou Pilder on February 22, 2003, at 9:46:47
In reply to Re: Lou's respons to A. Gibson's post (B) » Lou Pilder, posted by NikkiT2 on February 22, 2003, at 9:04:23
NikkiT2,
You wrote,[...I believe that it is felt you are trying to {stir the waters} here Lou...]. I do not know what [you] mean by {stirring the waters}. If that means that I am trying to {cause trouble} here, then if {causing trouble } means to do any harm to this board, then I would contend that that would be a false accusation toward me.
The only thing that you wrote as to why you think others {feel} that I am trying to {stir the waters} is somehow associated with the [number of posts] that I posted. If the number of posts [{makes people here feel that I am {trying to stir the waters}],and you are associating {stirring the waters} with [causing trouble] then I think that is a false way to determine if someone is {trying to stir the waters}if that phrase is associated with {causing trouble}.
It is now, and has been and will be my intentions here to offer support and education. To ask for clarification is the standard way to {rule out} implications that could be inferred from another's post. It is actually giving a poster a venue to explian what they wrote so that no misinterptretations could be inferred.
I can not post evrything in one post because of my limitations caused by Bipolar Affective Disorder. I am not able to make long posts so I put them in a capsul that I can focus on. In my posts, I try to keep each point separate in order to allow focus and separation. If someone feels that because I post in short capsuls that that {causes trouble}, then could someone here referr me to some branch of psychiatry in a refference to a book or some other media so that I can study this alledged phenominum? If you could , then I could be better able to understand this concept, and how it {stirs up the waters} or [causes trouble]and deal with it accordingly.
Lou
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 22, 2003, at 10:02:33
In reply to Re: Would rather... » NikkiT2, posted by JohnV on February 22, 2003, at 8:14:41
> In order to "argue" and speak for their cases in a democratic fashion, I think blocked posters should still be able to post to this PBAdmin board. This would allow them the chance to have their arguments heard.
It would also allow them to continue to be uncivil. They can argue their cases with me by email while they're blocked and post again after that.
> The "two strikes you are blocked a week; three two weeks; and then always doubled" seems like a cold and calculated policy to me. I and many others don't see everything in such simple black and white terms.
Coldness is in the eye of the beholder, but some calculation definitely went into it. The "strike zone" isn't always black and white...
> What I think would be a true gift of this website, and add to it as a "rehabilitative" place on the web, is if somebody took time to seriously discuss what he feels is his concerns.
Rehabilitation is an admirable goal, but beyond the scope of this site.
> Why can't we have discussions about meeting "everyone's" needs?
We can discuss that, but what if some people need to express their anger and other people need to feel safe?
Bob
Posted by JohnV on February 22, 2003, at 12:21:16
In reply to Re: Would rather... » JohnV, posted by NikkiT2 on February 22, 2003, at 8:35:29
I agree Dr. Bob has done a wonderful thing by putting this board here, and the last thing I would ever want is it to be shut down. Why do you think that because some are asking for a review of policies that they want this place to close? We all contribute to the community, and discussion is a good thing.There may be others who have some agenda they want to fulfill and try to shut this place down, but I and many others love it here as much as anyone, and we also have our right to have our voices heard. We can't treat dissent and differences as something to smother out. What we can do is have civil discussions (like most are in the majority of this thread, with a few who have let their anger get the worst of them.) I view it as a progressive diplomatic exchange of ideas on serving interests of all community members.
All's I ask you is to consider what I am saying, and I will do the same of you. Thanks. John
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